One day in the summer of 20 13, I saw the word "seven-year-old blood transfusion" on my blog. At that time, I immediately felt very entangled and scared. After nearly half a year of brewing and combing, I finally accepted myself. Because I have met many friends and students, they all dislike themselves more or less, and want to use my personal story to prove the process and benefits of accepting themselves.
Let's first understand the definition of 7-year-old blood transfusion: It is mentioned in the Chinese medicine health book "Wisdom without getting sick" that the female body takes 7 years as a cycle. Women will have great physiological changes at 7 years old, 14 years old, 2 1 year old, 28 years old and 35 years old, which is closely related to the training situation in the first seven years. The male cycle lags behind slightly, about eight years. Medically speaking, every seven years, people's whole body bones, cells and blood will renew themselves. If you want to reinvent yourself and be a person, you can shape yourself in a seven-year cycle. Let's stop talking about magic. Let's link the theory with itself and examine how each seven years is spent.
Second, combing:
In the past, I did not pay attention to the concept of seven years. Generally speaking, 1 to 7 years old, 8 to 14 years old, 15 to 2 1 year old, 22 to 28 years old and 29 to 35 years old. I have an idea to recall the past year after year from the beginning. At first, I was completely disgusted, rejected and unwilling to face it. After constantly encouraging myself and trying to recall, I slowly combined my past life's confusion.
1, comb from birth and affirm yourself:
The first and second seven years, from 1 to 14, went smoothly. I have been a good girl since I was a child, and I have been learning cultural knowledge and talents step by step. I was admitted to No.50 Middle School, a key middle school in Chongwen District, Beijing, and the previous 14 years were not in vain. I know I have to finish primary school and go to a good middle school after graduation. Recalling this period, my heart is both practical and satisfied.
2, accept the part that is not good enough:
In the third and fourth seven years, I was miserable and at a loss, and I didn't want to improve all kinds of things that happened in middle school, university and work at ordinary times. /kloc-during 0/4 years, I have no goals, no plans, no actions and no inspections.
The third 7 years, from 15 to 2 1, high school, university.
Rebellious high school stage: Because of his good grades in the senior high school entrance examination,/kloc-after graduating from junior high school at the age of 0/5, he directly began to study in No.50 middle school. When I was a freshman, many students took the initiative to chat with me with admiring eyes and asked: Are you Yuan Chunnan? I didn't understand it at first, but later I realized that my motivation for junior high school English was known by many students and I was also famous in the study circle. I thought for a moment: it turns out that learning can also make people famous. However, the difficulty of the senior one course has come up, and I think I can adapt to it by continuing the learning rhythm of junior high school. But because of an event, life suddenly changed.
I grew up with grandma's parents. At that time, my grandmother's house was going to be demolished, so I had to leave my accustomed living and learning environment and move back to my parents' house. From self-management to passive management mode. Before I can adapt to the curriculum content, learning style and interpersonal relationship of senior high school freshmen, I have to deal with all kinds of contradictions in my parents' life. The core problem only appears in the handling of the relationship with the father. My dad always seems to be dissatisfied with everything. It should have been an easy thing to eat after going home. He was under great pressure at work at that time. Every time I eat in front of the news broadcast, he always uses abuse to express it, which leads me to learn to lose my temper. Like him, I used to be frowning and unhappy. Even if I expressed my opinion at school, I was fighting with others. My father especially likes to scold me when eating, because this is the only time he sees me in a day. I refused to eat when he swore. Now there are more people in contact with him, and some people will say that they didn't have enough to eat when they were young. I felt that when I was a child, I was in a bad mood and stubborn, and I couldn't eat at all. So people's fate does not depend on whether there is money at home, which is probably the same feeling. Later, because of this incident, I regretted missing the best period of physical development. I'm still so thin that I can't get fat after eating anything. I am desperate. More than 50 girls envy me for not eating anything. In my opinion, I'd rather not have this advantage.
In those days, I wanted to eat plum, but my dad told me to throw it away when he saw it, saying it was unsanitary; I want to watch TV, but he won't let me watch it. You should hurry up and study. I want to read comic books. He sold a box of precious books that I had collected for three years. The key is that I didn't know the book was gone until I got home that day, and I got back two dollars. I'd better not have any personal thoughts, or I'll only be beaten. At that time, I hated my father, and he thought I was very disobedient. He would hit me when I was a freshman. Later, because I grew up slowly, I ended the education of bonzi. During this period, my mother never intervened in every round of quarrels. She is not good at words, and only hopes that the quarrel will subside naturally. I am unhappy every day, and I can't think of any way to change the status quo. I began to give up on myself, and my rebellious attitude reached its peak. I put all my energy into playing computer games to escape the unpleasant parts of my life. At that time, I was expressionless every day. Wearing headphones when going out, riding untidy to mix high school every day. I can't wait for the day to pass quickly, so I can go home at night and continue to immerse myself in the game world. Going to school has become like a boring job. I don't care about my future academic career planning like other students. I don't know if I want to go to college after graduating from high school, and I don't know what it is to go to college. I don't care about anything, so I think life is too slow. Later, I learned that unhappy days always give people a particularly long feeling.
