Why is there a difference between female thinking and male thinking? From ancient times to the present, no matter at home or abroad, women are in a state of repression in a society centered on male rights. Society has never given women the opportunity to receive education and participate in various social opinions. Let's see why there is a difference between female thinking and male thinking.

Why are there differences between women's thinking and men's thinking? 1 This lesson, presented to men and women of all ages in China, is a spiritual lesson that helps to improve the relationship between husband and wife, safeguard the happiness of marriage, and enable husband and wife to complete their life journey together.

When Clinton and Lewinsky were having an affair, Clinton's wife Hillary Clinton started cold violence at home and prepared for a divorce. Congress and other political parties are also actively preparing to impeach the president. Clinton and Hillary are in an unprecedented predicament. Through John Gray's consulting service, after being silent for half a year, Hillary Clinton said this to the media and the American people, which calmed Clinton's political crisis:

"Clinton is only sorry for Hillary, not for the American people." This is the wisdom of John Gray.

It is well known that men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

The author said this mainly to explain the differences in thinking and body structure between men and women.

In the west: Mars represents Mars, the god of war, symbolizing brave and masculine masculinity, while Venus represents Venus, the goddess of love, symbolizing gentle and delicate femininity.

Let's see if it is:

Men are strong and women are soft.

Men are good at rational thinking, while women are sentimental.

Men are well-founded, women are miserable and have strong subjective feelings.

Therefore, men often think that women are importunate, while women think that men make no sense at all.

Isn't this a huge difference between thinking mode and body structure?

The biggest complaint women have about men is that men never know how to listen. When they hear women nagging and complaining, they are either absent-minded and deaf, or draw conclusions after listening to a few words, and then proudly put on the hat of "problem expert" to help them make suggestions. Men think,

Their performance of love can make women be elated, but unfortunately, women never buy it. So, the man is puzzled: he is very sweet, but she is very sad. Why on earth? You know, women need a pair of listening ears, and they are more eager to feel the same, while men always mistakenly think that she needs help.

No matter how much women take pains to emphasize that men don't listen carefully, it is always difficult for men to get the message, and they still repeat the same mistakes, making women complain, but they can't vent. The crux of the matter is that a woman needs empathetic listening, while a man thinks she needs a solution.

For women, the biggest dissatisfaction of men is that women always want to transform them. Once a woman falls in love with this man, she feels it is necessary to help him grow up and make him more perfect. She turned into a "transformation expert", and men became her primary goal of transformation. No matter how much he resists and hates this practice,

She has a firm attitude and wants to transform him whenever she has the chance, telling men how to stand in the world, how to treat people and how to succeed! She thinks she is caring for him and taking care of him, but men feel firmly controlled by women and have no room to breathe. Women don't understand, what men need is her recognition and acceptance.

In Gong Dou Ji, which was just completed not long ago, Wei Ailuo was loved by two great men in the world, especially the dragon, the backbone of the country, who almost obeyed him. However, Wei Ailuo still thinks that Gan Long is a big pig's hoof. Due to the popularity of the play, the phrase "men are big pig's hooves" has become a popular online word. At that moment,

As a man, I feel wronged for my career, but I don't ask myself, what kind of man is not a big pig's hoof, and what kind of man is a mature man? Further thought, if Wei Yingluo didn't want to have enemies, would she choose Fu Heng? Fu Heng is a spoony person. Is he my man? At that time,

I think of "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" I have seen before. Because of gender differences, men think it is good for women. If the expression is not suitable for women, this kind of goodwill will not be received, but there will be trouble. I think it is also because of this that Qianlong was called a big pig's hoof by Wei Luoyu.

I noticed that both Gan Long and Fu Heng, although they kept talking with Wei Ailuo, actually, they didn't listen to Wei Ailuo seriously. They feel that they have understood and go their own way. No wonder Wei Ailuo has always been dissatisfied with these two people. After reading it, women can also know how to live in the present, truly be a variety of women, know what they want, and will not miss their happiness because of their different perceptions.

In fact, most couples are like this at the beginning, looking for someone who meets their needs and wishes. The problem is that the other party is looking for the same thing. I suspect that this kind of love is the naive need for us to go deep into activities again. At this time, partners often put each other in the mother's position. When men and women look for someone to meet their needs, they actually want to find a mother in their hearts. They will be disappointed.

Compared with love relationships, even long-term love relationships are still very different and difficult to maintain. Partnership, at least the kind of partnership I said, has a completely different depth. As you said, you may be able to find a man for a few months, but he is not serious about you. In a sense, he just wants to live with you. Because you regard him as the object to meet your own needs, he will also regard this life as a short opportunity for you to meet his needs.

This view is very important for a relationship. But for a long-term cooperative relationship, this is very small. However, if you can sprout this idea in your heart and embody it in your whole dignity, strength and deep femininity, that is, if you carry out your whole humanity, then this man will appear in front of you with the reward you deserve.

