In fact, as far as all your performances are concerned, there is only one kind of potential abandonment tangled emotion in you, and speculation from beginning to end is absolutely unacceptable. On the other hand, as you said, there may be some problems, but that doesn't mean you are suspicious!
In my personal opinion, no matter how much doubt there is, it is better to go to the hospital for treatment. It's time to take some measures. Early treatment and early rest assured. I hope we can treat it with caution and prevent diseases without hurting our health! I hope you can get out of the misunderstanding as soon as possible!
Thank you for inviting me to read your description. I am really worried about you! You should go to the hospital to see: what is this situation? Is it a temporary performance after changing the environment and changing the job? Or something else? Only when the doctor gives a conclusion can we prescribe the right medicine! As for mobile payment, I suggest you check it out and find out who to transfer it to. This will dispel your doubts and stop worrying about it all day! I can only give you so much. I'm very sorry! I wish you an early adaptation to your new job and new environment! Get into work and blend in with colleagues! Relax, smile every day, spring returns to the earth, everything recovers, go out for a walk, and let the bright spring bring you a good mood. I believe it will improve!
(Photo: The mobile phone is on the road! )
Doubt comes from negative hints, either from others or from yourself. The so-called suggestion is to exert influence on people's psychology and behavior in an implicit and indirect way without analysis, criticism and resistance.
We often say that this person is "suspicious" all day, seeing others whispering that he is speaking ill of them, seeing his boyfriend or girlfriend greeting strangers of the opposite sex, wondering what happened between them, always wondering that he left the door open when he went out and walked back and forth several times, etc., thus affecting their lives and work. What if he is particularly suspicious?
I think from left to right. It won't help much if I dogmatically tell you the reasons for doubt and the ways to overcome it. Articles like this are everywhere on the Internet. It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish. Here, I introduce a meditation method with self-suggestion function for your reference. Combined with the ubiquitous core concept of SFBT in life, I believe that you have all the resources to change the current suspected situation, and emphasize the use of your own resources to achieve the purpose of change.
Mindfulness meditation is based on an accepting attitude-"accepting all the experiences that happened at that time."
Find a comfortable posture-practice of sitting, lying or standing (although sitting is the most common, lying down is easy to fall asleep): in a quiet environment, adjust your breathing, relax your body, maintain an irresistible posture and concentrate on a goal. The goal of meditation is not necessarily material, it can achieve an idea, an image or an event; It can also be repeating a sentence or a prayer in your heart; You can also observe your own thoughts, intuition or reactions; Or focus on the rhythm generated by the body (such as breathing).
Requirements for mindfulness meditation:
1. The meditation environment should avoid noise, exercise, strong light, telephone calls and other people's activities.
2. Make sure you feel comfortable: the room is warm, wear loose clothes, empty the bladder and gastrointestinal tract, and do not exercise within 2 hours after meals.
3, the back is straight, the body is relaxed, and the eyes are completely closed or half closed.
4. Breathe down through the nasal cavity into the abdominal cavity to ensure that your breathing is regular, slow and even.
5. Focus on an object, a word, a phrase or your own breath.
6. For those things that will distract the outside world, we should develop a negative and relaxed attitude.
If you want to have obvious effects: for example, you obviously feel less anxious and your body is no longer in a state of tension, you need to set aside a whole period of time (ten to twenty minutes) every day-it is best to meditate before eating in the morning, which can provide a good mood for the day's work. Practice at least six days a week for eight weeks. Arrange a special meditation place at home.
Sometimes you can ask yourself, is there any time when this situation will be better? What difference would it make if it were better? Or if one day, when I wake up in the morning and a miracle happens, will things be different and what will I do then? Or when I'm in a good mood, will others notice me differently?
Doubt is the initial symptom of many psychological patients. If it is not adjusted, it will gradually develop into a mental disorder. In daily life, as long as we strengthen positive self-suggestion and feel good about ourselves, we will not have a particularly suspicious psychological state.
Before answering the question, you need to know what doubt means.
Suspicious people think too much and think the worst of everything. The speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional, and the shadow is out of thin air. This kind of mood is chaotic and confusing. It will confuse you, confuse your friends and enemies and ruin your career.
Doubt is manifested in the process of communication, with a strong tendency of self-involvement. I always feel that other things will be related to myself, and I am too sensitive and suspicious of other people's words and deeds.
Look at your question and description again, it doesn't quite match. You've widened your suspicions.
If you feel suspicious, why not buy your own mobile phone? Is it so complicated to buy a mobile phone?
Now you can buy a mobile phone directly from the internet, or you can go to the store to choose and pay immediately. Why do you want to buy it from relatives? Can't you do this yourself?