Confused university stage: I finally graduated from senior three, and the Millennium of 2000 came. Two years before college, I was confused and blind. I didn't study hard and continued the rhythm of broken pots and falls in high school. I didn't leave any good memories, and I didn't have any experience for future reference. Among my classmates, I am still a timid child. When I was a junior in 2003, because of the SARS incident, all the children from other places rushed home to hide. Naturally, I have nothing to do when I go home every day, so I bought a modem, commonly known as "cat", and surfed the computer with the meowing every day. At that time, there were very few things I could do online, only a few fixed web pages, and actually only some junk mail. One day, while browsing the web, I came into contact with Yi Bei. After a brief study, I suddenly had a brainwave and photographed some idle items at home and uploaded them to the webpage. In less than two days, someone took photos of the appointment to meet and trade. I remember that day I took a big mask and went straight to the East Gate of the Temple of Heaven in an empty Dagong car. As agreed, I traded 50 yuan cash for a black Santana and my sister. We paid for the goods with one hand and delivered them with the other. My sister took something and left me with a 50 yuan bill. I always remember this scene clearly. After SARS, I went back to school, looking for various sources of goods to do online shop and attend classes. In the meantime, Yi Bei Online Store will sell 5 diamonds. When the business was relatively smooth, I graduated unconsciously in 2004.
The fourth 7 years: 22 to 28 years old, working.
During the period of foreign enterprise: the online store just achieved a monthly flow of 6,000 yuan, which established a little confidence and made people happy. I really want to continue my business, but my father has once again affected my life. He wants me to work in a regular company with insurance. In this way, I accepted an interview with Nokia Beijing headquarters. The work was urgent and I was asked to work directly. Between personal ideals and family conflicts, I chose to maintain the latter. From August 2004 to April 2006, I closed my company at will and worked as a secretary at Nokia. In less than two years, I rode an electric bicycle every day and shuttled back and forth from the East Second Ring Road to the East Third Ring Road for three hours in the morning and evening. I have gained a lot during this period, but I am exhausted every day. I'm doing a decent job in a five-star palace company, but I get an indecent low salary. During this time, I didn't realize too much self-worth, no entertainment, only work, and I was too young.
State-owned enterprise period: From May 20, 2006 to September 20, 2006, I worked in a state-owned enterprise in the mobile phone communication industry, doing various marketing, market planning and training management. I think the most wasteful stage of life is high school and working in a state-owned enterprise. The striking similarity is that when I got home, I was trapped in the accumulation of games and CDs. Because I don't like what I'm doing, I just run away. The fourth seven years ended like this. Looking back, it can be said that it was completely wasted. I don't like this kind of work, but I don't know what I like. I'm confused and don't know how to express it, only complaining.
The fifth seven years: 29 to 35 years old.
After an unpleasant 14 years, I can't stand it any longer, and finally I have an open-minded moment. Some people ask what an open mind is, that is, you suddenly start to feel anxious about the past years. Like a gust of wind, it pushes a layer of dark clouds away, allowing you to see the lighthouse in the distance and know that you still want to pursue some happiness and goals in life. Since the age of 29, I have made progress and can pay attention to my personal growth every day. 30 years old, working very hard. I used the learning motivation of primary school and junior high school to push forward and constantly supplement. 3 1, 32, 33, 34 years old, also entered a state of gradually living and understanding. The fifth seven years are coming. What kind of woman will I be at 35? Seeing this problem, I finally showed a knowing smile. I believe that everything that happened around me at that time must be warm and quiet. From the fifth seven years, what I am doing is to pay for the past inaction and update everything from appearance to connotation. It's never too late to start. I began to completely transform myself, reinvent myself!
Third, reflection:
Re-recognize and reflect on yourself. Know which years are hard work and which years are reduced points. Maybe my experience is typical. Like an arithmetic problem, I got 14 in the first 14 year, and I got 14 in the second 14 year. At the age of 29, I began to increase 1 point every year, and now I am 34 years old.
Health = 14- 14+6=6. . . Well, I'm a man with six spots on my head now. So what? This is the real me. Quantify your quality of life with simple addition and subtraction. This method is extremely simple! Now it's 6 points, stick to it and fill yourself up with 1 point every year. In this world, only you will know how to get every 1 point and how to lose every 1 point.
Looking at the calculation formula, I am satisfied, sorry and moved. But fortunately, through combing my life experiences once every seven years, I finally gradually understand who I am, what I like and what kind of life I want. Some people say that there is a fixed number of tears in one's life. It seems that I shed the most tears during the third, fourth and seventh years. I hope I've shed enough tears. From now on, I want to smile at life. What should go will always go, and what should come will always come.
Conclusion: Accept yourself early. Let's calculate the life score. Very early and practical, I won't lie to you.