Women learn something to improve their abilities. In life, many girls directly stay at home as housewives after marriage. Actually, this is not good. Women also need to improve themselves. Let me look at some information about women learning something to improve their abilities.

What do women learn to improve their abilities? 1No。 1 independent thinking ability.

Many people don't understand women, or only see the surface of the problem. The total shows that women should be financially independent. Yes, economic independence is very important, but this is an end, not a method.

The purpose of improving oneself is to achieve economic independence, but in order to better achieve economic independence and give full play to their abilities in work and life, women must first think about how to think independently.

What is the ability to think independently?

Because many goddesses are emotional animals, they are always insecure, so they are easily influenced by the environment and others and are easily emotional. Over time, they lost the ability to think and judge things independently, even if they follow the crowd, listening to the wind is rain. This is actually not good, and it will make many goddesses have no opinions and live very tired.

How to cultivate independent thinking ability?

1. Be objective

Actually, women are very smart. When talking about other people's affairs, you are often clear-headed, but when it comes to yourself, you are easily confused. This is a typical fan of the authorities. Therefore, I suggest that my fortune teller should be objective when encountering things, try to look out of his own environment to see himself, look at his current situation from the perspective of God, and then make a calm judgment, so that you will find that you have always had the ability to think independently. You can try several times if you don't believe me.

Continue reading

Read more books, read good books, there is always a way. Many goddesses told me that they don't like reading, and they get sleepy when they study. This is actually a psychological barrier. As long as you keep reading for 3-5 times, you will get into the habit of reading. In the future, I will share more about what books fortune tellers are suitable for reading and how to read efficiently.

Reading can really increase your knowledge and exercise your thinking ability. The more books you read, the stronger your independent thinking ability will be. Of course, it is better to stay away from the novels of love and poison chicken soup. Because these books will backfire and make you immersed in unrealistic dream love all day, or in various seemingly reasonable "road traps"

Learn to search

In fact, if you want to think independently, there is another small coup, that is, learn to search. Now that the Internet is so developed, many people have encountered problems on the Internet for a long time. Why not go and see what some experts say and what some experienced people do? Learn to arm yourself with the wisdom of others.

With the ability to think independently, you will find that when you encounter something, you are no longer as blind as before, and you are no longer flustered. This is the best ability.

Second field coping ability

According to legend, Du Fu, a man of the hour in Shanghai during the Republic of China, once had such a classic saying that life is "three bowls of noodles", with human feelings, feelings and scenes. It does make sense. In fact, not only women, but all people, as long as they survive in society, will always encounter various scenes. How to deal with various scenarios is an extreme test of emotional intelligence.

As the saying goes, Muxiu will be destroyed by Lin Feng. If you are too pushy, you will definitely be regarded as a thorn in others' side. But if you don't show it, you can't stand out, and no one can find your ability, let alone appreciate it. What should we do?

When should I show it? When should we converge? How to politely refuse? How to fight for it quietly? It's all about learning. There are some skills that may be a better way to deal with this situation.

1. Pay attention to etiquette

Psychologically speaking, politeness is very important when dealing with strangers. Everyone is not familiar with each other, so it is inevitable that they will be on guard. At this time, your politeness will weaken the defensive state of instinct and begin to release his goodwill. Therefore, when facing strangers, the balance of etiquette is very important. Pay attention to etiquette, but not too much, too much others will think you are artificial.

Listen carefully.

Everyone has a desire to talk, and everyone wants someone to listen to their thoughts. But many people don't have the ability to listen, or even listen to others. For example, some goddesses often gush on some occasions and look very capable. In fact, many people are beginning to hate you. Therefore, on more occasions, we should learn to listen to what others say, and then express our views appropriately at the right opportunity. You'd better get to the point and solve each other's problems. At this time, you will find that what you say is more effective than what others say.

Pay attention to observation

In terms of observation ability, some goddesses are absolutely eye-catching, while others are stupefied. This may be related to people's personality, which is hard to change, but no matter which one you are. Everyone should learn to observe each other's expressions, expressions and moods. Then, according to other people's different moods, control the scene and appropriately adjust the scene seven points. For example, avoid embarrassment, for example, avoid silence, for example, avoid conflict and so on.

Learn to praise

Many people don't like to praise others and feel hypocritical. Actually, it's not. Praise is not flattery. First of all, you should sincerely discover the advantages of others and identify with each other from the heart, so that your praise will be sincere. Secondly, we should balance the scale, praise appropriately and praise without trace. Praise others more, and there will be unexpected gains!

