Last autumn, when I was exercising in the park, my brother called me to his house.

When I arrived at the store, my brother said that my sister-in-law bought half a stewed chicken and invited me to have lunch together.

Just a little thirsty. Touch the water cooler. I'm hesitating whether to drink it directly or heat it.

Brother said sister-in-law had porridge, so let's have some rice soup.

I said yes, just as my sister-in-law came out with a health pot and put it on the table.

I poured half a bowl, but I don't remember whether I drank it or not. My sister-in-law said unhappily, you are too selfish. Drink it yourself, and no one else will have it.

Frankly speaking, I was particularly surprised.

First, I didn't pour out all the rice soup; Second, I'm thirsty. I drink some rice soup and wear such a big hat.

What happened? !

After the pause, try to stay calm.

I said, sister-in-law, how can you be selfish when drinking rice soup? I think you need love too much.

Before the Spring Festival, when I came back from Shanghai, there were too many trips to luggage belt. The point is that I can't sleep in the car.

Before leaving, all kinds of trivial things and packing things are already very tired.

Closest distance from home. I took a bus from Jiamusi to Fujin, which happened to be the birthday of Sister-in-law Tianwang. We didn't get home after getting off the bus, so my brother took us to the hotel first.

It's sad to come back from other places and not see my mother. Then, I wish my stepmother a happy birthday.

It's so twisted.

Keep adjusting yourself.

There are two rooms in my father's house. My daughter and sister-in-law and I share a bed.

Especially tired at night, go to bed early.

Less than half an hour after falling asleep, my sister-in-law came back from outside, rang the doorbell and woke up.

If they just take a bath and go to bed immediately, I'll be fine. I am really, really tired.

However, my sister-in-law must wait until her usual rest time, around 22 o'clock.

My brother is also chatting with Wang Yi. Although everyone paid attention and lowered their voices and footsteps, I couldn't sleep at all.

Super uncomfortable, lying in bed, two hours passed, and I fell asleep.

I had to turn over and fall into insomnia.

The next day, my sister-in-law went out on business. Dad and Wang Yi went shopping and came back to prepare jiaozi.

After being extremely tired, I really feel uncomfortable, irritable and weak.

As a result, in the kitchen, Wang Yi quarreled with her father.

Many people kiss babies to feed them.

I feel that the old man is very upset that he didn't help.

On the third day, although I was still very tired, I was anxious to go out and look for a house. In cold weather, I walked outside for three or four hours, and I was exhausted.

On the fourth day, I went back to my mother-in-law's house. When I got to the place, after a while, I felt tired and fell asleep on the kang.

As a result, my mother-in-law was so noisy and angry that she didn't give me an attitude of never giving up until I blew it up.

I'm really going to collapse. I feel like I'm going to faint at any moment.

What shall we do? Get up slowly, wash our hands, and pack jiaozi with everyone.

Fatigue, fatigue, fatigue-there is no quiet place to sleep and rest.

It is precisely because I understand my mother-in-law's temper that I am anxious to rent a house and want to have a rest and come back in a few days during the Spring Festival.

Wang Yi's life is also ups and downs, and he has suffered a lot.

The two main topics of ordinary chat are: one is because many magical things have happened since I met my father, and the other is the "past" that I can't get over.

And that day, I went to several grocery stores. I was seventy years old and very tired.

But in fact, I know that she cares more about being a wife's child and being "good" to her.

Longing for care and love requires seeing is believing and being proved, especially such a relatively sensitive relationship.

Is there a problem? Don't!

As for my mother-in-law, saving face is far better than life. What she cares about is not whether I have brought jiaozi or done housework, but that I have lost the capital to show off.

Throughout the Spring Festival, my mother-in-law regarded me as a thorn in my side and lost her temper anytime and anywhere.

Can you say she shouldn't? Is she demanding?

Including my sister-in-law, if I say this alone, maybe she will be labeled with various negative labels.

In fact, my sister-in-law is very responsible, careful, considerate, caring and not stingy with money at all.

And every time I eat at their house, my sister-in-law cooks with special care.

In their eyes, I am willful, selfish and ignorant.

What do I really feel?

Drink rice soup when you are thirsty and face such criticism.

When my whole person has overdrawn to the limit, and then-get this treatment? !

I just need to sleep and have a good rest!

Actually, it's so hard! ! !

I spent the whole Spring Festival in deep depression, exclusion, demand, even persecution and deep denial.

Not without a job. After lunch on New Year's Eve, I washed dishes, pots and pans and cleaned the kitchen alone. I was too tired to keep my back straight for more than two hours.

Besides, I wash dishes after almost every meal.

But I failed to meet my mother-in-law's expectations and standards, and I was still "too lazy". In addition to repeatedly expressing it on my husband, I got a little understanding. Nobody cares-my physical condition, how tired I am, how seriously I overdraw, and how much rest I need.

I am a spiritual teacher. I have finished self-healing and practiced self-education for many years.

In this case, wringing, injury and anger sometimes still appear.

I am grateful for my "selfishness" and my courage. I have not fallen because I am afraid of anyone's dissatisfaction and unhappiness.

I have been trying to find a balance, but I really can't find the time. First of all, I should take protecting myself as the bottom line, and at the same time, I should try my best to cooperate patiently.

For a long time, I slowly recovered and returned to normal health.

When we are trapped in a sense of want, whether we are used to receiving or taking; Still adapted to the commitment and dedication, the subconscious level is-longing, yearning-love and acceptance of others (inner mother) and the world (inner father).

Usually the criticism of "selfishness" really means everyone's original needs and anger: why don't you love me? Why don't you care about me, don't care, don't satisfy me? Why don't you understand me and me? Why don't you trust me and respect me?

It's just a presentation of the internal relationship model with parents.

I sincerely hope that as far as I can see, more people have the courage to be selfish (love).

In this way, you will not fall off the "victim" complex and fall into an endless cycle of unconscious expectation and resentment.

When people cross and project each other, it becomes the natural flow of primitive love-the world is heaven.

Introduction to Su Xinzhu:

1977, he is a successful practitioner and promoter of self-counseling and physical and mental health treatment. I like to be quiet, read books and walk into the natural environment of mountains and rivers. Have a strong curiosity, desire to explore and passion for life. Enjoy the fun of daily work and life very much.

In the deepest love and richness, walk and warm the world.