Treat people the same way, there is no gap in the space of solitude, and this kind of "gregarious" brings boredom that gradually comes to mind.
Fading away from the prosperity of the city and returning to inner peace requires solitude, but it is difficult for young people stationed in the city to get this solitude. Perhaps only when you retire can you feel the inner peace.
Old people who have just retired may be very uncomfortable at first, because without the familiar workplace, work and social circle, the sense of gap in their hearts is indescribable.
But in fact, "retirement does not mean saying goodbye to the world or society. This is just the beginning of your new life, because you will learn to be alone and enjoy another kind of quiet happiness. "
An 86-year-old grandmother gave a piece of advice to retirees: retirement is not terrible. The terrible thing is that you are still imprisoning yourself with your past experience and thinking. If you want to make your retirement interesting, the first thing you need to pay attention to is "Don't force yourself to integrate!"
For retired people, there are more and more leisure time and more meaningless communication. Perhaps because they had nothing to do, they chose to kill time and were forced to get along with others. They invited two or three retired people in a park to chat a little gossip and brush their mobile phones, and the day passed like this.
My 86-year-old grandmother used to be such a retired person. Suddenly, she doesn't have to work overtime, take care of the children, and work hard for her family and career. Her free time is getting more and more every day, and it seems that she has become an "unemployed person" overnight, at a loss and at a loss.
The emptiness brought by retirement at that time made grandma unable to adapt. While trying to fill the emptiness in her heart, she kept engaging in meaningless social activities, trying to fill the emptiness in her heart.
Sitting in an air-conditioned supermarket or park with other old ladies for a day, I was forced to gossip, distinguish right from wrong and repeat the state of most retired people.
To tell the truth, my grandmother was not happy during that time. It was not until a long time later that she suddenly realized. Instead of wasting time and engaging in meaningless social activities every day, it is better to take some time to enjoy solitude.
It is this decision that makes grandma no longer feel empty. She still leads a full and comfortable life every day. With the time of being alone, grandma learned calligraphy, arranging flowers and making cakes, and also developed the good habit of reading books and taking notes.
My grandmother, far away from the noisy city, away from the noisy crowd, has become unsociable and has a bright smile on her face every day.
In fact, in an impenetrable high-pressure environment, leaving yourself a space to be alone is also a way to decompress, and it is also a fitness secret that makes people feel happy. Especially for retired people, it is not a bad thing to be unsociable occasionally, but a way to be happy physically and mentally and prolong life.
Aunt Wang retired not long after she was 55. The leisurely life after retirement once made her feel uncomfortable. At first, she helped her son and daughter-in-law take care of their grandchildren, but it was a thankless job. Over time, Aunt Wang stopped helping with her grandchildren.
Aunt Wang, who doesn't have a busy job and doesn't need help to take care of her grandson, often chats with other retired people in the community, but most of the topics she talks about are just comparison, not the filial piety of her son, but the academic performance of her grandson.
But these topics make Aunt Wang feel uncomfortable, because she is not a person who likes to compare herself. Gradually, she didn't like chatting downstairs.
Later, my son enrolled Aunt Wang in an old-age university, where Aunt Wang rediscovered the joy of life and got along with some like-minded friends, which also made Aunt Wang understand a truth:
"Life is for yourself. If you don't like the existing circle, don't try to force yourself to accept it. Sometimes being unsociable doesn't mean it is a bad thing. Occasionally it may bring you a space to enjoy life alone. "
A person's life is overwhelmed by too many things. When they are young, they must learn to be tactful and gregarious in order to work. After having children, I was busy for my family and was forced to be confined in a small family circle, unable to do what I wanted to do. Why not give yourself a vacation after retirement?
As the 86-year-old grandmother said: "Retired people should know how to be unsociable. Such unsociable can not only make you happy, but also prolong your life and let you spend a full and comfortable old age happily!"
In this materialistic era, not to mention the elderly, many young people are the same. They are all afraid of loneliness, and they always feel safe when they stay with a group of people.
But isn't that really lonely? As the saying goes, loneliness is the carnival of a group of people, and carnival is the loneliness of a group of people. If you read this passage carefully, you will find that sometimes a person's life is not to show his uniqueness. Being unsociable is just a way of life for us, a way of life that doesn't go with the flow and cater to others, and it is an innate way of life.
When we are young, we always like to be with friends and are afraid of loneliness, but when you are old, you will find that you are the only one left in this life, and no one will accompany you for the rest of your life.
Of course, this is not the most important thing. When we get old, we will have less and less time for ourselves. We don't have much time to waste on others. Spend more time enriching yourself, relaxing yourself, being in a good mood and living longer.
Therefore, when you are old, you should learn to be unsociable. We don't have much time to waste when we are old, so don't cater to others. When you learn to be unsociable and to be alone, you will find that the world is really beautiful.