In Do You Know, the heroine Sheng played by Zhao is an out-and-out winner in life.
After marrying Gu, she not only became a royal wife, but also defeated the kind mother-in-law Xiaoqin and the annoying Kang Wang, and loved Gu as always. In the original book, Sheng gave birth to four sons, and Gu lived a carefree life.
Sheng is also a typical example of turning a bad hand into a king's play.
Sheng's background is not very good, just the illegitimate daughter of a small official. Her father is very eccentric and doesn't care enough about her daughter Sheng Minglan. The biological mother Wei Xiaoniang died young, and the biological mother Wang Ruofu didn't care. In order to survive, Sheng Minglan had to restrain his sharpness, dare not be top-notch everywhere, and live carefully. Fortunately, she met an important person in her life, that is, her grandmother, Mrs. Sheng.
As the saying goes, if there is an old man at home, there is a treasure, and the old lady is definitely a treasure at home. She carefully taught Sheng Ji, an illegitimate child, helped him plan his career and marriage, and gave the Sheng family a reliable master. She has a unique vision and has repeatedly reminded Shengwa and Mrs. Wang to stop them from doing anything wrong. She was kind and brought up Sheng Hualan, Sheng Changbai and Sheng Minglan. These three grandchildren are very promising and have a good personality.
In Do You Know, Sheng is the old lady's favorite child. Mrs. Sheng has enriched from four aspects, making a helpless ordinary girl who lost her mother as a child a winner in life. Today, these methods are still very effective and worth learning by parents.
In ancient times, I don't know how many girls were poisoned by this sentence. The reason why the ancients said that women's reading was useless was actually to prevent women from reading too much, which was not conducive to their hegemony. However, in modern times, many parents still hold the idea that women are useless in reading. In their view, the daughter belongs to someone else's house sooner or later, and it is not cost-effective to spend too much money on reading.
Old lady Sheng thinks that girls should be literate and educated:
In order to make all the girls in the family understand, Mrs. Sheng and Mrs. Sheng have spent a lot of time. When Zhuang pedant is in class, Sheng Jia's daughter is also in class; In order to cultivate girls' manners, Mrs. Sheng invited Mother Kong to teach them.
Sheng agrees that women should learn and understand. When she became the mistress of the family, in order to fulfill her responsibilities as a first-time mother, she personally came to the Zheng family to intercede, and invited the best lady for Sister Rong to learn and understand.
Supporting daughters to study, letting them learn the truth from books, and letting them learn the skills of survival are the essential ways to make their daughters rich. Learning knowledge is endless. It is never too old to learn, so we should lay a good foundation from childhood.
ChengChangFeng because can't control his mouth, just outside talking about opening a shop, provoked the housekeeper unhappy. So they were detained, and Wang Ruofu and Lin of unknown so panicked and made a big mistake, which made them very disappointed and deprived them of the right to be housekeepers.
So, who is in charge of the huge Sheng family? Mrs. Sheng pushed Sheng out so that she could learn to be a housekeeper. She not only manages the accounts, but also manages the family.
Housekeeping is a necessary ability for women.
Money plays an irreplaceable role in a person's life. Managing money well is the premise of living a good life. When a woman is single, you should arrange your income reasonably so as not to make ends meet and live by borrowing money or parents' help; After marriage, you should arrange your family's income and expenditure reasonably, handle the details of mortgage, living expenses and children's education expenses, and know how to save money for a rainy day. If a woman can't be a housekeeper, even if a man is willing to give you a salary card, you don't have the ability to manage a good marriage.
Under the careful training of Mrs. Sheng, Sheng not only learned to look at accounts, learn to settle accounts, learn to arrange expenses, but also learned to manage servants. When she married into Houfu, the success of the housekeeper came in handy, which not only convinced the servants, but also made the hostile Xiaoqin family helpless.
Under Gu's calculation, the "indefensible" Sheng family had to marry Sheng to him. After agreeing to this marriage, Mrs. Sheng began to prepare a dowry for Sheng.
Sheng was very moved to hear that grandma had prepared so many dowries. In ancient times, women had no right to go out and find jobs to make money. Therefore, there are only two ways for women to spend money, either from their husbands or in-laws, or from their own dowry. The reason why the ancients prepared such a dowry for their daughters was to make women feel at ease at their in-laws' home.
Nowadays, with the development of gender equality, women also have the opportunity to work. At this time, the concept that women should have money in their hands has also kept pace with the times. At any time, women should make efforts to support themselves and manage their money.
If a woman has money in her hand, she doesn't have to look at the man's face, she doesn't have to be constrained everywhere because she has no money, and she doesn't have to look at her husband's face because of economic reasons. In case the marriage really changes and women have money, they will have a good retreat.
On the eve of Sheng's wedding, her grandmother told her the list of dowry and the main points of running a marriage. Among them, I like the old lady's sentence best:
Gu's concern for Sheng is obvious, but the old lady still asks Sheng not to rely too much on Gu, but to rely on herself.
Mrs. Sheng's words reminded women that no matter how much a man loves you, you can't rely on him too much. The so-called excessive dependence means that you can't live without him. For example, you don't have your own life, and you revolve around men all day; You don't know how to deal with the relationship with your husband's family. Everything depends on men to get rid of it. You don't know how to handle your own affairs, which breaks a man's heart.
When a woman marries, she wants to manage her future life with a man. If a woman wants to live a good life, she should not only find a suitable person to marry, but also be reliable.
Parents should not only provide their daughters with necessary living conditions, but also cultivate their independent skills and teach them how to run their own marriages well.
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