The second is to minimize the objective factors of anger. We must be angry with people. Therefore, we should properly measure the standards of work and life according to our own strength, development and requirements. Don't be too envious and jealous, and don't be too lazy and indifferent. That is to say, contentment is always happy, and we must know how to make proper progress so as not to get angry and upset.
Third, look at things comprehensively and don't be extreme. When you encounter angry things, you should know why you are angry, find the root cause, and know the right medicine, instead of just being angry and blaming yourself and others at random. Besides, I know how to solve the anger problem.
Fourth, have hobbies, study more, exercise more, and increase your knowledge, experience, vision and talent. In this way, we won't be angry about some unimportant things and our life will be better.
Fifth, when you encounter something that you are frustrated with, tell yourself to be steady, let your mood down as much as possible, and then solve it slowly. If it is extremely urgent, it will cause trouble and unnecessary consequences.
Sixth, always remind yourself not to get angry and create a good self-subconscious.
Seventh, look at problems, things and people, and face everything in the world with happiness and sincerity. How do you look at the world and what kind of mood you will have.
Eight, spend more time with happy people every day, and less with people who have nothing to complain about and have negative energy.
If possible, you can go to the intensive care unit of the hospital and experience the joys and sorrows of the world here.
My mother is seriously ill in hospital. I stayed outside the ICU ward for a few days. I saw with my own eyes many patients with cerebral hemorrhage, all of whom had sudden onset or were talking, eating and working without warning.
Every day, many patients are carried in and out, and their families are full of gloom. When we get here, most of the expenses are very high, some are tens of thousands a day. To be clear, one day can cost you the money you earned in a year.
Many families can't get money because of financial difficulties, but patients still have hope and give up. I think in the years to come, my relatives will certainly blame themselves for a lifetime, because there is no money to make them lose their lives.
Some people insist on drinking pesticides and other drugs, and the cost is bizarre. Suicide is definitely impossible to take medical insurance. Some of them were not saved. That flower is going to spend, and it's still at the bottom of the sea. How can I put it? Death has consumed the spirit and economy of relatives. ...
So many human tragedies and comedies, which I hope will never be staged, are staged every day in the ICU in this square place.
There is a saying that being angry is someone else's punishment for you.
I think it's my responsibility to keep myself in a good mood and not get angry. If one thing is over, there will be no obstacles.
Learn to decompress yourself. You can laugh for decades and cry for a day. How to live is up to you.
People can't be happy all their lives, and people will always patronize things that are not smooth. Then, when encountering troubles, how to make yourself less angry and less angry?
1 don't care-be broad-minded and don't be petty; Don't worry about everything, don't haggle over every ounce. In this way, you will not be angry or less angry.
Don't care-don't take everything to heart, pretend it doesn't matter, no matter how bad things are, let nature take its course, don't care too much, and you will be less angry or not.
Don't compare-there are many angry things that stem from your dissatisfaction. Compare everything with others. The more frustrated you are than eating and repairing the garage.
4 Play the fool-there is no doubt that anyone in the world is a fool if he is not angry. Smart people are good at playing dumb and slow, and don't know anything too well, so they won't get angry.
5 pretend to be deaf-turn a deaf ear to unpleasant language, even harsh noise, or go in one ear and out the other, or let a gust of wind blow through your ear.
6 pretend to be blind-things you don't like in real life, things you don't like, try to turn a blind eye and turn a blind eye to everything.
7 play dumb-no one in the world is angry, there is no doubt that he is a fool. Smart people are good at playing dumb and slow, and don't know anything too well, so they won't get angry.
8 can be released-people can be released all their lives, that is, they can release themselves. Let go of all fame, money, power and love, and seize what you have earned through your own efforts. Don't force what you can't get, just let go.
9 take it easy-take it easy in everything, let it be, and don't care too much about gains and losses. People should live in the present, don't be discouraged in the face of setbacks, look at tomorrow, look at the future and look at the beauty.
10 get over it-some annoying things, as long as you get over it, everything is over. Otherwise, I will only worry about myself and sulk in my heart.
How can we make ourselves not angry, less angry and keep a good mood?
In one's life, one will meet difficult people and things that are difficult to handle, which may make people angry at any time. In the face of complicated life, how can we be less angry and keep a good mood? It's really hard. If you really want to be less angry and less angry, you need to have a generous ideological realm and a broad mind.
Mr. Zhu is a teacher in a rural primary school. The family is poor, there are many children, and the burden is heavy. For the sake of the family's life, he applied for the primary school in the village as a teacher.
