Hereditary diseases are not the source of evil, and the unforgivable crime is "reproductive cancer".

Author | Ju Xiaoxiao

Original starting | Mom. Com parenting (ID: mmwyuer)

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"I have a genetic disease, but I insisted on giving birth to five babies."

I recently saw a special mother in a short video.

She is special, not only because of her facial features, but also because of her plain and terrible words:

"I have a genetic disease, but I still insisted on giving birth to five babies."

According to her mother's statement, she was born in 1994. She was abandoned by her biological parents when she was two years old because of illness, and now she has six children.

Careful observation of her facial features shows that the eye distance between her eyes is obviously wider than that of ordinary people. There is a bulge above the left eyeball, and her expression is dull. The fingers in the video also have finger adhesion.

There is also obvious oneness in language expression. No matter what the fans say, she will only say:

Thank you for your comments.

She insisted on giving birth to five children while knowing that she had obvious genetic diseases.

Coupled with the eldest daughter left by her husband's ex-wife, she naturally became the mother of six children.

What will happen to children born lucky?

What a pity!

Few of these six children are healthy, one is insane, one is born with cleft lip and palate, and one boy is albino.

Fortunately, my mother didn't choose to give up on herself, but she was trying to live.

Cutting grass;

Take the children to pick corn;

However, there is a question that has to make us think:

Does Dong have full capacity? What kind of thoughts did she have when she gave birth to these children?

However, looking at these imperfect but sensible children, Dong, who had experienced vicissitudes before he was 30 years old, I couldn't help sighing for this family.

Having a baby is really more than having a baby.

Irresponsible childbirth is not the beginning of happiness, but the cradle of tragedy.

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Having children has become a gamble.

She lost almost everything.

The cruelest thing for a mother is that your child is born unhealthy.

When several children's congenital diseases appeared naked in public, all the mothers were crying.

The video shows that Dong has six children, the eldest is the daughter left by her husband's ex-wife, the second is her son Xiaobai, the third is her son Xiaohei, the fourth is her daughter's fourth sister, the fifth is her son, and the sixth is her sixth sister.

Let's look at the eldest daughter first.

She was not born to Dong, but when she appeared in the video several times, she was in a mental hospital.

What's more frightening is that she is probably related to the disappearance of the fifth one.

Earlier, some netizens asked Dong why she clearly claimed that she had six children, but only five people left the country in the video.

Dong's answer is creepy: "Brother Wu was lost by the elder sister."

If the child's whereabouts are unknown, it becomes a sentence, and there is no other way.

What this family can do for the eldest daughter is only to let her receive treatment in a mental hospital alone, and even her birthday can only be spent in a mental hospital.

The nickname of the second child is Xiao Bai. His skin is unusually fair, and his hair color and iris color are much lighter than normal people.

Dong said that he is very sensible, but in many videos, Xiao Bai is almost half closed. Even if he plays with other children, he always hides behind.

The scientific name of Xiaobai disease is "ocular skin albinism", which is caused by the invisible pathogenic gene carried by the mother.

In other words, although this gene is not expressed in the mother, it has become the culprit in the child.

The incidence of albinism is one in 20,000, so Xiaobai became the unfortunate child who won the bid.

This disease doesn't sound fatal, but it will make children afraid of the sun and light.

Different from ordinary people's looks, children will also suffer unimaginable discrimination experienced by others.

Dong also has a sick child, the youngest six sisters.

Liu Mei is a baby with cleft lip, commonly known as congenital cleft lip and palate.

Back in those days, Faye Wong and Li, who were not short of money or connections, gave birth to Li Yan, who was still having a headache for the treatment of their daughter's cleft lip and palate, not to mention a poor family in rural areas.

The cost of children's treatment once became the biggest headache for the whole family. Grandma once said indifferently in the video:

"He said (treatment) to more than ten. ...

I will never lose her ... "

Fortunately, Liu Mei successfully performed the first operation with state subsidies.

But there is still a long surgical repair process waiting for this ignorant baby.

Among the children, the only two who look normal are Lao San Xiao Hei and Lao Si Xiao Jie.

Visually, Xiaohei's eyes are wide apart and his nose root is low and flat, which is similar to the characteristics of Down syndrome, which makes many netizens even suspect that he also has some kind of hereditary disease.

However, Dong has sent a video to clarify that "Little Black Intelligence is OK".

Simei was obviously a girl, but she was shaved into a small bald head. Because she was naughty, she was "taken away" by her mother half jokingly and half seriously. Such a rude way of parenting makes people feel embarrassed.

Some people say that not having children in disorder is a mother's minimum accomplishment.

It's a pity that a family in winter obviously didn't realize this.

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Reproductive cancer is harmful to children.

If a family's winter experience is summed up in one sentence, it is probably the most appropriate: the poor must have something hateful.

Although Dong often publishes his intimate interaction with children and claims that "being a mother is just", he will try his best to make children grow up healthily and happily.

