Sister Jia, children married, grandchildren, her husband died of illness a few years ago, his family is well-off, he has his own pension, and he has several houses and shops for rent in Chengdu, with an annual income of nearly 200,000. She is beautiful and elegantly dressed. At first, she wanted to find a boyfriend, but the conditions were slightly better and her age was similar. People want to find a younger one, but she is much older than her, so she can't find one.
Sister B, thin, wears a pair of glasses, speaks softly and looks very gentle. When she was young, her husband disliked her daughter and never liked her. Finally, she divorced and remarried. She brought up her daughter, who is married and has children. She has been living with her daughter and has a pension, but she still chooses to work and dance in her spare time. She doesn't trust men and is biased against them.
Sister c, her husband has been dead for several years, and she has a pension. Now she helps others take care of dolls, with a monthly salary of 3000 yuan. Been with her for years. The doll likes her very much and brings her here to dance. She is a very nice girl. This girl is short and short, and her height is less than 1.5 meters. Every time she comes to dance, she wears half-high heels, but she has a smile on her face. We all like her.
Sister Ding, 50 years old, just retired. Her daughter gives her thousands of dollars every month. She has no job, is healthy, walks with wind and is divorced. She raised her eldest daughter alone. Her thoughts are different from those of her previous sisters. She usually likes reading, writing calligraphy, playing the harmonica, dancing and traveling. She looks forward to a beautiful relationship, but she doesn't want to be introduced. In other words, she doesn't want to be introduced. After being single for several years, she had a good time every day. She dances in the park with her portable stereo on her back every day and laughs like a flower. At first, she danced alone, but now she dances with a group of people, giving everyone a stereo. She is very happy every day, as if she has never been troubled. Perhaps, she has long been used to loneliness, or perhaps, she has long looked down on life.
Finally, it's good that women have been single!
Because the standard is high, it won't work. Take myself as an example. I am 69 years old and have been single for 20 years. I have a job to support myself and my daughter, and I have no worries about food and clothing.
Over the years, my friends and relatives have introduced me, but they are all inappropriate. I can't make do when I am young, and I can't do it when I am old. My friend said I was too demanding, maybe.
First of all, this person needs to have a stable job in a public institution. I don't like a man lying flat at home, even if he is rich. I think men must have their own careers to be attractive. I like the feeling of two people working together. Old in appearance, but as romantic as when I was young. I can't change it. There is no way.
Secondly, this person must be knowledgeable and have a higher educational level than me. I am extremely concerned about spiritual life and will never accept anything that we can't talk about together. In our small county, there were not many people admitted to technical secondary schools and junior colleges at that time, and even fewer men with high academic qualifications. Which woman will give up divorce? Therefore, I am destined to be single all my life.
A good friend recommended a doctor ten years ago. He graduated from medical college and is a doctor in a local hospital. His appearance is acceptable. But after getting along for a few months, I can't stand his unkempt appearance and unconstrained style ... forget it, why should I wronged myself at such a big age? If I can bear it, I wish I hadn't divorced and put up with my ex-husband!
Perhaps, my personality doomed me to be single all my life! I can't help it I am too stubborn in this matter. I think it's good to be single. I am free and don't have to cater to anyone. Now, I have lived the life I want: writing articles, listening to music, hiking ... There are still 28 months to retire, and I will pack my bags and go to the long-awaited poor travel and rural life.
I'd rather get caught in the rain without a suitable umbrella!
Not to mention old ladies in their fifties, even middle-aged women in their thirties and forties don't want to be single all the time.
A man who divorces his front foot is likely to remarry his back foot. Women are different. After the divorce, they wasted time and never rushed to renew their love.
Tell the truth! The objects of first marriage are generally selected after thousands of choices, and some exciting advantages can always be found. Want to remarry, look at the middle-aged and old men around you, how to act if you are unmoved?
Sister Liu is 54 this year. At that time, she was in her early 30 s, bound to a beautiful age, and her husband kicked her inexplicably. The reason is that a female doctor gave Liu Jie green, and people wanted to occupy the nest.
Sister Liu examined from a painful experience that she had no power or influence, but was just a laid-off worker from a state-owned enterprise. Finally, even the custody of his son didn't arrive, so he left home cleanly.
