Love is selfish, but this selfishness is relative. You can ask your girlfriend to be single-minded, and you can ask her not to be too close to the opposite sex ... but this requirement has certain restrictions. Asking your girlfriend not to contact with other members of the opposite sex is a sign of disrespect for your girlfriend.

Mutual respect and trust in love is the premise. If you can't even do these two things, it will be difficult for this love to continue. Fortunately, your girlfriend may think that you care too much about her. Over time, you will feel suffocated. Everyone has personal freedom, and it is not for others to decide who to associate with.

Xiao Zhang is the most taciturn person in our office. In the past, he was enthusiastic. Whenever a colleague is in trouble, he is always the first to lend a helping hand. We all like him. But in the past six months, he has changed ... I don't know what happened. He became reticent and often made mistakes in his work. Later I learned that his wife had betrayed him. They grew up together as childhood friends and came to Shanghai to work hard together. Now they all have their own small families and live a happy life. However, his wife actually hooked up with a close friend of her best friend. It is said that the man is from Shanghai, has a car and a house, is divorced and has a 5-year-old child. Xiao Zhang knew that he could let bygones be bygones as long as his wife no longer had contact with him in the future, but his wife insisted on divorcing him. In this way, Xiao Zhang was immersed in this grief for half a year.

Later, his friends introduced him to several girlfriends one after another. One of them is very suitable for Xiao Zhang. I can see that they are very happy together. The good times didn't last long, and the two men were in conflict again. Xiao Zhang was stimulated by his ex-wife and asked his girlfriend not to contact with any opposite sex. My girlfriend is a kindergarten teacher, and she usually contacts her mother. Naturally, there are not many male friends, and even the headmaster, male colleagues, male classmates and Xiao Zhang restrict communication. Xiao Zhang actually asked his girlfriend to resign and work in a health club that only provides services for female customers. When his girlfriend refused, Xiao Zhang threatened not to eat or drink. His girlfriend really liked him and was moved by his infatuation, so he had to respond.

Who knew Xiao Zhang was worse? As long as there is a man, she will not be allowed to go. She needs a female hairdresser to cut her hair. Some male students are not allowed to go to the reunion. Even the male driver who took a taxi wouldn't let her sit ... My girlfriend really can't stand this restriction. She broke up with him in a fit of pique. Now Xiao Zhang knows that she has gone too far, but she will never come back. ...

Love is not a restriction, not a control. All this is caused by my own desire for control. If you want to love someone, you should give him full trust and respect, otherwise love will not last long.

I am a sentimental girl, Hami melon Zhu. Words like me, warm your heart, let's talk about feelings together ~