In the process of studying Chinese medicine, she found that many changes have taken place in modern people's lives, especially in emotion. Material abundance does not bring emotional harmony, but spiritual poverty and leads to many diseases.
Therefore, Professor Qu said: Marriage is against human nature, and most diseases are emotional diseases, which are caused by unsatisfied desires.
It is human nature to love the new and hate the old, just like wearing clothes at ordinary times. No matter how beautiful the clothes are, they will lose their freshness after being bought and worn for a while, and no matter how delicious the dishes are, they will be annoying if they are eaten all the time. If everyone's hobbies and choices can last forever, I'm afraid the clothes shop will have no business.
She said that in fact, more than 95% of the problems in marriage are due to unsatisfied desires. Especially after marriage, the needs of both husband and wife are quietly changing.
Men get married more for living and carrying on the family line, and there are people waiting for him to eat at home. And women get married for love. They need someone to talk to and care about.
But when you get married, you will find that these things have changed. Men never participate in the life of daily necessities. Women yearn for love, but face daily necessities. Is it a contradiction to put the cart before the horse?
The two men quarreled over a trivial matter, as if it were caused by something. If we spy on the root cause, it is more that their "love" has gone wrong.
In Professor Qu Limin's view, it is precisely because of unsatisfied desires that many people feel that they can't get what they want, and they will have anxiety in their hearts and pass this emotion on to both husband and wife.
If you think about it from another angle, life is actually not so unbearable. The key is to adjust your mentality.
A glass of water is common. We drink it every day. The medicine is very powerful, but no one wants to take the initiative to drink it. This medicine can cure diseases, but if we drink it wrong, the consequences can be imagined.
Professor Qu Limin also said: Being a man is to cultivate one's mind, and the essence of cultivating one's mind is to preserve one's health. If you don't have a positive attitude, even if the sky is clear in Wan Li, your heart will be raining cats and dogs.
There is no hurdle, and the way is always more difficult than the difficulty. Only a calm and inclusive heart is the foundation for a husband and wife to grow old together.
Qu Limin, a professor of traditional Chinese medicine, combines traditional Chinese studies with traditional culture. Her Reflections on Life, from The Book of Songs to Huangdi Neijing, from illness to psychology, from love to marriage, is very interesting to understand life from a dialectical and philosophical perspective.
Shi Hanbing, a financial writer, said, "Meditations on Life is a very interesting book, full of great wisdom and profound philosophy. This is a book about life. When you open a few pages, you are deeply attracted by the wonderful interpretation in the book. You can't help reading it all at once. "
For those who are troubled by negative emotions such as anxiety, resentment, depression, pain, sadness and desire, or those who are in a sub-health state due to great pressure, I suggest you read The Meditation of Life carefully, which can make you integrate your body and mind under the guidance of extensive knowledge of traditional Chinese medicine and get a quiet and healthy life.