Her parents are full of ideas for her to talk about remarriage. Alas, even her own man can't control it. What courage does Sister Liu have to think about other men?
In her thirties, she despises old men, but how can there be so many suitable peers waiting in line for her? Height is a common problem for remarried women in that era.
Remarriage is like talking about business. Work, house, car, children, parents, can only be discussed according to their own wishes. Everyone wants to take advantage and eat a ready-made watermelon. Everyone is not a fool. If we talk about it, we will collapse.
Unlike talking about marriage when I was young, there is a little impulse in it.
Later, Sister Liu found the single life very easy.
You don't have to get up early to cook, you don't have to worry about your children's studies, and you don't have to go home from work. Life suddenly became calm.
Isn't the best time in a person's life that he has classes, money, filial piety, friends gathering and time to drink and fly?
Lao Yao, princess royal from Xiao Sheli, was born well and married well.
The reason for the divorce is that the husband's career is too successful, and the second wife is advancing wave after wave, enchanting and beautiful. Finally, a woman as beautiful as her, but younger than her, pushed her away.
Son, Lao Yao and her husband pay 30 thousand alimony every month. When I got divorced, I gave her two suites, plus 800 thousand cash. How can an ordinary man get into her eyes?
Besides, my husband is still thinking about the old love, and often goes to change her furniture, buy a mink and send some jewelry. Life is naturally short of everything.
Colleagues joked privately that Lao Yao had changed from a principal to a mistress, and her husband was even more biting the hand that feeds her.
Asked if Lao Yao ever thought about getting married again, she said that only fools get married! Live a free life, but struggle with a messy remarriage relationship.
Women who have jobs and money in the world don't want to remarry because she doesn't need to calculate who will get wealth. Similarly, she doesn't want to fall into someone else's love trap.
Life, simplicity is happiness!
The more anti-aging women are now, the more narcissistic they are. In a bad mood, buy buy dressed, looked in the mirror, immediately came back to life covered in blood, and ran out to date Feng Chun.
First, times have changed. There are no men at home, and women still live a comfortable life. You don't have to do it yourself. Take food and drink home.
Second, women now have jobs, income and retirement security, and money is more reliable than men. Who will fall into an uncertain marriage and torture themselves?
Third, freedom, less holding and less hanging. There are no family chores to travel, no husband and wife responsibilities to worry about, and some are the sounds of silk and bamboo, picturesque and eye-catching.
Fourthly, I am lucky to meet a good eye contact occasionally. After in-depth communication, I went to see it again and avoided it. What's wrong with coming and going at will, walking and staying at will?
Having said that, as a woman, do you still mind being single in your fifties?
When I went there, I felt that there were many old ladies in their fifties and seventies. They went to the morning market, went to the park during the day, sometimes participated in activities, sold health care medical equipment, and did moxibustion. Eighty percent are old ladies. Where have all the old people gone? Is it really because the life expectancy of the elderly is short? When they were young, they didn't care about their health and drank and smoked. I had a male classmate who died in his fifties. He has high blood pressure and heart disease. When he was young, he liked drinking and smoking. At the age of 52, he died of myocardial infarction. The child is not married. What a pity! People should cherish themselves and cherish life. My neighbor has a 60-year-old sister. The old man wants to divorce her. The old man often goes to dance halls and knows a woman in her fifties. The two of them jumped out of love. The old man divorced the old lady and asked her for money and a house. Don't even think about the house if the old lady doesn't give it. If the old man doesn't give it, he will beat the old lady and knock out her front teeth, but you won't give it. The woman who danced with him got married soon after the divorce. The next year, the old man went to Bijiashan to cast a net for fishing. A big wave trapped him in the sea and he died. Another man has left, so it is true that men cherish their good home and live a stable and happy old age.
First, because old ladies know how to lead an honest and clean life now, they are afraid that some old men will not be clean.
Second, the old ladies now have the ability to live independently. I don't want to find another bad old man to serve. [Cover your face] [Cover your face] [Cover your face] [Cover your face] [Cover your face] [Cover your face]
I may have been too blunt and hurt some people.
