With the development of society, you have to buy a house and a car when you get married. Now it takes half a lifetime to buy a house [cover your face] [cover your face], get married with three gold, hold a banquet, bride price, etc., and get married with hundreds of thousands. Do you feel stressed?
If you have a child, you have to buy milk powder, and the diaper is not wet. That's it, and it costs money.
When the children grow up, they start to go to the Moon Garden again, which costs tens of thousands of dollars a year. When they go to primary school and college, they will spend a lot of money. I can't even think about this money.
With the development of society, house prices and prices have risen a lot, and the money earned is not enough. Year after year, day after day, finally, all the money in hand is empty. Back home, that so-and-so bought a house and several sets of condoms, that so-and-so bought a car, that so-and-so bought a facade room, and that so-and-so .......... was under great pressure. I'm not married these days. .....
In a word, with the development of society, the pressure is great, and everything must be compared, so young people are under great pressure now. [Ross] [Ross]
Because young people are now highly competitive in their jobs, they will be brushed off if they don't work hard. If they have a family, in addition to the children's fixed expenses, they also have to spend the living expenses at home, not to mention the children's illness, fever and cold, and they have to give gifts to their parents all the year round. Now I take care of my children at home full-time and can't go to work. The baby's father's salary is only enough for one person. We moved in with our mother-in-law and the elderly.
First of all, the problem of the house. House prices are high now. It costs hundreds of thousands to buy a suite casually, not counting decoration. For young people, there is only mortgage. If you spend less every month, you must pay the mortgage. Or the bank will come to you. Secondly, there is work. As we all know, if there is no other source of income, the salary at work is basically the only income, and the position with high salary in the company is not an iron rice bowl for anyone. Many people are peeping and trying their best to seek power and usurp the throne. Even an ordinary post can't guarantee that the leader will let you leave class, and the work pressure is great.
In addition, young people nowadays like to follow the trend and want to buy a car of their own. Although the car is not very expensive now, a slightly decent car costs 100 thousand to 80 thousand. If you have a car, you have to keep it. One year's insurance, maintenance, car repair, gas money and parking fees are not small expenses.
If you are unmarried, you need to buy a house and a car. It is hard to find a wife without a house. Married children also need to spend money to go to school. Raising a child now is equivalent to raising a father, and it costs money everywhere. There are old people to support at home. If you get well, you will pay for it. Once you get sick, it costs money to see a doctor. Even if there is a medical insurance card to reimburse you, the rest can't be reimbursed. You have to pay for it yourself. Finally, family expenses, a family's life for a year, including eating and drinking Lazar, water, electricity and so on, are by no means a small sum. In addition, relatives and friends invite you for a happy event. You have to go. Even if you can't go, the ceremony will follow. Ordinary friends can't get less than 200, and relatives and friends who have relationships will get more. This block will be gone in a year.
In short, it is an indisputable fact that the pressure on young people nowadays is really too great. That's all for today, thank you!
Everyone will have more or less pressure in life, because things such as study, work and interpersonal relationship are beyond their ability, which leads to psychological obstacles. If these pressures can't be relieved well, they will accumulate in the heart for a long time, which will easily make people feel depressed, depressed and depressed. When the pressure is unbearable, it will break out, and people will become anxious and collapse, causing mental illness. When you are stressed, you might as well get together with some friends and have a few bottles. When you're drunk, you don't care too much. If you have any troubles, you will naturally put them aside and the whole person will become relaxed. We can relieve stress by singing, shout out the accumulated grievances in our hearts, or find an uninhabited hillside or seaside, and the effect of shouting loudly is also very good. Some stress may come from interpersonal relationships or pressure from superiors, so exercise is needed to relieve it, such as punching sandbags, wrestling and boxing. And it will be much more comfortable to vent! If the stress is due to study or work fatigue and can't keep up with the rhythm, it is suggested that you can try extreme sports that you dare not do at ordinary times, such as skydiving, bungee jumping, skiing and other exciting sports. When you are in a state of high tension, you will feel extremely relaxed. Whether it is psychological or mental stress, you can take a vacation to relax yourself and not think about those troubles. Maybe you will gain a lot after a trip, and many things will be solved.
Why do young people nowadays generally feel stressed? A very important reason is that with the modern internet, we can see the present situation of the whole society and the people of all ages, classes and occupations. Compare with specific data. And I saw too many benefits beckoning, but I never achieved them.
For the factors that can bring pressure to the masses, the media always spare no effort to add fuel to the flames and fan the flames.
Let's first analyze the reasons according to the objective situation.
The last batch of post-90s children are already legally fully criminally responsible.
As the main force to speak for the "young people" group, the post-90 s really grew up. The world of adults is different from that of children. Without guardians, we need to participate in the rules of the game in this society.
The objective factors that cause adolescent anxiety are:
0 1 physical condition landslide
Zhihu is a hobby of the post-90s generation, and his health can't keep up with the speed of sudden death. Of course, after the 1980s and 1970s, there was no strength to cry.
After the age of 20, both men and women began to lose collagen as a whole. After the age of 25, it will soon be gone. Many young women begin to have endocrine disorders and hormonal imbalances. If you don't exercise, you will find it more and more difficult to keep fit. Even anxiety, insomnia and depression have come to you.
Some young people who indulge in debauchery even shout that their bodies have been "hollowed out". According to the survey of psychologists, 86.3% of college students feel anxious in today's society.
