Communicate with others more! Exercise yourself more! We should read some books to improve our communication ability, learn from other people's experience and avoid detours. Communicative competence refers to the ability of people to play an important role in the development process. Carnegie once said that a successful manager, professional knowledge plays a role of 15%, while communication ability accounts for 85%. Looking at the real world, we can truly feel that successful managers or entrepreneurs are all linked with excellent communication skills. But many children are withdrawn, unable to communicate, and even afraid to communicate. Some of them still regard communication as a dangerous beach when they are adults. As a kind of ability, communication can also be cultivated, so we should pay attention to it. How to cultivate communicative competence? 1. Participate in various sports activities. Sports is a group activity that directly contacts and competes with people. Whether it's a chess game or a ball game, whether it's a field game or a track game, there must always be more than two people to participate. More importantly, sports activities need not only wisdom and strength, but also courage. This kind of courage is an essential element in interpersonal communication. Regular participation in various sports activities is conducive to strengthening physical fitness, cultivating interest and improving communication skills. Once you fall in love with sports, you will take the initiative to find your opponent. This search is communication; The right opponent is often a friend. 2. Frequent travel, taking advantage of holidays to go out of the house, go to society and go to nature, can increase your knowledge, cultivate your temperament, cultivate your interest and broaden your horizons. Tourism is an open activity and communication is also open. The two are interlinked. Communication requires self-expression, initiative and enthusiasm. How can a silent, introverted, inactive and self-enclosed person have strong communication skills? During the tour, you can directly contact some new people and learn new communication contents. After the tour, you will have a wide range of knowledge and talk a lot, which will add topics for future communication. 3. Consciously visiting alone, visiting classmates or neighbors, and visiting relatives alone are all opportunities for children to improve their communication skills. Visiting guests requires greetings, conversations and gifts. 4. Consciously train your speaking ability. Some people say that spoken English is the ticket to social life, which is very reasonable. The core of communicative competence is the ability to speak, because the most direct form of communication is to say, if you can't speak, how can you communicate? If you can speak, speak skillfully and answer well, the possibility of successful communication is naturally great. You can often put forward some ambiguous arguments for others to argue; You can also deliberately put forward some incorrect or one-sided views and refute them according to reason; Don't be so deliberate about the mistakes in your usual words. Usually, you should also take part in more speech contests and speak actively in classes or meetings. 5. Overcoming three misconceptions When dealing with communication problems, we should strive to overcome these three misconceptions: First, we believe that communication ability is innate, and it doesn't matter whether it is cultivated or not. In fact, communication, as a kind of ability, is gradually formed by acquired training, and the training method is mainly practice. Secondly, I think eloquence is not a skill. Like ingenuity, eloquence is also a skill. Some people set the following standards for talents in 2 1 century: ① eloquence; 2 wentong ink; 3. Look at the six roads with your eyes and listen to all directions; (4) Being "small", that is, being able to express feelings extemporaneously. Among these four standards, there are two standards, the first and the second, all involving theory, which shows the importance of theory in the future society. Third, communication should affect learning. Too much communication with bad people will really affect learning, but moderate communication with like-minded people and people who are better than themselves will not affect learning, but will help promote learning and activate intelligence. Communication is the collision of thoughts, opinions and feelings. In frequent collisions, both sides can often get inspiration and inspiration, so as to improve together. Communication skills can be cultivated completely, please rest assured first. For example, I have a friend who likes to talk to me and tell me what he thinks. But he didn't say a word to his colleagues for half a year after he joined the work, because he was afraid of offending others and being rejected by others, but he worked hard. Later, everyone liked him and took the initiative to chat with him, but he was still conservative and asked me how to communicate with people. I told him that it would be nice if he communicated with me, paid more attention to others and thought about whether others liked you or not. Later, through his own efforts, he became more and more cheerful. Besides, because he knows a lot and is modest, others are willing to make friends with him. Therefore, not being able to communicate is not a problem. As long as you can be a man, you will be considerate of others and you can do it after exercise. First of all, the most important thing is to build up your self-confidence. Don't be afraid, because as long as you are modest and kind to others, no one will dislike communicating with you and making friends. It doesn't matter whether you can say it or not, because I know that you introverts think that a good talker can't speak at all, and he won't say anything when he is asked to speak in formal occasions, because he talks too much nonsense and most of his words have not gone through his head. How can he be liked and liked by others? So you can relax and communicate with people normally. You can say what you want to say or not. Otherwise, talking too much will make people uncomfortable.