Stabilize your emotions and be content.
Look at the picture. It's a photo of Dong Qing retiring from CCTV and having fun. Look how happy she is! The days of retirement and leisure are not pleasing to the eye. Just calm down and learn to clean up by yourself. You should be good at dissolving bad emotions and stabilizing them. People who are emotionally unstable will increase the mortality rate of heart disease and coronary heart disease. Therefore, people in a good mood, optimistic and cheerful people are not easy to get sick, so they should always hang a smiling face on their faces to keep their youthful vitality. If they are energetic, they will be healthy. Only when you have health can you enjoy a happy life after retirement. It's good not to go to work. It is also possible to do housework, relax reading and make reasonable arrangements to go out to play. Retirement is not to let you do nothing, but to let you relax and enjoy life, go out and see the great rivers and mountains of the motherland, and be content!
Fly away and be happy.
Part of the picture comes from the internet. Welcome comments to forward.
This is a matter of mentality. Just like a speeding car, it suddenly brakes and needs cushioning.
As long as people reach the legal age, they will face retirement, which is a natural law and must be faced with it calmly.
Why do some people feel bad after retirement? The reason is that I am not fully prepared. The normal working rules of the original post have been broken, and there is no interest in staying at home. Colleagues who have been together for many years are hard to meet and feel lonely and depressed. Especially for some people who have held leadership positions, there are fewer and fewer cars and horses at her door, which is particularly frustrating.
Why do some people have high negative emotions after retirement? The reason is that I thought I was good in all aspects, and suddenly I found myself abandoned, and my mind would suddenly turn. My original salary has changed, and I feel that society has wronged me. Negative emotions, in particular, will be exposed when we see all kinds of drawbacks in real life, which have * * * sounds with their ideas.
In short, after retirement, we must adjust our mentality in time to adapt to old age. At the same time, we should integrate into the society as much as possible and enjoy the happiness in our later years. Retirement is the beginning of a new life. A healthy old man should be happy, have a wide range of interests and follow the trend.
Why do many people have a bad attitude and a lot of negative emotions after retirement?
People with bad mentality and negative emotions are mostly officials. During their tenure, they pushed forward and hugged each other, touting each other. They are used to calling them by formal names, such as director, section chief, director and secretary, and the door is suddenly left out. They have long been used to the aristocratic life. So, suddenly change, not adapt. Why don't ordinary people feel this way? On the contrary, I feel relaxed after retirement. If there is some regret, it is also because I realize that I am really old!
In fact, people are the same. As long as they figure it out, there is nothing they can't accept. When you retire, you hand over the authority to the new leader, and people still have to obey the arrangement of the leader, not you. So the back waves of the Yangtze River push the front waves. Work hard during your tenure and rest at home after retirement. Not good?
I am very interested in this question because I just retired. Just yesterday, my ex-girlfriend, who retired together, complained to me that her former colleagues were not enthusiastic when she went to work in her previous unit. It is not uncommon for people and things like this to happen around. After retirement, some people have a bad attitude and a lot of negative emotions. They feel like a completely different person. The reasons can be roughly divided into the following three types.
The first type: some people are career-oriented, and they are workaholics when they go to work. Everything is work-centered, and they enjoy the sense of fulfillment and accomplishment brought by busy work. Once such people retire, they will have a sense of weightlessness, feel that their daily life has lost its direction, feel at a loss, feel that things have changed and it is useless, and have a desolate and lonely mood.
The second type: some people are either leaders or management positions when they are in office. On weekdays, I am used to the atmosphere of crowding round, flattering and eating spicy food. Individuals have also developed a self-esteem, willfulness and even overbearing personality. Once they retire, they will lose their previous excitement, and they will be depressed, full of complaints and will not like anything.
The third type: some people live a straightforward life without cultivating their hobbies and friends circle when they are in office, but their personalities are somewhat sensitive and suspicious. Once they retire, it is easy for them to be unable to adapt to changes, or to be idle, sad, lonely and depressed, or to be emotional and have a sense of existence.
As a newly retired person, I want to say a few words to my old friends in the same situation:
First, adjust the mentality and accept the reality. It is a natural law that "a hundred flowers blossom and a hundred days are red, and people are no longer young" and "iron yamen, flowing officials". No one can stay in his post all his life and retire one day. No one can rule it out. Correctly treat gains and losses, honor and disgrace, and adjust your mentality.