Although social resources are abundant now, the competition is extremely fierce. The pressure of housing prices and employment makes it impossible for young people to be so chic even when they go to college. They know that house prices are rising, rising to the salary they get after graduation, and they can only buy a bathroom within the Fifth Ring Road for several years.
The cost of falling in love and getting married becomes higher.
The first batch of online rumors divorced after 90, the first batch derailed after 90, and the first batch became a monk after 90 ... This negative topic has already seen fatigue. Parents urging marriage, forcing marriage, classmates and neighbors getting married and having children are all causes of stress. Unless your heart is dying.
But as a healthy young man, even if he loses interest in marriage, he must have a desire for love. Besides, most people still have expectations for marriage.
In the era of smart phones, all kinds of social software are prevalent, and sexual resources are not scarce resources. It seems that a beautiful love takes more time and energy than finding another "fast food love", so the belief in love quietly collapses in many people. This kind of collapse makes people doubt the meaning of life, thus further feeling the pressure from other aspects.
It's different from my parents' time. Now the divorce rate of married young people is really getting higher and higher. Divorced and unmarried people are relatively stable, and they are busy with their children's remedial classes and school districts. Fight for children and contribute to them. And after 00, like new snow, like spring flowers, striding into this era, the walking youth hormones will get wind and rain.
Young people born after 1980s and 1990s feel the danger of being shot on the beach. This is the competitive pressure.
Workplace: a class that struggles to be bald and cannot be crossed.
Excellent people and mediocre people seem to be born doomed. Some people earn millions a year, which firmly dominates a huge part of social resources. Some people work hard and work overtime. Efforts to improve the charging, there is still no hope.
Coupled with new entertainment-oriented media such as Tik Tok, young people after 00 can use the Internet to earn 654.38 million yuan a month. As Liang Wendao said, the post-90s generation, once labeled as rebellious and conceited, always thought they could fly, but now they find themselves on the ground all the time.
Try to get some qualification certificates, but it doesn't seem to be of much use except for the anxiety of the exam. It seems that the essential competitiveness has not improved much. Job-hopping is the same as jumping around, both of which are crowded out from top to bottom.
Some young writers and artists are a little Buddhist and study with self-cultivation, but they can't always be used in practical work. They can only eat instant noodles if they can't earn money, and they can succeed if they work hard. This is almost a lie.
In fact, the pressure of the whole society has also made young people only achieve superficial Buddhism, but their hearts are still turbulent.
Jung, a master of psychology, believes that middle age is "middle age" after the age of 35 to 55. The anxiety that should have been borne by middle-aged people is now almost borne by young people.
Although the social rhythm has become faster, there are difficulties in marriage and career. This is an objective reason. What about subjectivity?
In fact, all anxiety is ultimately the product of subjective and objective environment. There is a saying that all dissatisfaction stems from the mismatch between ability and ambition. Ok, so is it positive to consider your ambition?
Anxiety is an effective early warning of psychological function to the overall imbalance of the body. When you feel it, don't try to avoid it, but face it and talk to it.
We want a happy family with children. I want my children to go to an aristocratic school and be a bilingual foreign teacher. I want my career to go smoothly and upgrade all the way.
There are anxiety about age, knowledge, resource allocation, children's future education and old-age care. It can be said that many young people are far less worried about real problems than their fears.
In this case, we only see the disadvantages and contradictions. It seems that we have to live in struggle all our lives and have forgotten to be ourselves.
Today, with the opening of internet resources, it is really an era where pressure is easy to breed everywhere, but we must see that the threshold for acquiring knowledge is almost zero. If you work hard for a long time, you still don't feel progress. Calm down and imagine your own direction and path. Actively adjust, make more effective plans, stride forward, and complete one by one. You will find that hard work will change your destiny. This sentence is not a lie.
We can make ourselves in the best times through our own efforts under the guidance of the correct methods. In addition to pressure, young people should fully enjoy all kinds of touches brought by life and understand and practice the meaning of struggle.
Because of the high cost of living and fierce competition in all walks of life, it is difficult for most industries to make money. Many young people make ends meet. Although they don't want to believe it, it's true. Many people rely on credit cards to borrow money and rob Peter to pay Paul. Young people themselves have to face the responsibility of taking care of children and the elderly, so they need to earn money desperately to support their families. For the ordinary working class, although the job is stable, the income is low. Only young people with family background, stable and high-paying jobs or successful entrepreneurship have less pressure, so young people should work hard, use their brains and increase their income in a way that suits them. When their income is high, the pressure will be less.
Young people nowadays must be under great pressure! If you get married, you don't have to pay a high bride price. It depends on your ability to make money. It depends on whether there is a house to work there. Now, only children and two old people have to take care of you. Is it stressful?
Young people living in this era are really under great pressure, mainly for the following reasons. On the one hand, most of today's young people are only children, and now the aging population is intensifying, and they will face a heavy burden in the future; On the other hand, in this era of high housing prices, the pressure on young people to buy a house can be imagined; In addition, the pressure of job competition is not small; On the other hand, now is the era of high consumption, young people get married and have children, especially children's education costs are also very expensive. In short, for various reasons, young people nowadays are under a lot of pressure.
Many people are only children, old people from two families and two children. Now I meet a married wife who doesn't want to go out to work. House price, bride price, dowry, working atmosphere, interpersonal relationship. . . What kind of pursuit, there is great pressure.
Because housing conditions are getting better now, housing prices are more expensive, and living standards are soaring, which obviously makes people feel unable to make ends meet, leading to mental fatigue.