It is true that everyone's time and energy are precious, so it is natural to use them in the most worthwhile places.

In life, we see those people who just add to their lives blindly, and in the end they are either anxious because their material desires are difficult to fill, or worried because they have to deal with unworthy relationships.

In fact, there are not many things needed in life.

A truly wise person, in daily life, will constantly unload the burden around him, whether it is superfluous things or meaningless relationships.

Because they understand that only by putting all their limited energy into important things and important people is the greatest responsibility for their lives.

As an adult, the responsibility is great, and it is no longer the age of willful profligacy.

Therefore, for those meaningless feelings, we should break up, give up and leave. When you know how to "break up" in social life, you will find that your life will become easier.

People will meet many people in this life, but not all of them have to go into life. For those uncomfortable relationships, let's break up early.

After all, no one owes anyone, and no one has the obligation to accommodate anyone.

Blindly wronged themselves to cater to a person, then even if you finally maintain this relationship, but constantly let yourself suffer, why bother?

I read such a story on the Internet:

A young man shared an apartment with a colleague when he first joined the work.

When we first got together, the young man found this colleague very selfish, but he didn't care much. In his mind, everyone is a colleague, and it doesn't matter if he pays more.

However, the longer we spend together, the more uncomfortable young people feel. Every day, this colleague just doesn't pick up, his shoes and socks are littered, and he never pays for shopping together!

In this uncomfortable relationship, he endured for three months, and finally he was exhausted by torture, so he had to choose to end this relationship and find another house to move out.

Writer Su Qin said:

Being with comfortable people is the best health preservation, and being with uncomfortable people is the most serious mental destruction.

Comfort is the most important thing in life.

Therefore, no matter how close the relationship is, if you are always depressed when you get along, what you need to do is to end it early and stop the loss in time, and don't sacrifice your feet just for the luxury of shoes.

Perhaps in the hearts of too many people, they always feel that "there are many friends", so they are always active in parties, receptions and activities.

It seems that as long as you know and contact information, you will have contacts, and the road will be wider and wider in the future.

But in fact, contacts can never be obtained by eating a meal and drinking a glass of wine together.

If you are nothing, even if you know more people, you just know them. Finally, when you need help, you will find no one around.

My friend Daxing told me his experience.

When he first entered the society, he always thought that socialization was more important than ability, so he never considered how to learn skills and improve his business at work, but spent all his energy on tangled socialization.

There is no denying that he has met many people because he is keen to participate in various activities, and his address book is full of elites.

However, when he left his job and wanted to change his job, he sent a message to those elite friends for help. No one replied to his message, and many people even blacked him out.

At that moment, he really realized that it is impossible to have contacts without reaching a higher level!

Li Ka-shing said:

Networking is not being chased, but being attracted.

When you learn to choose, stay away from noise, abandon ineffective social interaction, and use the time saved to cultivate yourself, you will have more and more contacts.

Psychologist Weiner once said:

"The principle of reciprocity is the core of adult social communication."

A good relationship is that it is more expensive not to care about each other and not to consume each other. Only when two people are together can they learn from each other, not become worse, so that the relationship can be stable and long-lasting.

However, if in a relationship, there is always someone who makes you tired and makes it worse, then such a relationship will eventually come to an end.

I had dinner with my friend Ming Hong some time ago. He said that he had a quarrel with a friend some time ago.

I asked him what had happened.

He said that his friend is a particularly self-motivated person who is used to complaining. With this friend, he always feels particularly depressed and becomes more and more decadent over time.

Until later, he used a lot of human feelings, found many relationships, and arranged a job for this friend, but because this friend was not interested, he didn't arrive for half a month. And this friend not only does not reflect on himself, but blames him for finding a job that is not reliable!

He was completely disappointed with his friend and stopped seeing him.

There is a saying that:

"The sign of a person's maturity is that he can be more and more easygoing in appearance, but he must be more and more picky in his bones."

In the social process, you can give in occasionally, but don't be so omnipotent forever, and life is so short. Don't let anyone consume you and hurt you.

After all, you have no obligation to blindly sacrifice yourself to fulfill others.

Goethe famously said, "The greatest sin of man is unhappiness."

In getting along with others, don't force yourself, and don't waste your enthusiasm on meaningless people.

Only learn to give up, subtract interpersonal relationships, and spend precious energy on people who are really worth it.

Then your life can become more and more comfortable, and your life can become more and more exciting.

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