1, before the age of 20, "I would rather laugh on a bicycle than cry in a BMW."
I met this sentence at that desperate age, as if it were like our great love. For love, we can ignore anything. Talking about material things seems to be an insult to love. Many girls think they are great. In order to love others, we can abandon everything, even our parents. Finally, what did you get?
We thought we could ride a bicycle and laugh all our lives. Later, when we got married, we realized that love without material security is better than sitting in a BMW and crying comfortably. But unlike people who have been poor together, this sentence has become a wise saying. What love can we talk about without bread?
2, about 30 years old, "Don't get married for the sake of getting married, don't get married because you are old."
I often listen to people around me to advise older unmarried young people not to get married for the sake of marriage, not to get married because of the year, and not to get married because of parents' urging. We are always used to combining our own life experiences to persuade others to meet love because of our unfortunate marriage. I used to think so. If I can't meet love, I'd rather be single all my life. Later, I learned that there is nothing wrong with parents urging marriage.
We always fantasize that one day the person we like will ride a white horse to marry us, but fantasy is fantasy after all, and we still have to return to reality. Especially for women, the experience of the older generation seems to be no big problem. Grandma told me not to wait. After 30, it's hard to meet the right person. Whose good children can be put in such a big place, the good ones have long been picked away.
Grandma's words may not sound good, but I don't think they are rough. Think about it, when we are in love, who is not picky. Advise you to wait for love, look at her first. Is she so old? Don't wait until you don't want to fall in love again, and don't wait until you want to get married, but you can't find someone suitable for marriage.
Marriage is never a wait, but an initiative to meet, not because of age, but because of age, we should take the initiative to get to know people who are looking for marriage.
3. "Don't drag your feet in life. Divorce is no big deal. " "For the sake of children, bear it."
These two sentences seem to be somewhat contradictory. One advises you not to wronged yourself and figure it out as soon as possible, and the other advises you not to divorce easily because you are worried about each other. In fact, these two sentences are misunderstood. Marriage is never something that can be ended by a struggle.
The old man said that it is better to tear down ten temples than one marriage. Marriage is not a house, divorce is not a simple word, and it is not the same chicken soup. Every family has its own situation. We don't advise people to be patient all the time, and we don't want to make impulsive decisions without careful consideration.
Divorce is really no big deal, but I have seen children whose lives have been ruined by divorce. That child used to be a good boy with excellent academic performance, but because of his parents' improper handling of marriage, he became a mentally retarded child.
A lot of chicken soup for the soul, just look at it. Their experience may not be applicable to us. What we need is to sum up our past selves and find the way to the future. Believe in yourself rather than chicken soup.