When we are in the prime of life and full of energy, we don't feel how hard life is, and we don't think about what life will be like when we are old. This is also something that many people under this age don't think about and don't understand the actual situation. Instead, I think I can enjoy family happiness, fishing, dancing, playing chess, chatting with friends and enjoying my old age leisurely.

The reality is not exactly what people think. The 80-year-old man told us the real situation, telling us that most old people actually live a very poor life. Why do they feel this way? Why on earth did he say that?

Share this story with your own ears. Let's have a look.

Go back to the village to chat with Bo Huang, 8 1 year old;

Bo Huang is older than my father 12 years old. He is called uncle according to his seniority. He is 8 1 year old this year. It was also when I went home to see him this time that he talked about his life and realized that he still felt very poor when he was old.

The old man said that he ate 8 1 year-old this year and lived a miserable and lonely life every day. His wife left the year before last, leaving him alone at home. He feels that this person's living too long is not a blessing, but a burden. Moreover, the old man said that he always felt that this person was too poor and helpless. He felt very uncomfortable and unhappy, so he wanted to go out to visit relatives and friends.

When I came back, I sighed deeply. It turns out that this person is all the same when he is old, and he lives very pitifully, even a little wronged. He is not alone.

The old man has three children. It stands to reason that life in old age should not be very bad, and you can enjoy your old age. However, after he was 80 years old last year, his body began to suffer from various ailments, and he gradually became unable to take care of himself. He had to rely on his sons, but the children were unwilling to take care of him, so he agreed to live with his family for a month.

The old man said that he had only lived for a few months and often moved around, just like begging. He is very uncomfortable and humbled, and he can clearly feel the impatience of the younger generation, but he can still see it on his face because his family relationship is not clear.

Yes, this man is old and useless. He will be an eyesore everywhere in his son's house and affect their lives. The old man said that he actually knows that living at such a big age is not a good burden for the younger generation, so he rarely talks unless he has to, but even so, no matter how modest and cautious the old man is, his wife will give him a look.

The most uncomfortable thing is that every time a daughter-in-law goes home to see the old man, she will cover her nose and mouth with her hands, not to mention changing the sheets and quilts for him. She vomited so much that she even thought the old man was dirty. The old man said that he loves cleanliness and takes a bath every day. Although he has poor self-care ability, at least taking a bath is ok, just slowly. The old man said that he was used to it since he was a child, and he was reluctant to throw away old clothes and didn't like to buy them.

But to tell the truth, the old man said, no matter how you wash it, the smell of the old man can't be washed away when you are old. There is nothing he can do but live a thief's life carefully. It's really not a smell.

The old man said that he didn't want to burden his children. He wanted to live alone, but this was not his life. His legs and feet are not as flexible as before, and there is no one around to take care of him. It is really difficult and helpless. He said that as long as he was a little better, he would move back to live. He didn't want to attract attention, so he wiped his tears while talking.

We also asked the old man, since he is unhappy at his son's house, why not go to a nursing home or find a nanny to take care of him?

I've thought about all this, but I can't afford it. He said he didn't have a pension and he didn't work in the company. He is just an ordinary farmer. His monthly pension is still a few hundred dollars given by the state, and his life is barely enough. He doesn't want to go to a nursing home to hire a nanny. Besides, his son is not rich and won't let me go, so he just thinks about it. He can't open his old mouth!

We are a small place, with no pension, no financial resources, poor health and being rejected by the younger generation, but there is nothing we can do. People are old and don't depend on their children. Who do they rely on?

It's okay to be a little disgusted, but it's better than having a full stomach. When you are old, you have to admit that you are old, but you can't accept it!

The old man said that he always felt that his son was useless at first, and he was miserable. He just wants to go out and see his former friends and his brothers and sisters before he is too old to get out of bed, walk or see people clearly. Maybe this is the only time in his life, so he wants to go out very strongly. After discussing with his sons, he also agreed to go out for only three days, hoping that it would be better to go out and come back.

The old man said that after the sons agreed, they contacted these relatives and friends and said that they wanted to see each other's thoughts, packed their bags and prepared to leave.

The first family is my own brother, an 89-year-old brother. The situation is similar to his own. He also lives on his son. In the past few years, he has been unable to take care of himself. He had a little difficulty walking and had to borrow crutches to help him. His eyes can't see clearly When he almost had his tooth knocked out, he said that when he went to his brother's house, both brothers were very excited. In the evening, the two brothers slept in the same bed, and the elder brother gently hugged his younger brother and cried silently for a long time.

The old man said that from the first day he came, his brother's eldest daughter-in-law looked bad. He doesn't like his brother like a beggar, but even a poor old man likes him. His brother whispered to him that he was very wronged at his son's house, and his daughter-in-law deliberately worked hard and fried the food very salty. He doesn't have enough to eat at all. He is always hungry. He also said that his kannika nimtragol was in a hurry and the relationship was even more incompatible.

The old man said that he wanted to talk to his brother the next day and contact his feelings for the last time in his life, but for the sake of his nephew's daughter-in-law, he didn't want him to play any more. As the saying goes, "Go out to see the sky, come in to see the face", and the host does not welcome guests. How can you stay?

The old man said that his brother held his hand tightly when he left, tightly! Afraid of seeing each other again in the next second, both brothers burst into tears and patted their brother on the shoulder and said, "Take care, brother! My younger brother is gone, and I will still be a younger brother in my next life. " In my brother's despair, I left my brother's home with tears and the pain of parting.