Bruno: Now that everyone is talking about feelings, I have a vague feeling that I want to talk to you here. I don't know exactly when this feeling appeared, and I don't know how to face it correctly. That feeling is that I have found a woman who is very suitable for me, and that's all. She is the right person. No passion, no expectation, only suitable for me.

Hellinger: I deeply doubt what you said. If you mean "great", it may be another matter. But you said "she's the right person". No passion, no expectation. It seems to say, with her, you have to change.

Bruno: That's right! On the other hand, it's good, because I got what I wanted.

Hellinger: No, it's not good. It will soon become a burden. Change is unnecessary. This feeling will only lead your's partnership to an unhealthy path. If he is only "good", it would be better if you are also "good".

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Q: Can you talk about jealousy? I am jealous, and I often imagine that my other half is doing the same thing.

Hellinger: If we carefully observe the actual consequences of jealousy, we can understand the systematic nature of jealousy. Occasionally jealousy will bring a couple closer. For example, a woman's jealousy can protect her husband and children from those complicated scandals.

Protect her family from another woman's interference. But contrary to expectations, jealousy often pushes your partner away. If you are troubled by jealousy and face this kind of thing sincerely, you may find that a secret system pressure is pushing you away from your partner. Jealous people sometimes unconsciously ask their partners to leave.

Usually when one party is jealous, the relationship ends, but both parties don't realize it or want to face it. If both sides are willing, it is still possible to rebuild the relationship destroyed by jealousy, which depends on whether both sides can face the systematic pressure to separate them. Usually, they have to face some painful experiences.

It may be guilt or loneliness, or it may be fear of losing or losing. Partners can say to each other: One day, I will lose you. To tell the truth, this is a very painful sentence, but it can restore order between partners. After intense jealousy, it is often difficult for couples to straighten out their relationship.

Either break up or stay, you must choose between two kinds of pain. They choose to stay, keep the original relationship model, and don't expect much change, which is the best policy. Being in an dissatisfied relationship and constantly hoping that things will change is the worst. However, most couples are keen on this choice.

Private freedom

Q: When you talk about system intervention, it sounds as if everything is predestined. Do couples living in "equal partnership" have "personal freedom"? Is everything subject to the system?

Hellinger: Every relationship will set different boundaries, some are loose and some are limited. As long as you cross the line, you will feel guilty immediately. Within the boundaries, you will be relaxed and have a clear conscience. Without clear boundaries, there is no freedom and inner peace. This process can be seen clearly in schoolchildren. For example, if a teacher doesn't explicitly ask for it, he will often be at a loss. Only when the boundaries are clearly defined can we find a clear free space.

In partnership, people can enjoy the success and satisfaction they deserve. When we cross the line, it will destroy this relationship. Sometimes the damage is irreversible. For example, if the relationship is too narrow, one or both parties will look for lovers, broaden the boundaries and create new free space. If the boundaries are too loose,

How to maintain the partnership between the two sides is ambiguous, so the partnership is threatened. In this way, they must draw a new line, or they will eventually break up. The sense of belonging between partners limits their freedom, and freedom is an indispensable part of each partner system. The result of getting a sense of belonging will inevitably limit our freedom of choice.

We can go beyond the limitation of partnership, but we will inevitably pay the price for the resulting guilt, which will inevitably affect our current situation, such as the happiness between partners, and partnership will inevitably be dangerous. This reflects the natural law of the system-the limitation of leapfrogging, and it is impossible for the system not to evolve into different systems.

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Q: I have dealt with many partners at the critical moment of breaking up. Sometimes it goes well, sometimes it's troublesome. Does it affect the system dynamics in this respect?

Hellinger: Before people make up their minds to get rid of a very bad situation, they often make irresponsible remarks for fear of bringing more harm to their partners and suffer for a long time. If a person wants to create a brand-new and vast living space, he always feels that it will hurt some people, so there are always times when the name is incorrect and the words are not fluent. People's behavior seems to be to use their own pain to calm their partner's pain, or to make others feel famous. This is one of the reasons why the divorce process is so long.

When the breakup is finally inevitable, both sides will face new opportunities and risks. If one side grasps its own pain, does not give itself the opportunity to create a new life, and is indifferent to the opportunity to open up beautiful things, then it is difficult for the other side to be free. On the contrary,

If both sides accept new possibilities and do something from them, then both sides will be free and will put down their burdens. In the case of divorce and breakup, it's best to forgive everything, because this can make everyone break up peacefully.

When there are many obstacles in the process of breaking up, it is usually difficult for people to calm down and want to find a punching bag to get angry. They do this in order to relieve the pressure of fate by blaming someone. In principle, the end of marriage. Not because one side is wrong, and the other side is not wrong,

But because one of them is still involved in the unresolved issues in family of origin, or because they are led in different directions. Blaming one of them can only create the illusion that doing something different or relying on some new behavior can save the marriage. Then it ignores the heavy and far-reaching significance behind divorce.

