? When I heard my classmates talk about the people who made this movie, I thought it should be a grotesque horror movie to attract attention. Chrysanthemum and mouth exchange? No eyes? But after I really read it, I felt very depressed, as if I didn't understand it, as if I was a little moved but I didn't know why.
The whimsy of the film, the dream of color matching, the sadness of the soundtrack, and a little jumping and informative plot really fit its label of emphasizing taste but being fresh.
Friends who have seen the plot of the movie know it, so I won't go into details. Among them, Laura, a woman without eyes, poked me to tears the most. She was born without eyes and had a flat skin between her brow. This situation also exists in real life. It is called congenital cryptophthalmia, commonly known as cryptophthalmia.
? Because Laura has no eyes, she "sees" more human feelings in the world. Laura was forced to live in a brothel since she was a child, and she began to receive guests since she was a child. After receiving a pair of jewel eyes from guests, she often wears them at work to hide her uniqueness. The eye of the jewel is like a thin armor to her. If you wear it, it will cover up your weakness, and you will not be so afraid of other people's eyes.
Laura's guests never let her touch them, but they just vent their desires unilaterally. People go to bed with curiosity or hobbies (for example, the man in the credits is a pedophile), and then turn away after their desires are satisfied. She is a strange doll wrapped in a brothel, dressed like Barbie, with charming curly hair, gorgeous nails and a room full of peach color. She seems to exist as a doll without life. Profit is her only value, and no one cares about her heart.
When Laura was photographed in several scenes, she either sat at the table alone, lost in thought, or got out of bed alone and skillfully lit a cigarette. She's so lonely. Like all deformed people in this movie, the biggest sorrow they face is deformity, especially the loneliness caused by deformity. This kind of loneliness is so strong that the ass girl has incredible courage to upload photos on the Internet and walk out the door without covering her face, trying to integrate into the world. She was rejected, laughed at, hurt, but still eager; This loneliness is so strong that the actor with congenital achondroplasia knows that the child will inherit the disease, and he is determined to give birth to the child (whether this behavior is unfair to the child or not). When loneliness is too deep, this process is not only that she is giving life to the child, but also that the child is saving her.
? When Laura carefully touched the fat girl who stole her jewel eyes, her face showed a childlike smile. She said, "You are very soft." This is the first time that someone is willing to let Laura touch it, and it is also the first time that Laura feels less lonely. Two girls despised by the secular world heal each other's hearts.
I suddenly thought of Rogers' positive concern here. He believes that unconditional active concern for help seekers is the key to cure people's psychological problems. In real life, people's attention is often conditional. People's friendliness is conditional, care is conditional and love is conditional. I believe that many healthy people have experienced this, otherwise there will not be so many high-profile answers "What is the experience of changing from ugly to beautiful?" Everyone has experienced more or less, or experienced loneliness and inferiority. But all this is even more cruel to Laura and the freak.
Laura knew that everything she got was conditional, so when she wanted to touch the fat girl, she also offered to give the jewel to the fat girl.
As for the combination of these two girls, I don't think they are necessarily gay. Their combination is not based on sexual impulse, but a deeper emotion that two lonely souls embrace and accept each other.
Happily, at the end of the story, Laura walked out of the small room, and she no longer needed those jewel-like eyes. She can sit quietly in the crowd and hold her lover's hand with a smile.
? May all lonely souls be comforted.
(The following is a follow-up supplement, and there are many ideas in the middle of the night)
Second, a "sick" body and a "sick" heart.
The characters in this movie have roughly four attitudes towards freaks.
1. The attitude of relatives to "hide their ugliness". The father of the donkey girl is very wary of her daughter going out. He wants her to hide in the dark forever. The father's worry and vigilance are of course out of a protective mentality, but often this kind of protection that does not give emotional support and only blocks will only hurt his daughter. The world is not friendly to her, and even her closest relatives don't think she is "good" and "worthy of love". Sometimes, this kind of blow is more cruel than the ridicule from strangers.