The old man was immersed in memories. I lit a cigarette for him. The old man took it with a smile. He said he hadn't smoked for a long time. I don't know if the taste is pure. This makes me very sad.

The old man took a drag, slowly exhaled smoke, grinned at me and said, "Erwa, it still smells like this."

He said that he used to think his brother was very happy. After all, his brother used to be a carpenter. He was hardworking when he was young, and everything at home was his job. I didn't expect to see his brother's life this time, and my heart was very uncomfortable. I also feel that I am not worthy of his efforts, and I deeply feel the same pain. If you don't work hard for your children and have your own savings, who will want to look at other people's faces?

When I came out from my brother's house and went to my sister's house, I heard my sister crying, crying very sadly, and I could hear the deep grievances. I pushed open the door of the yard. When my sister saw his arrival, she wanted to comfort her old man, who was hugged by her sister and cried even more sadly. When my sister cried almost, the old man comforted her and stroked her gray hair, and tears fell down.

It turns out that my sister's life is not easy either. The children don't like her sister and can't help the family. She hates free food and drinks. My sister is almost 70 years old, but she looks about 80 years old. Listening to her complaints and grievances, the old man felt very uncomfortable. How can this life be so difficult? Are all old people the same? Should they be rejected by the younger generation when they are old? Why?

After he said he would comfort his sister, she called him in for a drink or something, but he really dared not come in. He is afraid of being treated as going to his brother's house, getting into trouble for his sister, and even more afraid that his grandchildren will take it out on his sister. This is not what my brother wants to see. Looking at the white-haired sister, the old man said that his heart ached and forced the only 300 yuan money into his sister's hand, although

My sister refused to take it anyway, pushing it around several times. The old man was angry and put it away, but tears fell down. The old man gently wiped away his sister's tears and told her to live a good life and stop crying, so that her eyes would go blind. He said he would come to see her again when he was free, but he knew it might be the last time brother and sister met.

When I left my sister's house, my sister leaned against the door with a sad face and tears. I can't hide the affection of my brothers and sisters, but they are old and can't do it!

The old man said that he was cruel and didn't look back to see his sister, but slowly disappeared from her sight and only came out for two days. Why does this feeling feel so deep? After seeing the life of his younger brother and sister, he felt that he had a good life at his son's house. This pair of contrasts only knows that when you feel sorry for yourself, in fact, someone is more pitiful than you, and the thoughts in your heart will be a little smoother.

Later, I went to a few friends' houses, and the situation was similar. They all managed to survive, neither better nor worse. They all spent three days simply as if it had been several years. Come out and say that you will go home in three days, or your son and daughter-in-law will blame them again.

Moreover, these days, the old man said that his son and daughter-in-law had no contact at all. He often looks at the old man's machine, but there is no bell in it. Maybe his son and daughter-in-law didn't care about their own safety and life and death at all.

It was noon when I got home 12. My son and daughter-in-law are eating. Watching the old man come back, no one said hello, no one said hello, and no one shouted "Dad, come and eat". The old man said that he was embarrassed at that time, as if it were really unnecessary. When outsiders come, he knows to say hello, but when dear dad comes, he doesn't care, not even outsiders!

The old man ignored his son and daughter-in-law, went into the house and put down his things. He washed his hands and changed into clean clothes before coming out, but there was no extra food on the table. There was a layer of rice crust under the rice cooker and soup on the table. The old man said that it is better to deal with a meal like this than to be hungry.

While chatting with the old man, his daughter-in-law came back from outside and watched us talking and laughing. Maybe it's because there are outsiders who take the initiative to say hello and let us go home for dinner. Of course, I don't know whether it's true or not here, but from the old man's flat mouth, it's just a courtesy.

The old man's daughter-in-law turned and entered the house. I quietly gave the old man 500 yuan. The old man was shocked and tried to push my hand away. I hissed, but the old man didn't make any noise. He knows the virtue of his daughter-in-law. If he knows about it, he will definitely lose it. He gently asked the old man to keep quiet and buy something to eat. It's not much, but it's just his heart. In the old man's disappointment, he didn't make any noise.

This man is old, is that true?

Maybe this is not all, but it is everywhere. After returning home, my parents and I talked about Bo Huang, and they were deeply touched. They just sigh, how many people can really do this kind of raising children to prevent old age?

I think so, too. Although we take care of our parents, we don't do our best. Now our parents are in good health, and our parents can take care of each other, but what about after they can't move?

For us as children, this is a question worth pondering. Whose time is not old?

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Perhaps Bo Huang's story can only reflect part of it, but for them, old people are worthless. Sometimes their children take care of them for a long time, and these emotions are inevitable. Not everyone can work hard, not to mention those old people who are in poor health.

So I also hope that the old people can relax a little and can't put all their hopes on their children. People will say that the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment. Mentality determines everything, no matter whether children are disgusted or not, as long as they can get by. Don't care too much, right?

But as a child, I also hope not to be so cruel, heartless, disloyal and unfilial. Everyone has an old day. Parents' present is children's tomorrow. Parents will work hard for their children all their lives, and they will be inconvenient to move when they are old. What's there to escape? What are the reasons for not liking parents more?

This also uses the words of my hometown, "the roof drops into the old nest", and the causal cycle.

Do you feel sorry for the living conditions of the elderly? How do you feel?

Have you ever thought about the life of the elderly?