I wonder how old you are. I feel that you are drifting away from this era and have no confidence in yourself, right?
It is nothing new that the money may have been transferred wrongly. Since you think it's wrong, why don't you check it quickly? Also come here to ask. How did you transfer the money? Mobile phone transfer is recorded.
This question has nothing to do with paranoia, which means you were not in the mood at that time. Be more careful next time.
Do you feel suspicious at ordinary times, so ask this question?
To solve this problem, we need to know the root cause first.
Everyone's problems are related to their family background. Think for yourself, every time you finish something, how does your family treat you, right or wrong? Is it encouragement or praise? Or blow, irony, or scold?
Children are scared when they make mistakes, and sometimes they don't know what to do. At this time, adults will say things, affirm the right place, and tell you why it is wrong and what to pay attention to next time.
Unfortunately, many families can't do this, and they are always simple and rude. It is possible to scold or beat. As a result, children have less and less confidence in themselves. I will be careful in the future, always afraid of being scolded.
This is how the prudent character is developed. People who are not confident are always afraid of doing things in the future. The more they want to show themselves, the more afraid they are of making mistakes. The more you are afraid of making mistakes, you will really make mistakes, because it is strange not to concentrate on your work and not to make mistakes. With this habit, how can people concentrate on their work?
If you are not confident and always afraid of being told, you will have doubts. Think the worst of everything. If someone inadvertently says something, they will wonder if they are talking about themselves again.
I'm just throwing a brick at the jade. How does your family of origin treat you? You have to remember it yourself. This is not a question of pestering who is right or wrong, and there is no need to hold grudges against parents, because most parents have such problems, and many people will not feel anything wrong when they are old. This is a cognitive problem. As adults, you should know that most parents love their children, but they just don't know how to love them.
Suspicious people are usually sensitive. Sensitivity is not necessarily a disadvantage. People who are sensitive to things are often very aura and creative, but if they are too sensitive, especially when interacting with people, it is to treat diseases! !
You should use reason to control your impulsive emotions and think calmly when something happens. Why doubt others? We must find out why. Don't doubt and blame good people.
If there is any misunderstanding, communicate in time and dispel doubts.
If others don't understand and have different opinions, it's normal. Let him talk. You should have your own persistence and confidence. Don't bargain with others.
Being yourself is the key. Confidence doesn't mean you have it. It comes from your own efforts again and again. Blind optimism is not self-confidence. You have to know what advantages you have first, or you have to study if you have no advantages. Do everything in a down-to-earth manner. Gradually accumulate experience, and that kind of self-confidence will give you a sense of security rooted in the earth.
Yes, suspicious people are insecure. The sense of security comes from the efforts of others, so it is better to give yourself a sense of security.
Suspicious people sometimes show that they are too idle, have no goals of their own and don't know what to do. So it's time for the brain to think. You have to find yourself something to do. Do what you like or learn something. People who concentrate on their work have no time to doubt others.
Read more books.
Again, be yourself! When you are confident, your eyes are firm and bright, and you can see things more fairly. Life will be full of sunshine!
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Hello, I'm Qiu Shuichangtian, a psychological counselor in Chengdu. I'm here to answer your question, hoping to help you!
First of all, how can you be sure that you are suspicious? What are your performances? Do you doubt all people and things, or do you doubt a special kind of people and things the most, or do you have doubts under certain environmental conditions?
Secondly, how to judge the severity of suspicion?
In fact, the so-called hypochondriac heart disease can be regarded as a neurotic mental disease in psychology, and in severe cases it may be schizophrenia. As for whether it is suspicious, or to what extent? Personal advice is to go to a local neurology department or a professional psychological counseling institution for professional diagnosis. After the diagnosis, what kind of illness, with the guidance and help of professionals, treatment or rehabilitation.
Many times, we are either sick or afraid of seeing a doctor. In short, personal advice is to go to a professional institution for professional diagnosis, and under the guidance of professionals, let our life be more quality! !
Doubt is an abnormal psychological state, which affects one's own consciousness, self-distrust, anxiety about others, fear of being hurt by others, and makes oneself uneasy, gain and loss.
To solve the problem, we must prescribe the right medicine. , the prescription is as follows:
Sexual name: hypochondria. Gender ` Male (female) Age: twenty (forty)
Take ten tablets with a calm mind (warm water, keep a positive and peaceful mind, use people without doubt, put your heart straight, trust people, let go of your hands and feet and let people do things). Take two tablets at a time.