The school is located in Yuanjia ancestral hall. The village is small and the number of students is small. The village committee turned this place into a school for the convenience of children. The three main rooms are classrooms, and the west house is for teachers to prepare lessons, stay and live. There are classes from grade one to grade six, but there are not many students in each grade. Plus six grades, the number of students is less than 40. Some students have poor family conditions, sometimes they come and sometimes they don't. This school often changes teachers. Mostly because a sixth-grade student in a classroom is difficult to manage, and the children are naughty and angry with the middle students.
Everyone says that "there are two buckets of grain at home, not king of the children". Mr. Zhu can do nothing. He came back to apply for the job in order to take care of his elderly and sick mother nearby. Therefore, no matter how difficult the job is, children have to accept it. In order to support his family, he has to find a way to teach these children well. Just as several teachers ran away in anger before, he was fully prepared.
On his first day at school, the students gave him a fright. It's time for class. Teacher Zhu pushed the door to prepare for class. Who knows, when I pushed the door, an ink bottle full of water fell from the top of the door, hit Mr. Zhu's head, and then rolled to the ground and broke. Teacher Zhu's hair, neck and clothes are all wet. The timid students were shocked and climbed onto the table quietly, while Ma Delong, who put the ink bottle, pretended to be innocent and shouted: Who did it? Come out quickly. Some students snickered and some students whispered to each other. Teacher Zhu wiped the water on her face and neck, shook her clothes and said with a smile, it's all right, let's go to class. The first class in the morning is the sixth grade together: writing in print. The teacher told us the requirements, asking everyone to put up a picture frame first, and then take out a picture frame and write one. After the completion, give it to the teacher for correction, judge the pros and cons, and send it to the students tomorrow. Unconsciously, a class passed. During the break, Ma Delong was puzzled and asked his good friend Yuan Licheng: Why is this teacher not angry? Yuan Licheng said, "There is self-restraint." In the second class, Mr. Zhu arranged for the first and second grade students to copy the fifth lesson of Chinese repeatedly to realize dictation. Do arithmetic textbook exercises 4 123 in grade 3 and 4. The fifth grade previews the sixth lesson of Chinese and writes new words. Then take six sixth-grade students to class in the mansion. Teacher Zhu said: You graduated from primary school this year. Tell me your plan. Three boys and two girls said that they should study hard and go to a junior high school to go to a foreign village after graduating from primary school. Only Ma Delong didn't speak. The teacher said: If the purpose is clear, take the time to study hard and prepare for the exam. Our school is a compound class, and the teacher supervises six grades alone. Only "the teacher is an introduction, and learning depends on the individual". As a senior student, you should play an exemplary role and consciously try to learn all the courses well. Now everyone writes their own study plan, which is collected by the monitor and handed over to the teacher after class. The teacher went to teach the fifth grade.
Teacher Zhu came to the classroom, and from the fifth grade, he checked the newly assigned homework one by one, pointed out the right and wrong, and patiently explained them one by one. After a class, every student has something to do and something to gain. During the break, the children are very happy and can move freely.
In the third class, the teacher asked the students of grade 1256 to take a small bench to the playground to read the texts they had learned in Chinese textbooks and let them recite them. In the third and fourth grades, I stayed in the classroom for arithmetic classes. Preview in the fourth grade, and then tell elementary arithmetic to the third grade. After doing the examples, let Li Jieqin do the problems on the blackboard, and the rest of the students do the problems in the draft book. Then let the students point out right and wrong, the teacher summarizes, assigns homework and does problems. It's grade four now. The teacher writes the questions on the blackboard and the students do them on the herbs. Then Yuan Kangjun was asked to perform the questions on the blackboard. After that, ask the students to speak first and discuss right and wrong. Finally, the teacher gives an example, assigns homework and does the problems by himself. After school at noon, the students went home happily and said that this teacher is good!
Before 2: 30 in the afternoon, it was time to get ready for class. Suddenly there was a dog barking in the classroom. The timid girl ran out of the classroom in fear and hid in the yard. The teacher saw a small white long-haired dog running around the classroom with a sparrow in its tail. As soon as the sparrow flies, the dog barks and bites. Sparrows keep flying and dogs keep biting. The teacher didn't speak, quietly watching and waiting. After a while, Yuan Changde, the monitor of the sixth grade, ran into the classroom, grabbed the dog, held it outside the door, untied the sparrow and let it go. The storm passed, and the teacher skillfully arranged a very vivid class. The second class is self-study, and the students write and count quietly. Only Ma Delong bowed his head and fiddled with the willow flute under the table. The third class is extracurricular activities, skipping rope, kicking shuttlecock, catching peaches, being free and happy, and the day passed like this.