2. The contempt, ridicule and injury of strangers. I believe this situation still exists in life, but fortunately it should not be in the majority. Some people have a "vanilla beauty" complex, thinking that good things must have beautiful bodies, thus demonizing deformed people (or disabled people) or putting them in an unequal position with us. They become the objects of entertainment and play. In the early history, the tragic situation of deformed people was even worse, such as1840-1the deformed show popular in the United States in the 1940s. Although this has earned them income to a certain extent, how can this way of tearing their own wounds in exchange for benefits hurt their hearts while eating and drinking meat?
Fate is cruel, and what is more cruel than fate is the human heart. This special group does have a lack of body, but on the other hand, some healthy people also have a lack of humanity. A deformed man is ill, but a healthy man heals his heart.
3. The family's "incomprehension". In the intimate relationship with family, it is easy to give material support, but it is difficult to give spiritual support. Violet-haired teenagers who don't want legs, and men who love deformed girls, are all unpopular with their families who don't understand. Knowing that he was a middle-aged man who was a pedophile, he couldn't talk to his family, so he cried after listening to a blind girl's song in a brothel. Special groups are doomed to get little understanding. They are sick and miserable.
4. Some warm power. Fortunately, there are still some kind people who can respect and warm them. From a female psychologist to a man who saved a woman who committed suicide, it is a relief and a little comfort.
Zhou has a good saying, "There is no disability in God's eyes."
This is not empty comfort, but real humanistic care. There is pain in the world, but before God, it doesn't matter. He only sees our sincere souls, not our broken bodies.
Third, to clear the name of "pervert"
One advantage of this film is that it makes the tagged characters in the eyes of ordinary people flesh and blood. There are pedophiles in the movie. Generally speaking, when it comes to pedophilia, people can't help but think of a wretched middle-aged man who is always ready to invade children.
Pedophiles are sexual perverts, but we can't say that all pedophiles are perverts. (But those who cruelly hurt children are perverts and explode in situ! In the movie, the pedophile father chose to leave his family in order not to hurt his children, but when he wanted to be satisfied in a brothel, his heart was full of contradictions. He further hurt his loved ones and took a step back to hurt them. Dilemma is often used to judge a higher moral sense. It is precisely because of the dilemma that you need to choose between the two in order to see a person's heart clearly. When his father knew that he was a pedophile, which was objectively uncontrollable and difficult to change, he chose to bear the blame and leave his family. It cannot be said that this choice is completely correct in politics, but it is also a kind of preservation for the family.
People with mental disorders or abnormal sexual orientation are often labeled as abnormal, so they are a flat humanoid brand in people's eyes, with no other personality, no flesh and blood, no feelings and even confused thinking. This idea is too contemptuous.
People with psychological barriers and abnormal sexual orientation will be punished by law and public opinion if they break the law and hurt others. But if they don't break the law and hurt others, then no one is qualified to judge them maliciously.
Finally, whether he is deformed, disabled or mentally retarded, he is just like us. No matter what label society labels them, please remember that he is a person first, and then other identities.
Fourth, the attitude towards special people.
I once knew a girl who was very sympathetic. Whenever she meets a limping passer-by or a blind man on crutches on the road, she is bound to pay attention and sigh. Ah, poor man. I feel sorry for him.
I don't think sympathy is a good word, it has a meaning of inequality between the two sides, a meaning of overlooking. Compassion is often pity with superiority. It will make you feel kind, but it will hurt each other's self-esteem.
Many people advocate sympathy and think that sympathy is a virtue and a light of human nature. No, * * * love is. Compassion is a preconceived emotion, which means "I see your pain, I know how hard you are, and I can understand your feelings", but it is actually impossible. Humans are not incarnations, and they cannot reach this level of synaesthesia. And * * * love is based on respecting each other's experiences. "I'm not you, I haven't experienced everything you have experienced. I don't think I can fully understand your feelings, but I am willing to try my best to understand you from your point of view. "
In addition, I think special people don't want to be immersed in the sympathy of the masses. Deliberate attention will only make people feel uncomfortable. Treat them without discrimination or excessive sympathy. Just give them a hand when they need it. Treating them as ordinary people like us is the best respect.
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