However, in the face of the reality that the child has a genetic disease, her true confession seems pale and powerless.

Looking at this big family, weak and sick, we can easily feel a sense of powerlessness:

It seems that everyone has done nothing wrong,

They are also trying to make money and live hard.

But the future of this family is still slipping into the abyss.

In the final analysis, the cause of the tragedy is "reproductive cancer".

Some people, knowing that their mothers are not healthy, may have genetic diseases, and knowing that the sick children they have already given birth need a lot of time and money to treat, still give birth to children one after another.

They are like gamblers who kill their own eyes. In order to gamble on a "healthy child", they do not hesitate to use fertility as a tool.

But they never thought that children's health is the probability that gambling is not allowed.

Otherwise, even if they give birth to a child who looks healthy for a while, they can only be subject to embarrassing economic conditions and think about sending away their own flesh and blood from time to time.

Over time, healthy children grow up, and sick brothers and sisters at home will also become a heavy burden, which is unfair from the beginning.

There is a passage in "Fertility Dialogue":

"For some people, I just can judge:

Those who only have children and don't raise them.

Those who were abandoned at birth.

Those who live a miserable life but have many children without restraint,

Those who look to their children to save themselves,

Also, those who control children to satisfy greed, those who abuse children,

They are not only ignorant, but also vicious. "

Giving birth to a child with the gambler's psychology is itself the biggest irony of parental identity.

Of course, we have no intention to blame Dong.

Because it's not just women who are behind this tragedy.

Those who hide behind women, those fans of decadent ideas of "carrying on the family line" and those men who are unwilling to take safety measures are the real culprits.

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Take a daughter-in-law home

Being able to lay eggs is valuable.

I believe that many people's first reaction to seeing Dong is probably the same as mine:

Why does such a woman with an obvious genetic disease continue to have children? Is the health of the next generation really unimportant?

The answer to the question may be cruel.

Some people regard fertility as a task and a woman's uterus as a reproductive tool.

From the existing videos, we can know Dong's status as an "abandoned child". No one knows how she spent these decades.

The information she revealed, such as "The man doesn't mind taking me home", even pointed to the possibility of "being taken home by the man".

We don't mean to speculate maliciously, but we don't know the complexity of human nature.

It seems that the so-called couple may just "marry a daughter-in-law".

You know, there are still many "old bachelors" in the vast rural mountainous areas.

They have neither material foundation nor social channels. "Choosing a disabled woman as a wife" has become the only choice to carry on the family line.

In their eyes, "as long as it can lay eggs, it is valuable."

Even giving birth to a sick child is better than "no offspring".

Once a woman can't have children, she will instantly face the abyss of nightmares.

Remember the Shandong girl's party? 22-year-old bride tortured to death.

Fang was punched and kicked for more than a year because of minor mental problems and not giving birth to a child according to her husband's family's expectations.

Finally, the girl died inexplicably in her husband's house. When she died, 1.76 meters was only 60 kilograms.

A farmer photographed by blogger @ Shi Jinshui is even more terrible.

A man in rural Guangxi locked his wife in his room for more than ten years, during which he gave birth to a man and two women.

His wife is suspected to be mentally ill, and the man who locked her up has killed his old mother himself.

At that time, this wife was taken over by her mother-in-law to be her son's wife.

In countless news reports, women, as a vulnerable group, have not been treated and tolerated because of their own diseases, but have been regarded as fertility machines.

This is the sorrow of women and all conspirators.

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Giving birth to children is freedom, but it is also a responsibility.

I met a friend who was about to give birth the other day. During the conversation, I asked her what she expected of the baby in the womb.

She smiled and touched her belly and said, I wish I were healthy.

For most parents, the healthy growth of their children is their simplest wish.

In contrast, Fang, Dong and those women who are suspected of being "picked up" to go home, they can't help themselves, but they also help others.

Childbearing is a freedom and a right, but more importantly, it is a responsibility.

Giving birth to a sick child is not a blessing, let alone a glorious ancestor, but a naked curse.

Patients with genetic diseases have appeared in Zhihu:

It is unfortunate to be ill. Don't let this misfortune become the product of backward ideas. Early screening and regular pregnancy examination are the most important preparations for parents.

Of course, to eradicate "reproductive cancer", we need not only the awareness of prenatal screening and prenatal screening, but also a new understanding of fertility and parenting.

As President Zhang Guimei said, it is necessary to cut off the intergenerational transmission of poverty and avoid the vicious circle of poor quality of mothers and children.

It doesn't seem difficult to bring a little life into this world. The difficult thing is to shelter TA from the wind and rain, so that TA can receive a good education and thrive.

I hope all children in the world can be born healthily in expectation, and I hope every family and every pair of parents can be responsible for their children.

Health care, life is not to end the task, but to open the responsibility.

This is what fertility should look like.

At this moment, I want you to pay attention to it again-

Giving birth and raising better children.

Benefit the country and the people

Some reference materials

Li Xiaoer's life is a sadder story than sadness.

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