At the end of the day, Teacher Zhu is really tired. I am very angry about what happened. But he is not angry, and he can't be angry. The angrier you are, the more naughty students will try to make you angry. The more you don't say anything, the more he can't touch your temper, and it's boring to play pranks again. Only by guiding students into a tense learning state, most students still love learning, their time, energy and interest are occupied by learning, and they are gradually indifferent to those naughty things that are out of tune, and naughty students will change in a subtle way.
Teacher Zhu said: You will inevitably meet people and things that make you angry in your life. As long as you can get through it, you won't be angry, be less angry and keep a good mood.
Once upon a time there was a boy with a bad temper. He is angry at every little thing. One day, his father gave him a bag of nails and said to him, "Whenever you are angry, hammer a nail on that wall."
So the activity began.
On the first day, the boy nailed 50 nails.
The next day, he knocked 40 times.
Every time he goes there, he regrets getting angry-driving a nail into that damn brick wall, which is a great challenge!
Slowly, he found it easier to control anger than hammering, and the number of hammered nails began to decline.
Finally, one day, he stopped being angry and felt happy.
His father gave him another task: "If you are not angry all day, pull out a nail on the wall." A few days later, all the nails were pulled out.
His father took him to the wall and asked him what he saw.
The boy replied that he could see the hole in the wall.
The father explained to his son, "these holes are like scars left by others when they are angry." No matter how many times you say you are sorry, the scar will not disappear. "
So I suggest you two things:
1. You should realize that a promise is a promise, but a promise cannot be taken back. Your anger hurt others and left a bad impression forever.
Every time I get angry, I nail it.
The simplest thing you can do is to carry a pocket diary with you and write a line on it every time you get angry. Then in the evening, count how many lines to write that day. If you form this habit, you will be reminded to write it down every time you get angry. Indirectly, you will realize that you are angry. Because you are conscious at that time, you will find it easier to control your behavior and suppress your anger.
I hope one day there won't be any words in your diary.
The present life has given us a lot of life pressure, and in this highly tense state of life, our emotions become fluctuating, and negative emotions tend to accumulate constantly, and things like anger, quarrel and anger occur frequently.
So many people want to keep a good mood and keep enough enthusiasm for life.
I think this kind of appeal is normal, but how to make yourself not angry and in a good mood, in my opinion, the most important thing is to recognize the reasons and sources of your anger and your appeal to the life you yearn for. Simply put, most of the reasons for being angry are their unreasonable beliefs and unreasonable beliefs about each other.
Unreasonable belief in yourself often means demanding too much of your goals and behaviors. When the final result fails to meet our expectations, or even conflicts with expectations, we will have an angry psychology. In addition, when there are contradictions and differences with colleagues and friends, it will also amplify this anger. Therefore, in the face of such problems, the most important thing is to adjust your mentality and change your unreasonable beliefs.
Listening to more music and getting close to nature are important ways to keep a good mood. Modern music is very popular, from concerts to the most common songs, it can make your mood beautiful. For example, music describing spring may appear in front of your eyes, such as grass, Woods, butterflies and bees, birds and cows. Even the breeze blowing in the treetops can slowly blow into your heart. If you appreciate love songs, praising beautiful love songs will make you look forward to taking your loved ones in and out of parks where flowers are blooming everywhere, or entering the neon-lit world. Sad love songs can also help you shed the melancholy and boring tears accumulated in your heart in your daily life, so as to remove all kinds of harmful waste from your body.
Walking into nature and getting close to nature is like enjoying the effect of music. Fresh air and gorgeous sunshine can make you have a peaceful mind and stay away from the annoying noise of the city. When you look up at the stars, or imagine that your whole body and mind have melted into the blue sky and white clouds, then your mood will still be
You can also do some relaxation, such as exercise, or even meditate alone. In a stressful and stressful life, you can leave enough room for thinking, and you can easily find your true thoughts. When you face your true thoughts frankly, maybe all the negative emotions will disappear.
Of course, don't forget your family and friends. When you are angry and sad, remember to talk and share with them. This method is effective at any time.
In fact, some things really don't need to be so serious! I am such a person, sometimes I will encounter very angry things, but looking back, why should I be angry? Can anger solve things? Just to make myself more troubled. As long as what others do and say is not excessive, they won't care. On the contrary, it is too tiring to live like that!
