1. Zhu Ziqing's father introduced Zhu Ziqing's father, whose name is Hongjun Zhu, was born in a scholarly family and was a typical temperament middleman. Because I admire Su Dongpo, I chose the word "Xiaopo" and called myself "Zhu Xiaopo".
In the early years, Hongjun Zhu worked as an official in Donghai, Gaoyou, Yangzhou and Xuzhou in Jiangsu, and finally became the director of tobacco and alcohol sales in Xuzhou, which was a lucrative job specializing in salt, tobacco and wine.
At that time, Zhujiajian was also a big family, and Hongjun Zhu was not sleepy in material life, so he got into the habit of spending money lavishly. Life is rich, and there is nothing to blame for this dude's style.
After the birth of Zhu Ziqing, the eldest son, Hongjun Zhu was very happy. He named the child Ziqing, which comes from Su Dongpo's meaning of "having a poetic soul in his belly". Hongjun Zhu has high hopes for Zhu Ziqing, hoping that he can honor his ancestors one day.
Therefore, since childhood, I have always been very precious to Zhu Ziqing and trained him very strictly. On the one hand, I try my best to ensure a worry-free life in caindy, Zhu Xiao, and at the same time, I have been very strict in studying and supervising caindy, Zhu Xiao. When Zhu Ziqing was a child, the imperial examination was abolished and new learning was just emerging. My father was very skeptical about the teaching methods and reading effect of the new school, so he sent him to a scholar or a juren to study China's ancient poems.
19 12 When Zhu Ziqing was fourteen years old, Hongjun Zhu betrothed him to Wu Zhongqian, the only daughter of a famous Yangzhou doctor.
Zhu Ziqing graduated from high school at the age of eighteen and just went to college, so he married Wu Zhongqian. The wedding was grand and respectable. However, at that time, Zhujiajian was not rich, and life was already stretched; In order to do a good job in his son's wedding, Hongjun Zhu did his best to shake the economic foundation of Zhujiajian.
19 16 Summer, Zhu Ziqing was admitted to Peking University Preparatory College. In the second year, Hongjun Zhu lost his job, and his extended family suddenly lost their financial resources, so they had to rely on debt to make a living, and their life was very difficult.
In order to reassure Zhu Ziqing about his studies, his father Hongjun Zhu told his family not to tell him. Smart Zhu Ziqing noticed it when he came home during the summer vacation. In order to reduce the burden on his family, he was admitted to Peking University in advance and entered the philosophy department. In order to reduce the burden on my family, I graduated from Peking University in advance, and after teaching in Zhejiang No.1 Normal School for a period of time, I returned to my alma mater Yangzhou No.8 Middle School.
2. Why did Zhu Ziqing quarrel with his father? However, the father and son, who were close to each other, quarreled completely because of a "trivial matter" during this time. From frugality to luxury, from luxury to frugality, Hongjun Zhu often feels powerless when he falls behind in his family, and the poverty of his life makes him embarrassed.
During Zhu Ziqing's tenure as academic director at his alma mater, his father, Hongjun Zhu, didn't say hello to Zhu Ziqing because he had a good personal relationship with the principal and was short of money, and took away his monthly salary without authorization. Zhu Ziqing, who accepted the influence of Protestantism, felt that this was his father's disrespect for himself and regarded himself as an accessory rather than an independent person, especially when Zhu Ziqing was married and had a small family to support.
At that time, Zhu Ziqing's life was extremely embarrassing. He borrowed money six times a month and rice once. The debt I had at school was not paid off until 1939. Yu Pingbo, a good friend, once said sadly, "Poverty at home and social pressure make him feel infinite hidden pain. Five years of teaching is his poorest five years. " This incident became the fuse of the contradiction between father and son.
Hongjun Zhu thinks it's natural for a father to spend his son's money. Even if it's inappropriate, there's nothing to care about. Of course, Zhu Ziqing also understands that as the eldest son, he has the responsibility to bear the family expenses, and then he can't accept that his father didn't regard him as an equal individual, or as a feudal autocratic parent tried to completely control him.
In the father-son friction conflict, the father's concubines were provoked again, which intensified the contradiction. Angry Zhu Ziqing left Yangzhou in a rage and went to teach in Ningbo and Wenzhou. Three months later, he left with his wife and children, completely out of the control of his parents. Since then, the father and son have lost harmony and broken contact.