Partners will find fault with each other. In order to put an end to this fantasy and this destructive accusation, the solution is for both sides to accept the misfortune they have experienced because their partnership has ended. This misfortune will not last long, but it is very deep and painful. Once they get out of this misfortune, they will talk about everything they need to talk about clearly, reasonably and respectfully and arrange everything they need to arrange. Once we break up, people often use anger and blame to escape misfortune and pain.

Why is there a difference between female thinking and male thinking 2 1, single thinking and multiple thinking?

A big difference between men and women is that men tend to think only one thing at a time, while women think many things at the same time. In other words, men are more focused than women.

2. Language and thinking in images

Men can't always solve problems through words or words. Surveys show that images and photos can help them think quickly.

Women, on the other hand, rely more on language, which is why women are usually more verbose than men.

3. Sensory thinking

When a man says he wants nothing, he may really want nothing. And women's senses are awake almost every minute.

4. Logical thinking

Women often start from the heart and think emotionally. When encountering problems, they pay more attention to their inner feelings. Confident women are good for health.

Men can "shut off" their emotions and solve problems rationally and logically, so it is easy to have conflicts with women.

Step 5: Think.

Most women are very clear about their thoughts and feelings, so they react quickly. On the other hand, men need time to think and chew before making a decision.

6. Analytical thinking

In most cases, men are better at analyzing problems than women. They are born with the ability to see things clearly and distinguish between true and false.

They seem to be outsiders and can observe the situation more calmly. And women are often influenced by their own feelings, which will distract her and make her look at things from a wrong angle.

Step 7 think rationally

Men can easily get to the heart of the problem. In contrast, women can find the main problem, but they don't know what it is.

Let me summarize:

It seems that there are still many differences between men and women in thinking. The most important thing for men and women to get along is mutual understanding and tolerance.

Men talk to solve problems, while women talk to describe themselves in problems. Men don't know how to chat with unfamiliar girls because they accept the influence of sexual thinking. He will think: anyway, that's what we are actually doing, or we can meet directly; Or "giving gifts", that is, showing concern; Or "let her know how strong my hunting ability is",

It is the so-called display value, in fact, these are purposeful behaviors. For a woman, unless she is willing to let you enter the pursuit process, it will resist men's purposeful behavior. It is just not appropriate to start pursuing the relationship established by the street, so this is also the fundamental reason why many chat-up criminals are unfavorable in the future.

There is a phenomenon that the active party will adapt to the passive party's way of thinking in the two fluent X.J. As a man, if a woman throws herself at you, you can certainly act according to your own thinking, otherwise, you must learn to talk to them in a woman's language.

Why is there a difference between female thinking and male thinking 3 1? Boys pay attention to methods, while girls pay attention to processes.

On many occasions, there will always be couples quarreling over various trifles. For example, when a couple is traveling, they encounter the misfortune that a bus breaks down on the road. Girls often start to complain, "I should choose other modes of transportation." "Why am I so unlucky?" But when girls start complaining, boys are more concerned about what to do. For example, can I change to other modes of transportation after the bus breaks down? Can I get there in time? What can I do to reduce the loss during the trip? Of course, this is a common situation. Sometimes, girls are more rational than boys.

2. Boys value their inner feelings, while girls value love and say it.

In the traditional culture of China, "Men don't cry lightly", and most boys will consciously label themselves as "strong". They are relatively silent in love, friendship and affection, and will not express their inner feelings loudly, but in fact they attach great importance to their inner feelings, but they are not good at expressing them. Compared with boys, girls can express their love better. If they have love, they will say it and be more affectionate.

3. Boys pay attention to the overall situation, while girls pay attention to details.

In dealing with many things, boys tend to look at problems from the perspective of "the overall situation", while girls pay more attention to the details of things. Similarly, for example, on a trip, boys will look at reorganizing the overall situation of a trip, which big scenic spot to go to, and then play freely in the scenic spot, while girls will pay attention to which features of the big scenic spot are worth seeing, which special snacks to eat and so on.

Extended data:

The basic methods of thinking include linear thinking and nonlinear thinking. Formal logic is a linear way of thinking, while symmetric logic belongs to a nonlinear way of thinking. The method of thinking can also be called the methodology of thinking.

Concrete logic-formal logic cannot be a way of thinking, and only holistic logic-symmetrical logic can be a way of thinking. If we take concrete logic-formal logic as a way of thinking, we will fall into a metaphysical way of thinking, and we can only draw one-sided conclusions when we look at the problem with metaphysical way of thinking.

Thinking mode is the angle, way and method of looking at things, which plays a decisive role in people's words and deeds. On the surface, the way of thinking has immateriality and materiality. This interaction between immateriality and materiality, "nothing is born, nothing is born", can constitute the contradictory movement of the evolution and development of thinking mode.