Second, run your own hobbies. Retirement means that you have relatively free time and space, pick up your previous hobbies and fulfill your previous wishes, or read and write, or travel and relax, or dance and fish, or visit relatives and friends, or accompany your relatives ... arrange your time reasonably, enrich your daily life and avoid "much ado about nothing".
Third, learn new knowledge and master new skills. Strengthen contact with new and old friends who share the same interests, communicate with each other, encourage each other, and learn current affairs, politics and practical skills (calligraphy, painting, cooking, etc. ) with the help of the internet, we can enrich our hearts and not be eliminated or outdated by the times.
Fourth, integrate into family and society. Retirement is retirement. Don't "fantasize" or be too sensitive. Be confident and plan the rest of your life. Psychologically, stay away from the previous situation and enter a new stage of life. Try not to add chaos to society, children or yourself.
There should be a few people who have bad attitudes after retirement, and most of them are people who have resigned. Among the retired groups, there are many civil servants and institutions who retire, accounting for about one third, right? Their pension is good. Why bother? On the contrary, the retirement pension is low and it is normal to be rejected. Among them, some people with minor or above changed jobs when they were laid off, and some people with special positions accounted for a part of the satisfied group. Less than two-thirds of the remaining elderly people are sensible, with different systems and different on-the-job wages. Why do they compete with others for that position after retirement? So many old people don't want to compare with others, just want to compare with themselves. Indeed, they have worked hard for most of their lives and have a relatively stable pension, thanks to the * * * production party. Only a few people can't turn the corner, but they have to compare with civil servants and institutions and ask for trouble. You know, don't you think your pension is too small, and people who are working still think you have too much? !
After retirement, many people don't have enough to eat and can't eat if they want to. Because I'm tired of the best food. I want to go out to play without company. If you have nothing to do in a day, your mood will get worse, life is short, and sadness will come from your heart. Most of these retirees are uneducated and low-quality people. In other words: if these people don't have a pension, they may be in better spirits like ordinary farmers. Because they will try their best to seek a high-quality life, they will only work hard and their thoughts will certainly not become rigid. I will not look down on the poor and feel superior; I won't be sad because I can't enjoy the extra money.
Some travel around, having fun, having fun.
Some dance with pen and ink, and recite poems for fu, which is commendable!
Have a plenty of charity, do good deeds and accumulate virtue! Stay in your post and continue to engage in other industries you like.
I haven't felt this way since I retired!
It feels good to eat [roses] [roses] and earn money.
After a while, the mood will calm down.
After retirement, I feel bad and have a lot of negative emotions. There are many reasons for this.
First, I am busy with work and housework before retirement. When people are busy, their body and mind are occupied by work and housework. Without too many leisure thoughts, there will be less leisure troubles, and when people are idle, there will be more leisure troubles. After retirement, without the pressure of work and the affairs that occupy my mind, I will naturally recall the past, but I find that these are far away from me. At least a colleague used to talk about work and big things. Who will he talk to now that he is retired? With loneliness in my heart, leisure comes up. How to excrete it? The more depressed you are, the more you change your mind.
Second, life is very regular before retirement. Get up in the morning, get up early, go to work, get off work, take a lunch break, and get off work? But after retirement, there is a lot of freedom and life is irregular. If you can't adapt to it at once, the more you think about it, the more confused your mind will be. When you are in chaos, you will be angry. When you are impatient, you will have a big temper and the surrounding relationship will be tense. When you are nervous, people around you will stay away from it. This is a vicious circle, and it is easy to go wrong if it is not adjusted in time.
Third, after retirement, I will spend more time with my children. After a long time, it is easy to produce contradictions. Old people will face their children all day, and they will say so, that is, they think it is good for their children. Don't you know that children are particularly annoying? This is the reason for the generation gap, because the generation gap, lifestyle, life concept and life law are different, and the natural contradiction is aggravated. Old people feel that they are not valued and respected, and their natural psychology is unbalanced.