Happy is a day, angry is a day, why not let yourself live every day? Having said that, being angry is really bad for your health. Only you are cheerful enough, and I think there will be few in your later life.
Even if you are angry, you should adjust your emotions as soon as possible, or you will only suffer yourself if you are depressed for a day!
It is easy to get angry, which is related to personal physique, cognition and experience.
If you want to reduce your anger and keep a good mood, you need to know your personality characteristics and try to avoid entering an environment that is easy to stimulate your anger.
For example, try to reduce disputes with unreasonable people and try to stay away from unfair workplaces as soon as possible.
Although it is the best policy to take thirty-six measures, we must find ways to control our emotions if we can't get rid of this external cause immediately.
For example, people who love beauty, when the feeling of anger becomes strong, think about their ferocious facial expressions when they are angry; People who pay attention to self-cultivation may say inappropriate things when they are angry; People who like health preservation should think about the loss of qi and blood caused by stagnation of liver qi and upwelling of stomach qi when they are angry.
Finally, it is very important that we should understand others more. Be a willing and excellent communicator.
Anger is mostly to punish yourself with other people's mistakes, which is totally unnecessary! People are often busy with daily necessities, soy sauce, vinegar and tea;
Sometimes you work hard but you can't get a satisfactory return!
Sometimes a casual move by others can make you angry!
Sometimes haggle over trifles for a long time!
Sometimes I feel depressed all day because I am unhappy at work!
Sometimes I just feel that the more I look at a person, the less pleasing to the eye and the more angry I am!
Sometimes anger doesn't need a reason!
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In fact, generally speaking, there will be thousands of factors that make us angry, but it is our subjective initiative that ultimately determines whether we are angry or not!
Relax everything, then put it down, and naturally you can relax! Don't care, don't compare, don't worry, always be careless about beautiful things, be open-minded and naturally laugh!
1 When you are strong, you don't have to look at other people's faces.
When you are financially independent and don't depend on others to live, you will have confidence to see what others think of you.
Sleep gently. With a goal in mind, you will focus on yourself and seek inward instead of outward, and you will be less angry.
When you become a valuable person in the eyes of others. You can keep yourself from getting angry. Happy mood!
People living in this world will encounter all kinds of bad things every day:
Angry at work-work is not smooth and colleagues don't get along well;
Angry about traffic-TMD, traffic jams every day, the road can not be widened; Battery car, you can't fucking watch the road;
Angry at the weather-what terrible weather, it rains/heats up every day;
Angry for his wife and children-children are noisy and his wife doesn't understand you;
Angry at yourself-angry at how useless you are and why you didn't work hard in the first place;
Angry for * *-there are thousands of reasons to be angry;
We are all laymen, and we will inevitably worry about pots and pans;
We are not enlightened monks, and we can't reach that transcendental realm;
There are many reasons. Chicken soup is very good and reasonable. At that time, watching/listening will make you passionate, but only for a while, it is simply too difficult to do it.
We are laity, we can't avoid customs, there are too many helplessness and pains in real life, and we can't really get carried away. What we can do is try our best to find some ways to have a good mood.
1, relax the mind: the mind is very important for a person's physical and mental health, which is born of the mind, but many diseases are also caused by heart disease.
My grandmother is very bad to my mother. My grandmother's feudal consciousness is particularly serious, and she prefers boys to girls. I have three sisters, and having so many children has done great harm to my mother's health.
My grandmother doesn't help my mother look after the children either. My mother takes care of the children and does farm work alone. After finishing farm work, she has to go home and cook by herself. She made the house by herself, inside and outside. When my father was young, he only listened to my grandmother. This caused my mother to feel lonely and helpless, and married far away. I didn't expect life to be like this.
With the accumulation of time and hatred, I can't get out of the word "hate". In the end, everyone else was alive and well, and they were all sick.
2, contentment: people become bored, almost because they think too much and want too much;
What you want doesn't match your ability;
The family can only pay a down payment of 500,000 yuan, and buying a house and a car in Hangzhou will only increase the troubles;
My ability can only work in an ordinary company, and I have to go to BAT.
You can only find a wife like Xifeng, but you have to find a wife like Jaina Jun. You deserve to be single.
My income can only buy Coca-Cola and I have to drink Starbucks every day.
Having said so much doesn't mean you have to give up your ideal, no.
There is still an ideal. I'm just saying that your current ability is not worthy of your current ideal. What you can do now is to improve your ability and match your ideal.