Just telling the truth. Please forgive me. [Pray] [Pray] [Pray]
According to international standards, 45-65 years old is middle-aged and 50 years old is an old lady? All the women around 50 you have met are old ladies. First of all, you have a bad eye. Are you at least 70 years old? [Cover your face] [Cover your face] [Cover your face]
Old ladies in their fifties are really popular now. It can be said that some people are really dressed as little aunts, and everyone is chasing her.
Some people say that men get divorced before they get married, but women are different. After divorce, they know that they are thinking about the past, and some want to remarry one day and live with their ex-husbands. This is the difference between women and men in treating marriage.
But now the old lady in her fifties really wants to be single, because she is bound by marriage all her life and really wants to have her own space to live.
Another reason is that old ladies in their fifties are very picky now. If they remarry, or find the other half, they are particularly picky. They are like looking for their first love, but how can they act when they see middle-aged and old men around them?
I'll just talk about an old lady I met in the Grand Square. She asked me to introduce a younger one to Luo Zhang.
She is Sister Ma in our community. She is 5 1 year old this year. At the age of 40, she parted ways with her husband because he gave her green. It was very unpleasant.
Every time she mentions her marriage, Ma Jie always looks disappointed, because she doesn't know how she got here or how she was inexplicably green by her husband.
She said that she is a flower in the community and has always had a stable job. She worked in a small state-owned enterprise in obscurity until now, and her final marriage ended like this, and she was very unwilling.
In fact, I can see Ma Jie very chic and fashionable every day, and she smells like perfume when she walks in front of her.
It is understood that Ma Jie's parents are still alive, they are also worried about their daughter's marriage, and they are also telling their neighbors to introduce their daughter.
But I admire Ma Jie for being single 1 1 year, if the average woman really can't help it. Probably married.
But now Ma Jie's requirements for marriage are not low. Only according to their own wishes can we talk about work, houses, cars, children and parents. If these points don't reach their satisfaction, they will never get married. At most, they just have dinner together.
Sometimes I feel that Ma Jie's search for a partner is just like the beginning, with many requirements and high standards.
I introduced three companies, mainly Ma Jie, who was demanding and demanding, and the bride price scared many people away.
The main requirement for her to get married is the same standard as her first marriage, 16 cars, not one less. The first car must be worth more than one million dollars.
Sometimes I laugh when I hear this condition, but Ma Jie is single by strength, so her condition is really difficult. But it is realistic.
Personally, I feel that the old lady in her fifties is really popular. They have their own savings, their own income and their own stable home. They can dress themselves up at any time, and it is common to go out to make up. A person's life is really full of blood and resurrection.
From Sister Ma, I also analyzed why there are so many single old ladies in their fifties, and I also have my own views.
First, I think the times have changed, and so have the old ladies' ideas. They think that women can live well without men. Second, the old lady in her fifties now has her own job and income, and she has her own security now and in the future. As long as they have money, it really doesn't matter whether they find a man or not. Third, they can get through it, feeling that they don't have so many things to do alone, and they have a lot of thoughts and troubles, and they won't quarrel over family chores. Freedom is most important. Fourth, they think that the main way to communicate with men now is to look at people. When they meet the right person, they will talk for a while, otherwise, they will turn their heads and leave. Fifth, I have experienced many things in my fifties, and many things are optimistic. I have become independent and strong, and I can do my own things in life and at home. Sixth, I feel older and older, and I don't have so much energy and time to run in with men. I'm a little overwhelmed, so it's good to be alone. Am I right? what do you think?
There are several reasons why women in their fifties are single.
First, many single women in their fifties are influenced by some poisoned chicken soup. When they choose a remarriage partner, they do not consider their own age, and blindly put forward some excessive demands to those middle-aged and elderly men, such as proposing family economic rights to men, proposing a one-time so-called bride price to men and so on. What's more, they asked those middle-aged and old men to add their names to their original real estate. These unreasonable conditions make middle-aged and elderly men really understand these women in their fifties.
Secondly, some women have high personal qualities and cultural attainments. Because of their high quality, when choosing a partner again, their eyes will naturally be much higher than ordinary people. But at present, middle-aged men with excellent conditions rarely choose older women. Most of these excellent men will make friends with women younger than themselves, which makes those excellent high-quality women in their fifties have to live alone!
In addition, women in their fifties are single, which is also related to their mate selection criteria. Men with good conditions, even if they are 50 or 60 years old, don't worry about finding a relatively young one, which is also costly. Who doesn't want to choose a better one?