Fourth, I didn't cultivate any hobbies before retiring. Once I retire, I don't know how to arrange a lot of spare time. When people have no hobbies and occupy their hands, they will be confused, at a loss, lonely and bored, and psychological problems will arise after a long time.
Fifth, once retired, some people used to be busy with work and housework, but now they have to take care of their grandchildren and entangle with their little grandchildren all day. They have no freedom, no communication, no time and stay at home all day. After a long time, they become irritable. If children criticize the traditional parenting style of the elderly because of different concepts and children, the elderly will feel uncomfortable and uneven, and conflicts will arise after a long time. The mood of the elderly will change.
Psychological changes formed after retirement are varied. Then after retirement, you must adjust yourself in time, where to go, what songs to sing, take things as they are, and adjust measures to local conditions. People should learn to be flexible, flexible and flexible!
After retirement, you should consider having a hobby that is good for your physical and mental health. With a hobby, you have a space to occupy your mind. After you have a space to occupy your mind, you can divert your attention. Doing things with hobbies can also adjust the mood and make people feel refreshed! For example, practicing calligraphy and painting can precipitate mood, occupy time and cultivate sentiment; For example, reading, long-term reading, the soul will have a place to rest, the spirit will have a sustenance; For example, you can take your wife to travel, enhance your feelings with your wife during the trip, let your mood spread in the mountains and rivers, and let your spirit be happy in the beautiful mountains and rivers; For example, you can form a choir for the elderly, a fitness team for the elderly, or go to a university for the elderly, so that these activities can nourish your mind, occupy your time and improve your health; For example, establish a group of friends, learn from each other and exchange health care for the elderly to prevent being deceived; For example, after retirement, I will devote myself to studying Chinese herbal medicines, see some ancient prescriptions of Chinese medicine, improve my knowledge of medical care, penetrate all acupoints and meridians of the human body, and understand the balance of yin and yang in the body?
In short, after retirement, there are all kinds of things to do, and there are all kinds of ways to adjust life and mentality to make it a harmonious, quiet, safe, calm, frank, cheerful and healthy retiree. Retired, I am happy and optimistic, and I am healthy. This is my own blessing, the blessing of my children, and the blessing of society!
The retired people's mentality is not good, and the reasons for the deterioration of mood are as follows:
First, there is a sense of urgency in going to work. When people retire, time is completely free! It is often said that a working woman has two mother-in-laws. In the unit, there is a mother-in-law leader; At home, my husband's mother-in-law is in charge. Go home when you retire! My mother-in-law at work is gone! I am old, and my husband and mother-in-law are dead! At this time, the retirees, Lao Tzu is the best in the world, and they lose their opponents in life! You don't have to deal with anyone! Life without challenges is decadent! Bad mood, but worse mood!
Second, after retirement, people have less time to be bound! There is more free time, but more time is not a good thing! More time, I will think more annoying and troublesome! When you are busy at work, you are too busy to even care about your own work. How can you have time to think about unimportant people and things? Some people, some things, the more they think about it, the more angry they get! People are retired, and it's no good spending this free time thinking about those worries! People often say that much ado about nothing! Retirement time is more, and retired people are most likely to become mediocre!
Third, after retirement, troubles at home and abroad will come to you. I retired and raised my son, and I expect you to raise my grandson! When you spend more time rubbing against your family, you will naturally have more troubles. Trouble from your family is the real trouble! Friends and relatives all know that you are retired and do nothing every day. When you need help, the first thing you think of is retired you! Where there is contact, there is friction. No matter from family or relatives and friends, you have enough troubles. How can retirees be in a good mood and not in a bad mood when they encounter these problems?
Fourth, the whole body and mind of retirees.
Already slack off! Without a fixed schedule, life lacks regularity, and the rhythmic work life suddenly disappears! I have been divorced from social figures, and I feel a little lost. I feel that life is boring and I can't find a sense of existence. Every day is like waiting for death! How can such a state of mind be good? There are not many negative emotions!
People retire, people don't retire.
Step back. Retirees must find out what they want to do, what they want to do during work but have no time to do! Planning for retirement, the heart is entrusted. You can play cards, play chess, dance, travel ... and fulfill what you want to do during your work but have no time to do! Live a colorful retirement life, make your mind better and feel better!