On the weekend, I reissued photos of my fifth birthday a few days ago in my circle of friends.

When commenting on a blessing, a friend asked, I think I like to take Liu Liu with me everywhere. I have to raise my daughter. Why not give her a birthday party?

To be honest, I have attended several themed birthday parties held by friends' houses for children, all of which cost tens of thousands of dollars. I really want to attach importance to the sense of ceremony and leave a very special memory for Liu Liu. Before my 665th birthday, I mentioned this to my sixth dad, but he didn't agree.

"Hey, you are so miserable, why don't you agree to give her a party? Isn't it because you are worried about money? "

"This has nothing to do with money."

"Why is that?"

"Too young to have a party at all. It's just for adults. There is no point in letting children feel that they have any special fun. In my opinion, it makes no sense. One day, Liu Liu grew up. If she wants to invite familiar children to celebrate her birthday, we will support her. "

Indeed, this is Liu Da's educational philosophy: moderation and wealth.

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Nowadays, raising children well has almost become the knowledge of parents. But what is wealth? Everyone may have a different definition.

Some people think that having money to support is to meet all the requirements of children; Some people think that rich support means doing everything possible to give children the best possible material life; Six dads think that money means that children are not short of wealth and their hearts are full of love. ...

I told him with a smile that the best way to raise a child is when his father is away.

Dad's "real" children always have a sweet and greasy closeness to their mothers, and they are more naughty, more eager and more coquettish in front of their mothers. Therefore, it is very important for dad to participate in education, and it is particularly effective at some times.

I remember once, Liu Liu saw a child driving an electric car in the yard. It looks super cool and gorgeous. She can't envy it. She clamored that she wanted it, too, but Liu's father refused directly.

Before, in order to exercise sports ability and sense of balance, our family had at least a dozen scooters, bicycles, balance cars and tricycles. We spent a lot of money to find the most suitable one. But for such an inexpensive electric car, but it is not good for children's growth and exercise, Dad Liu and I have the knowledge of "not buying".

For the desire, Liu's father will seriously reason with him: "first, if others have it, you should have it;" Second, we all want a lot of things, but what you want is not necessarily what you need; Third, mom and dad will try their best to buy you what you need. When you grow up, you have to work hard to get it. "

Obviously, the "great truth" told by my father is always more "shocking" than that told by my mother. Can children understand? Of course, the first meeting is confusing, but a reasonable father is patient. While conveying the correct concept of wealth, gradually teach children the ability of independent thinking and reflection.

Dad's "cruel" is a soft-hearted mother. Although I firmly believe that it is important to cultivate the strong side of children's personality, it is really difficult to implement it. The appearance of dad at this time often shows that fatherly love is expressed in another way.

Wechat friends often see me say that Liu Liu has gone to Xinyang, because on weekends, when she has nothing to do, she will take Liu Liu to Xinyang to climb the mountain.

This kind of mountain road can only be walked by local tour guides. Liu Liu has been climbing the mountain by himself since the first time. Now she can climb the whole mountain with a stick by herself. The tour guide said that she was more persistent than many children in the mountains. I must be tired and want to give up, but Liu's father encouraged her a little bit to overcome the limitations of physical conditions and accompany her to feel the joy of harvesting after success.

There was once a little girl who went with Zhengzhou, nearly three years older than Liu Liu. At the destination, she began to feel that the ground was covered with dirt and her shoes were dirty. The pits in the countryside are determined not to be too smelly. When climbing the mountain together, she was almost taken away by the tour guide. Besides going to the toilet, I will be nervous. I said I was afraid of falling into the pit. I can be sunny, strong and grounded like a child in the mountains.

I am afraid that many mothers can't make up their minds to hone their children. However, how many children passively miss the experience and happiness of cultivating perseverance and getting close to nature under excessive protection?

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Men often look at things differently from women, but it must be said that the decisions made by two people after communication are relatively less likely to make mistakes in children's education.

In family education, parents' recognition is very important, and they should have the same educational goals and similar educational ideas. If there are differences, discuss them privately and implement them uniformly.

Undeniably, this society has put a lot of pressure on men, seeking fame and fortune and making money to support their families. Men stubbornly carry more and more stones on their shoulders, but mistakenly believe that unlimited economic filling is the best pay for children, so parenting and education should be left to mothers.

Oh, you misunderstood.

The so-called enrichment of children requires the participation of the role of father.

Compared with mom's delicacy, dad is better at considering problems from a macro perspective; Compared with mother's sensibility, father knows how to use rational analysis better; Compared with mother's pampering, father's education is more firm and practical; Compared with my mother's enthusiasm, my father's feelings are firmer and deeper.