It's not that single women in their fifties don't want to get married, but that it's too difficult to meet people who get along in all aspects.
Sister Zhao, 53, is a primary school teacher. More than ten years ago, her lover, a policeman, died in the line of duty. For the healthy growth of her daughter, she has never remarried. My daughter lived up to her training and applied to study in a French university.
Without children, a person's life is inevitably lonely. Persuaded by relatives and friends, she made up her mind to find a like-minded person to spend the rest of her life with.
The elder sister who danced in the square dance introduced her to a 60-year-old Li Dage, a retired government cadre with a monthly pension of seven or eight thousand yuan. A son and a daughter are married, and Li Dage's parents are still alive. They live with Li Dage and have a nanny to serve their parents.
The two met at brother Li's house.
Li Ge called Zhao Jie and the introducer to sit down and go into the kitchen to make lunch. Looking at the clumsy Zhao Dage, he was in a hurry. Sister Zhao offered to help and cooked a sumptuous meal.
Li Ge is tall and strong, with wisdom hidden in his brow. Sister Zhao feels that she is not worthy of others at all. Unexpectedly, Li Dage said that he was very satisfied with Sister Zhao.
Li Dage said; "At our age, unlike young people, we still need to talk about love for a few years. If there is no opinion with each other, I hope to get married early. "
Brother Li made a plan for his future life. "You keep your salary. I will pay the living expenses. I have to spend some money to help my children pay their mortgage every month. If we get married, we won't need a nanny, so we can live a better life. "
Sister Zhao understands that Brother Li is not looking for a wife, but just looking for a free nanny to help him serve his parents together.
Colleagues introduced her to a skilled worker with a master's degree in business, one year younger than herself. Colleagues said that although the business master is a worker, his monthly salary is more than 5,000 yuan, and he occasionally does some private work to earn some extra money.
Looking for a wife at this age pays attention to the quality of life. Sister Zhao doesn't care much about her career. Sister Zhao is worried. Now middle-aged men want to find a "little" woman. Besides, this person has a good income. How can he find a big woman?
Colleagues say that the other person is a person who cares about his eyes and doesn't care about his age.
At a colleague's house, Sister Zhao met the business master. Her strong figure and dark and healthy complexion make the business master look much younger than his actual age.
The business master said frankly: "A few years ago, my wife was terminally ill. In order to treat her, she changed the big house into a small one and borrowed a lot of foreign debts. She spent a lot of money, but didn't keep anyone. " When it comes to emotion, my eyes are full of tears. Sister Zhao was moved by the kindness of the business master.
"After several years of hard work, the foreign debt has been paid off. Now I want to find a good woman with a house for a lifetime. "
The business master said awkwardly, "My son has a girlfriend now and has already talked about marriage. He can't afford to buy a house for his son at present, so he hopes to find a woman with a house and move out to make room for his son to get married. "
Eldest brother has repeatedly said that after marriage, the housework will be taken care of by himself.
"Children need money to get married, and there is still a shortage of money I am saving at present. If you can help me a little, I will give you the salary card after my son gets married, and I will listen to you for the rest of my life. "
Zhao Jie understood that this is not a secret love for her, but a secret love for her house.
Neighbors recommended their distant cousin, a farmer in his early sixties. The neighbor said, "My cousin is from the countryside, but his family is well-off. There is a cattle farm, an orchard with several acres of land and several greenhouses at home. Earn more than 200 thousand a year. Both sons are married and have no financial burden. "
Sister Zhao followed her neighbors and experienced a one-day trip to the farmhouse. My cousin's life is really rich. There are three families living in Xiaoyanglou, and the facilities in the house are as good as those in the city.
When eating, the children and grandchildren have a big family, which is very lively. Sister Zhao usually eats alone. For the first time, she felt the joy of her children and grandchildren around their knees.
My cousin is a very real person. He volunteered: "We are meant to be. If we can become a family, I am willing to pay you 5,000 yuan a month as our living expenses. " My cousin took a sip of wine and said, "I'm too old to do farm work." Let my sons handle the work at home. I can buy a house in the city as our residence. "
Sister Zhao feels that although her cousin is from the countryside, she also knows the world.