Twelve boxes of letter-lifting pills, (overcome inferiority complex, establish noble quality, persist in studying every day, recharge yourself at any time, be optimistic, communicate with others more, and accept others' criticisms and ideas with an open mind. ) Take four tablets at a time.
Six boxes of tree mirror pills, (learn from the feelings of nobles, don't be narrow-minded, don't be like Cao Cao, who is suspected of killing the savior and Hua Tuo, delaying life. ) Take one pill at a time.
Doctor: Save Ren.
Note: Jiante takes it, listens to music, dances square dance, and knows the way of health preservation. You can't fish for three days and dry the net for two days. It takes a person who tied the bell to untie the bell.
This problem is either that you suspect that you are seriously ill, or that your memory is not good, but that your brain has degenerated. At this rate, your psychological burden will be heavy. You should see a doctor. A person who is too suspicious can't do anything well and won't trust others. To overcome his mentality, you must see a psychiatrist and untie his heart. Don't be paranoid all day.
Let your heart become too complicated, let it go, adjust your mentality and do things honestly. If you make others have no sense of honesty, you will never get things done.
From your description, we can see that your life is not easy, you worry about many things, you are afraid of not doing well, and you are forgetful.
Faced with this situation, I think you should first relax yourself, have more rest and make your life happy.
Secondly, you should face the reality, proceed from reality and strengthen physical exercise, such as running, fitness, swimming and so on.
Finally, you can keep a diary in your daily life and gradually strengthen your memory.
In this way, you will recover soon.
Hello! In real life, some people are always suspicious: other comrades whisper and suspect that they are talking about themselves; Others are unhappy, their faces are not good-looking, and the spearhead of doubt points to themselves; Others went to the leader and suspected that he would speak ill of himself; When someone inadvertently says something unsatisfactory, doubt means cursing ... This kind of unwarranted suspicion will dust the feelings between people, cause cracks in their friendship, affect unity and bring endless troubles to themselves.
Unreasonable suspicion of others will lead to a series of wrong actions, hurt the feelings between people and bring serious consequences to work. In real life, incidents of abuse, fighting and murder caused by chasing shadows and being suspicious of ghosts often occur, which shows that suspicious psychology often becomes the root of tragedies and disasters.
Everything is suspicious. What should we do?
First of all, we should respect objective facts. Be good at observing and investigating people and things around you, and never be confused by superficial phenomena, make subjective guesses or make arbitrary judgments. Because superficial phenomena sometimes do not reflect the essence of things. The understanding of people must be from the outside to the inside, overcoming superficiality and one-sidedness.
Secondly, there must be measurement. Even if others are really talking about themselves, don't care. As the saying goes, no one said behind anyone, and no one said before anyone. What are a few comments? As long as you are aboveboard and open-minded, don't care about other people's comments. On the other hand, if you haggle over every ounce and doubt that others can't pass you, that little pimple will become an insurmountable gap.
Third, suspicious people often have their own indiscretions, fearing that others will talk about themselves behind their backs and even become suspicious. Therefore, the most important thing is to stand up straight. If there are shortcomings and mistakes, we must dare to admit them and resolutely correct them.
Fourth, once you have doubts about others, you should tell them frankly and frankly. Being honest with others can not only eliminate misunderstandings and doubts, but also enhance the feelings between people. Harmonious relationship and mutual trust are conducive to unity and progress hand in hand, and the anxiety and distress caused by paranoia will be swept away.
How to solve doubts? I think suspicious people are often people who are good at observing the details of things, analyzing the ideological trends of others, and paying special attention to others' attitudes and views on themselves. For example, whether others are enthusiastic about themselves, whether they respect them, whether they have anything and so on. I think the solution is:
First, trust others. If others don't talk as enthusiastically as before, it's not necessarily because they have problems, because others don't just deal with themselves, but also have many things in their lives. They may encounter unhappy things in other things, and both happy and unhappy people may have them. Others don't have to smile at themselves every time; Moreover, others do things that hurt themselves, not necessarily intentionally, but often unintentionally. Don't ask too much of others, don't look too much at others, trust others;
Second, have confidence in yourself. As long as you are fair to others, do your best, be honest and have a clear conscience, you must believe that you will have a suitable position in the eyes of others, and don't over-interpret other people's temporary events;
Third, the most important thing is not to care too much about other people's thoughts and opinions about themselves. If you care too much, the problems mentioned above will appear. As long as you have a clear conscience, you can know everything. Some people don't understand something today, maybe tomorrow, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, or never, so forget it. This kind of thing has happened to me more than once. Again, it is good to have a clear conscience. Paying too much attention will only torture yourself. I believe. In this way, the suspects will be much less.