Learn to refuse

Whether in life or at work, it is a degree to learn how to refuse politely without hurting people. Divines and I share a "diplomat-level" refusal strategy, which is "killing". The specific method is "praise first, then refuse", and it is best to take the opportunity to praise each other or use the moral high ground to nail each other.

For example, many goddesses are beautiful and moving, and trotters are bound to have bad intentions. At this time, you can say, "Ah, thank you for your appreciation. You are so successful and outstanding. There must be a lot of beautiful women around you. If I had met you earlier, I would have been fascinated by you, but now that I am married (or I have a boyfriend now), my husband is still good to me. Last time he heard that I was cooperating with your company, he said that he would ask you for advice and learn from you. "

First affirm the other person's appreciation of you, and take the opportunity to praise you, then tell your own principles (reasons), and finally change the subject. This is one of the ways to refuse. Especially when the other party hears you mention your husband, his risk awareness and moral awareness will be improved instantly. At this time, he may not care about coveting your beauty, but thinking about how to deal with the scene and not let it continue.

Of course, there are many kinds of scenarios, and the' coping ability' of some scenarios can be clearly explained, which requires a lot of social experience, but these points are more critical, even if your emotional intelligence is not high, you should pay attention. As the saying goes, "those who get the word get the hall", and the hall is the scene.

Third job professional ability

If someone has outstanding professional ability at work, you will find that he is particularly confident. A confident woman is the most beautiful. Therefore, it is suggested that the mental arithmetic workers in the workplace must spend some time to improve their professional skills in their work, so that they can become excellent and confident in a certain major.

Because everyone's work is different, it is difficult to analyze it in a unified way, but there are several methods suitable for work that are universal.

1. Planning and overall planning ability after receiving instructions. Whether you are an employee, manager or boss, you will receive instructions from leaders and customers. For example, if a customer places an order for you and wants to order 100 refrigerators, you should plan every step and detail from ordering to delivery, such as ordering, payment method and delivery method. Let customers feel that you are very attentive and professional.

2. Ability to learn and work actively. In fact, all positions, whether you like it or not, have to do things. Instead of passively accepting them, it is better to take the initiative to find something to do. You will find that there is a great difference between initiative and passivity, which will make customers and leaders feel that you are very attentive and motivated.

3. The ability to summarize. When things are done, we should sum up and conclude whether they are done well or not. Only by summing up can we find problems and make better progress.

Fourth, self-maintenance ability

The goddess must be maintained. Women who can take care of themselves will be more attractive. Never be a self-care lazy woman. If you don't care about your own good things, what else will you care about? You don't care about yourself, and expect men to care about you?

1. Multi-sports

Sports games make people's figure and state better. Women who exercise regularly will show a kind of bodybuilding temperament and beauty from the inside out.

2. Maintain more.

The skin will relax a little with the degradation of metabolism, and water shortage will become more and more difficult to remedy. You will find the goddess who often takes care of beauty, and her skin is tender and shiny. Who doesn't want such a woman?

Cultivate lifelong hobbies

A good hobby will help fortune tellers improve their self-confidence and expand their social circle. Like drinking tea. Many people like tea, especially some goddesses, make tea and enjoy it in social occasions. At the same time, drinking tea is also good for body and mind. Therefore, we can learn more about tea knowledge and culture, which can not only cultivate our independent learning ability, but also cultivate our self-cultivation. Why not?

How can women improve their abilities? Are these four aspects of promotion helpful to you? For God, work and life are facing adjustment, and the ability of independent thinking, scene response, professional work and self-maintenance is very important. Action is better than action. As a goddess of the new era, the pressure is so great. Is there any reason not to be strong?

If you think the above four aspects of promotion are useful to you, please praise me. If you have any better ways to improve yourself, please leave a message at the bottom of the article and share your self-improvement methods with more goddesses!

What women learn to improve their ability II. Learn makeup etiquette.

Appearance is the embodiment of a person's personality charm, especially for female friends. If you are sloppy, no matter how competent you are, men won't look at you again. As women in the new era, we should know how to make up and make up lightly. If you used to be a sloppy woman, please correct it.

Learn to socialize

"One year in the baby's brain for three years", many female friends often feel uncomfortable when they leave home to work in the society, and they can't get along with anyone except their own family. However, such problems can still be improved. You can deal with people around you, talk about other things, adapt yourself to the outside world, and don't always think about taking care of children.

Learn to raise children.