3. The appearance of contradiction eased the contradiction between Zhu Ziqing and his father. On the surface, this is an economic problem. In essence, it is the collision and confrontation between the new concept of freedom and equality and the old feudal family ethics tradition. This is the dilemma that most intellectuals in China will fall into at the beginning of the 20th century. Some people, such as Lu Xun and Zhu An, show their resistance to the traditional marriage of "parents' orders and matchmakers' words".
After all, blood is thicker than water. Although Zhu Ziqing was angry, he also wanted to take the initiative to ease the contradiction with his father. 1922 during the summer vacation, he returned to his hometown in Yangzhou with his wife and children, but his father's anger did not disappear. At first, Zhu Ziqing's family refused to let him into the house, but later he gave in under the persuasion of his family, but he never paid attention to his son. Zhu Ziqing was bored at home and only stayed for a few days before leaving.
He went home the next summer vacation, but his relationship with his father still didn't improve. In the following years, Zhu Ziqing never went back. Father and son try to be brave and become strangers. He called it "the hatred of flesh and blood" in the article "Destruction".
It is often said that there is no overnight hatred between husband and wife; In fact, there is really no overnight feud between parents and children. His father Hongjun Zhu seems to be indifferent to Zhu Ziqing. In fact, his eldest son, who is wandering outside, has always been in his heart, but he just can't face his son's mistakes. He can only communicate with Zhu Ziqing in the name of taking care of his grandson.
After becoming a father, Zhu Ziqing began to realize the difficulty of being a parent and the painstaking efforts of his father. Zhu Ziqing said that he was "a completely selfish person. The husband has been reluctant, and the father is even more reluctant. " After his son was born, Zhu Ziqing was busy eating and drinking between Lazar. He said to himself from Aidit: "The children's torture is really helpless, and sometimes they think it is better to commit suicide."
If I don't have children, I don't know how grateful my parents are, and Zhu Ziqing, a father, really understands how much his father Hongjun Zhu loves me. 1925 10 When Zhu Ziqing was teaching at Peking University, he received a letter from his father that he hadn't seen for more than two years. The letter quoted his later prose: "I am in good health, but my arm hurts badly, so it is inconvenient to write, and the time for leaving is not far away." Zhu Ziqing suddenly felt that his father was really old, and it coincided with Zhu Ziqing's grandmother's death, so he had the opportunity to see his father again.
The birth of "The Back" made him feel that blood is thicker than water. He recalled that he left Nanking to study in Beijing eight years ago, and his father sent him to pukou railway station. He didn't leave, but wrote an immortal masterpiece "The Back".
This article first appeared in the 20th issue of Literature Weekly 1925, 165438 published on October 22nd, and was later included in the prose collection "Back" published by 1928 Ming Kai Bookstore. Unexpectedly, just three years after Zhu Ziqing wrote The Back, Hongjun Zhu, his 59-year-old father in his hometown, read this article in the newspaper.
According to Zhu Guohua, Zhu Ziqing's third brother, after his father got the article, he moved to the window, leaned back in a small chair, wore reading glasses and read his son's article "Back" word by word. His hands kept shaking, and his yellow eyes seemed to radiate brilliance ... After reading this article, Hongjun Zhu burst into tears and realized that his son Zhu Ziqing was actually full of love for himself.
However, due to the influence of old and new ideas in different times, there is a lack of effective communication between father and son, and the misunderstanding between them is completely lifted. Hongjun Zhu no longer blamed Zhu Ziqing's "unfilial", but also wrote to encourage him from time to time, asking Zhu Ziqing to work hard and not to worry too much about his hometown.
Zhu Ziqing/Kloc-left his father at the railway station at the age of 0/9, and wrote "I don't know when I will see him again" at the age of 30. In this long decade, not only Zhu Fu's introspection, but also Zhu Ziqing's self-growth and the joint efforts of both sides contributed to the reconciliation between father and son. If you are not fully accepted and embraced, you can't get real redemption and forgiveness.
1945, Hongjun Zhu died at the age of 76. Three years later, 50-year-old Zhu Ziqing also died in Beiping because of stomach perforation. What a tragedy it would be if the father and son did not break the ice without this "back", but died with hatred for each other!