Cousin prevaricated and discussed with Sister Zhao: "My son and daughter-in-law are usually very busy and can't take care of the children. After we get married, we want to bring our four grandchildren to live in the city. "
Cousin gave his own reasons. "My own culture is not high, which delayed my two sons. I hope my grandson will become a promising person. The schools in the city are all good. You are a teacher. It should be no problem to teach children? "
Sister Zhao is not ready to be a grandmother for four children.
I took a taxi and met Master Qi, a single driver. One night, Zhao Jie and her friends went home by taxi after dinner, and suddenly her stomach ached. The driver, Master Qi, took her directly to the hospital without saying anything.
Sister Zhao has acute appendicitis and needs surgery. Master Qi took the initiative to pay the medical expenses and waited outside the operating room until Sister Zhao's younger brother arrived, then left silently.
Sister Zhao found Master Qi according to the phone number he left in the hospital. To show her gratitude, Sister Zhao treated him to a meal.
Sister Zhao learned that Master Qi had no parents or children. She divorced because her wife cheated in her early years, and later she didn't have a girlfriend. The two people hit it off very well and became friends in the long run.
Slowly, the feelings of the two people warmed up. Master Qi began to pursue Sister Zhao, two lonely people who appreciated each other.
Talking about marriage, Master Qi suggested going to the hospital for a physical examination. Sister Zhao didn't think much, so she did a physical examination according to the project chosen by Master Qi.
"I like children. Can you give me a child? The physical examination proves that we can still have children. " Master Qi said with a medical report.
Sister Zhao felt that it was risky to have children at such an old age, so she refused Master Qi's request and the two broke up.
Several failed blind date experiences did not dispel Sister Zhao's desire to have a home. So, Sister Zhao signed up for an old-age blind date program held by the TV station. The matchmaker of TV station is also warm-hearted. First of all, she introduced three conditions to the elder sister, all of whom are quite male guests.
The first male guest, 60 years old, just retired, all kinds of conditions are not bad. He loves reading and traveling, which coincides with Sister Zhao's hobby. After seeing him, eldest brother confessed his appreciation for her. Without saying a few words, the two men went straight to the point and talked about their married life.
Big brother put forward the idea of living expenses AA system. He thinks that when two people get married, they are a family, and the living expenses should be shared. It's not that Zhao Jie can't get the half of the living expenses, but that something is wrong.
The second male guest is one year older than Sister Zhao. Although this eldest brother looks ordinary, he is well dressed. He spoke his mind directly. He thinks sister Zhao is getting older and older. His ideal partner should be about five years younger than himself.
When the matchmaker said that Zhao Jie's salary was five or six thousand yuan a month, the man immediately began to praise Zhao Jie for her good temperament and culture.
It turns out that this big brother only has 1340 labor insurance every month and doesn't have his own house. At present, I share a room with others and hope to move to Sister Zhao's house immediately.
The third male guest, a 70-year-old retired cadre. Although this eldest brother is old, he looks very energetic and capable. He made a lot of promises to Zhao Jie, and gave her 3,000 yuan of living expenses every month, which was freely controlled by Zhao Jie, and saved 2,000 yuan for Zhao Jie as security money every month.
He also said that he could take Zhao Jie to live in the south in winter and return to the north in summer. If physical conditions permit, you can take Sister Zhao to travel abroad every year.
He said confidently. My ability to live is relatively poor. After marriage, washing clothes, cooking, cleaning and other household chores have to be done by Sister Zhao. He needs sister Zhao to serve him.
He wants to sign a contract with Sister Zhao, and the money he saved for Sister Zhao can only be taken out after his death, and can't be moved before that. If my sister doesn't wait on him until he dies, then my sister Zhao won't get a cent of the money he saved.
Sister Zhao just wants to be family. She has a companion in her life, so she won't be too lonely. Unexpectedly, there are various conditions hidden here.
Now, Sister Zhao has given up the idea of remarriage. She felt that she couldn't cope with the various conditions attached to remarriage. She decided to join various elderly groups when she could walk, and spend her old age in a nursing home when she could not.
At present, most women in their fifties can't be said to be old ladies. They are educated, well-maintained, rich and clothed, not as good as those in their thirties. If you are single at the age of 50 and find an old man to wait on you, you must not understand.