Female friends might as well learn how to raise children. There is a great market demand in this industry, and parenting skills will never be wasted. Even if you can't find a related job, you can take better care of your baby. Parenting work includes early childhood education, Chinese New Year and so on.

learn to cook

Cooking can reflect a woman's charm. If you can cook a good dish, your husband will naturally be reluctant to leave you. Grasping a man's stomach is equivalent to grasping a man's heart. That's the truth. Now many cities can sign up for cooking classes, so you might as well spend money to learn a few tricks to enhance your feminine charm.

Learn from some shop assistants.

Many women usually have to take care of their children and go to work (economic pressure is increasing), so we must pay attention to choosing a good job and suggest to be a clerk. This kind of work is relatively easy, only need to attend daily classes, and have energy to take care of children after work.

Learn to manage everything.

What should women learn? What skills should women learn? The skills that women must learn include management knowledge, how to manage their own home, how to manage their own work and how to discipline their children. We should know what to manage and what not to manage. Only in this way can I become an excellent woman.

What do women learn to improve their abilities? After marriage, I became a housewife.

After my husband and I got married, we had a daughter the next year. Husband said that his mother was in poor health and could not let her take care of the children. I quit my job and became a housewife. My mother gave me her retirement salary, and she said it was enough for her and my father to spend one person's retirement salary.

When I became a housewife, I thought it was not easy for my husband to earn money alone, and I didn't want my mother's money in my heart, so I was very frugal.

But my husband is a person who works outside the home, so dressing can't be too economical. My daughter is a sweetheart. If I can't save money on her, I have to save it on me. Always reluctant to eat and wear, want to save more money. When children grow up, there are more places to spend money!

When my daughter was half a year old, her husband said that she was going to learn to drive. I wanted to save money at that time, but I didn't quite agree. But my husband is very unhappy and angry with me every day. Finally, I can only agree.

After my husband took the driver's license test, I said that I also wanted to take the driver's license test, and my husband was very opposed. He said that one person in the family can drive, so it is not necessary to learn to drive. After listening to his words, I really didn't learn to drive. Considering that it costs thousands of dollars to get a driver's license, I feel very sorry for the money.

My husband has gone to various training courses and is constantly studying.

My husband graduated from a vocational school. He wanted to improve his education, so he went to various training courses. I appreciate his self-motivation, but the cost of those trainings is very arduous. He studies this and that, and his salary is spent on this. The expenses at home depend entirely on my mother's retirement salary.

But when I want to learn something, I have no money; Secondly, I have to take care of the children and have no time; Third, he is very opposed. He said that as long as I take care of my family affairs honestly, he will work hard for his career. After he gets all kinds of certificates, he can find a well-paid job.

I have been married to him for 8 years. During these eight years, all the money he earned was spent on himself. He keeps improving himself. I was proud of him at that time! I think he is self-motivated and will definitely make great achievements in the future.

Later, he went to work in a foreign company. In just one year, his position was promoted three times and his monthly salary rose to 20 thousand. At this time, he asked me for a divorce. He said I was not good enough for him, and I couldn't even drive, let alone anything else.

After the divorce, I finally understood that women must improve themselves.

At this time, I was really dumbfounded. I never dreamed that he would be like this, but he insisted on divorce and went to court to sue. When the court decides to divorce, the property is half to one person and the children are mine. He pays 2000 yuan a month for maintenance, and the rest seems fair.

But what about the card he took? When I brought this up in court, others thought I was not enterprising. He passed the exam on his own, and I am not qualified to question it.

Everyone saw the property I took in my marriage, but I felt particularly hurt and wronged when he took money for textual research in his marriage and others couldn't see the money. After the divorce, I also began to pay attention to self-growth, and I will never do that stupid thing to fulfill others again.

Later, I remarried. Newly married, my husband and I were promoted together. I don't need him to sacrifice anything for me and I don't sacrifice anything for him. Husband and wife grew up together, achieved each other and tolerated each other, so the second marriage was very happy.

Conclusion:

In marriage, those particularly virtuous women are particularly vulnerable when they meet selfish love rat. Women are themselves first, then other identities, so women must be themselves and safeguard their own interests before they can play other roles.

If a woman is the housewife of her children, she must try to control the financial power of the family. Men are self-motivated, which is a good thing and should be achieved, but everything is conditional. Women can't always achieve men, but they should also achieve themselves and improve their abilities.

It's no big deal to get up after falling. But women must have a strong heart and constantly improve their abilities in order to cope with the storms of life.