After divorce, most divorcees are always unhappy, depressed and sad, showing all kinds of negative psychology such as resentment, dissatisfaction, inferiority, and seeing through the world of mortals.
At the same time, they will feel lonely, helpless and wronged in the face of criticism and supercilious look from people around them. A divorced woman said with deep feelings to her partner who wanted a divorce: Do you know that if you have a nominal husband, others will not dare to bully you? Once divorced, you will become a unruly woman in everyone's eyes. Decent people stay away from you, and people with ulterior motives haunt you. You still don't understand what divorce means to women, which means that you can't live as you like normal people in the past. You must wear simple clothes with your tail between your legs, as long as you don't want to be the center of public opinion, as long as you don't want to be regarded as a hopeless degenerate woman ... Some divorced women are extremely pessimistic about the future and life. They think there are no good people in the world, full of deception and hypocrisy ... so it is very important for divorced people to adjust themselves psychologically.
In a short time, you can concentrate on your work and study, temporarily forget the unhappiness in front of you, and make your mood tend to improve. Of course, colleagues and friends around us should also take the initiative to care for those divorced people who are in a bad mood and help them get rid of the depressed psychological environment, and so on. For those divorcees who are difficult to adjust their psychological state and get rid of pain and prejudice, they can be advised to see a psychologist, receive psychological consultation and get help from a psychologist at this time.
(2) divorce does not leave Germany.
Many couples quarreled for a long time because they couldn't get along, and finally had to go their separate ways. Although some families are calm, they don't fight or make trouble, but they have no feelings for each other, unfamiliar strange bedfellows; Some can't stand the temptation of money, power and beauty, and act as a third party or introduce a third party.
One of the husband and wife is always psychologically unbalanced and needs to discredit the other to solve the hatred in his heart. In our opinion, it's not worth taking. It is not good for yourself or for each other, and this kind of behavior is extremely uncivilized, and some of it is even illegal. Since husband and wife have no feelings at all and can't live together, let's break up amicably and say goodbye.
China famous singer Zhu Mingying's divorce behavior is very civilized, which is worth learning. Zhu Mingying's married life is facing crisis again and again. They all made good efforts in different ways at different times, but they all failed. Zhu Mingying struggled for her ideals in the cracks, and survived the days that women usually could not survive and the difficulties that ordinary people could not imagine. Everyone has his own interests. She loves life, art and endless pursuit. Her pursuit, her vision, the first thing, is not a small family that is very much in love every morning and evening, closing the door and wholeheartedly creating a comfortable nest for individuals, couples and sons. She devoted most of her energy and efforts to her unique singing art, and she succeeded, becoming more and more famous, which was too big for her husband to accept, so family conflicts came ... When Zhu Mingying and his wife divorced, after completing the divorce formalities in the street office, her husband pushed a bicycle on the road and asked Zhu Mingying to take her in the back seat. The staff in the office were very surprised. They are not noisy on the spot like other divorced couples, but very calm and serene. Later, when her husband had a girlfriend, Zhu Mingying took the initiative to call him: "I congratulate you!" She sometimes keeps in touch with her husband's girlfriend and becomes good friends ... Marriage is not friendship. Before divorce, they were husband and wife, but after divorce, they can still be good comrades. Divorce is not good for yourself or society, and it runs counter to socialist spiritual civilization. People should cherish their own history and cherish the emotional peak of couples in the past. Although two people have no love now, they are still far from the future, and peace is precious. If you don't get married, you will become an enemy, which is not worth it.
(3) After psychological, environmental and social adaptation, we should actively prepare for remarriage.
When choosing to remarry, we should learn from previous lessons and emphasize each other's personality. Be realistic and don't live in fantasy. At the same time, we should put too much energy into our work, don't rush for success when we remarry, be more rational when we are in love, and less will lead to greater bitterness. Because the second divorce will face more criticism and social pressure than the first divorce.
There is such a middle-aged woman who is not satisfied with the status quo, the plain life of her family and her honest husband. She often goes out to dance. At a dance, she met a middle-aged man with a thick chin and beard. He is physically strong, burly and energetic, and his body is full of youthful vitality. He dances smartly and gracefully, and dancing with him is an unspeakable pleasure. She was gently held by his hand and floated in the charming music. She was so excited that she completely forgot about it ... from then on, she never wanted to leave him again, just like being possessed, and often had private trysts behind her husband's back. After divorcing her husband, she soon married this man. But the good times don't last long, people always get bored, and soon the new husband loses interest in her. One day, she went home to get something and opened the door with a key. She was shocked. Her husband is lying in bed with another woman. Feeling humiliated and angry, she turned and ran to the door and ran into a speeding car. ...
This example shows that no matter whether you are divorced or remarried, you should be cautious and not just be happy. Marriage is based on feelings. If only the pleasure of sensory stimulation is regarded as emotion, it will lead to the failure and regret of marriage and love. It is more prudent to choose friends after remarriage. Through careful choice, life will be happy after remarriage.