That moment, so sweet and so happy! The happiest and most satisfying moment for her is this moment. When I woke up and opened my eyes, I saw my mother at first sight. I am very satisfied and stable! Me too?
When I got up carefully, a slight noise woke her up. She opened her eyes warily and got up at once, agile and quick, for fear that I would leave silently and throw myself into my arms.
Before going out, I told her that my mother was going to work and would come back to accompany Xixi at night. She wandered around the living room, excitedly shouting "go to work, go to work". She knows that this is a single signal and can be accepted happily. When she was leaving, she said goodbye happily and blew a kiss. I leaned down and let her kiss, bang ~ or so, and then another mouth.
I can't bear to part with her, and she doesn't want to stay, because she is watching a children's program that attracts her more.
And a month ago, every time we broke up, she was heartbroken and cried hysterically with me. Every time I can't bear it, I feel distressed and cruel. Even so, I basically won't sneak away, but I will tell her face to face that my mother is going to work and make money to buy milk powder, delicious and beautiful clothes for Xixi. My mother will come back early to accompany Xixi in the evening. Sissy should be good at home. Mom loves you. Gently touch her head, her face, and then kiss her, so that she can feel comfort and security, and feel the love and warmth given by her mother.
Children around one and a half years old begin to have separation anxiety and have the deepest attachment to their mothers. At this time, the child has a preliminary self-awareness, but still thinks that the mother and herself are inseparable. Separation will make her insecure, irritable, unstable and anxious.
I know this very well. Even if I cry, I will take the trouble to tell her that my mother will leave for a short time, so that she can be predicted and psychologically prepared and will not suddenly disappear. One day, she suddenly realized that her mother loved herself, even if she left, it was temporary, and her mother would come back. Then she happily accepted the reality and became a sensible little person!
Research shows that it is best for mothers to raise their children full-time until they are three years old, which helps them form a sound personality. However, unlike German, China has a low birth rate, and children can take vacations before they are 3 years old, giving priority to their mothers in employment. At the same time, I also thank my mother for her contribution, giving birth to children and cultivating them, because these children are the hope of the country in the future.
Because of the different national conditions, it is not allowed in the social reality of China. The state and enterprises will not pay for the special occupation of maternity, but great progress has been made at present, and maternity leave has been extended from the original three months to almost half a year.
I still remember the year before last, I got the trophy of "Excellent Employee of the Year" at the annual meeting of the company with a big belly. In the past few years, I have won more than ten company honorary certificates, such as excellent employees, excellent papers, excellent counselors, benefit promotion awards and so on. These are the best affirmation and encouragement for my work. Without conscientious efforts in the workplace, how can there be fruitful returns? The result is the best proof!
Returning to the workplace, in the face of the sudden emergence of the post-90 s, unconsciously, there are many crises and occasionally besieged. That is invisible pressure, forcing you to work harder and be afraid of being eliminated. You have to manage your time well, and you have to finish your work efficiently to get off work on time and not work overtime.
When I was pregnant in October, the promotion opportunity passed by, and the smart HR knew that it was just the wrong time. When you come back from maternity leave, your position has already been replaced, or the latecomers have come from behind, and the same level has become the superior, which has made you uncomfortable for a while and was arranged in a reluctant position. So what? Workplace rules teach you to settle down when you come, or your superiors will be eliminated.
Nevertheless, after maternity leave, one party is eager to feed, and the scene and role switch back and forth. You must also learn to deal with it freely and become both rigid and flexible.
During the two months after I came back to work, I accidentally received a phone call from HR at headquarters and planned to transfer me to headquarters. This is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. The position that many people covet means a broader vision, a broader space and a more embarrassing responsibility. At the same time, I am farther away from home, forty or fifty kilometers away.
Moreover, the status quo is also very embarrassing, with no sense of existence, no sense of accomplishment, and has been criticized. Although the branch leaders repeatedly retained me and the headquarters leaders interviewed me, I finally decided to go to the headquarters and dared not live up to the trust and affirmation of the company leaders. And my superior leader has never talked to me, as if he didn't know about it. Only a few days before I left, I took the initiative to tell him that he had nothing to say. His indifference let me know his dissatisfaction with me, his dissatisfaction with my refusal to take a new job, and his dissatisfaction with my leaving work on time (to feed my six-month-old baby). Even so, I am calm, and I learn to be more patient and persistent for my children.
Before that, fortunately, I successfully completed an arduous and complicated job, which is also the best answer for myself and the branch. Nearly 300 merchants' rental and sales budgets for the coming year are calculated separately from the finance in the company, but sales and rental income are related, so I took the initiative to undertake this work, and no one in the company can calculate these two indicators independently. For me, a large number of data processing capabilities in excel tables and the application of functions are my strengths. I used to be called "Excel Goddess" and "Cousin", which is really not a reputation, and almost no one in the company has surpassed it. The data analysis template originally designed has been used for reference by many branches and is still in use today.
When I first entered the company, faced with a large number of complicated data, I needed to do all kinds of analysis and overall planning, and I always made mistakes, which required a lot of labor costs. On the other hand, I am more interested in coordinating data. Through self-study, I studied and designed a set of analysis templates combined with the actual situation, and then improved them, which improved the efficiency by n times. These are all my silent efforts for the company. The pursuit of perfection and efficiency at work, resolute. If I want to do it, I must do my best, not to please the leaders formally, but to realize my own value, pure sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.
It is because of my positive attitude at work that I have the opportunity to transfer to the headquarters. Although I'm still in charge, I'm happy to accept it. When many people are saying that I am stupid and unworthy of me, I can be a manager according to my qualifications, ability and safety, but I can only save my strength and wait for the flowers to bloom.
During my days at headquarters, I spent most of my time dealing with leaders. I am treading on thin ice, being cautious everywhere, breaking the rules and being innovative and enterprising. Sure enough, almost a year later, he was promoted to assistant manager. Although I waited too long, it was a surprise.
Apart from eight hours, the three-hour commute really belongs to me. After that, in addition to sleeping, the rest of the time is to accompany Cece, put down her mobile phone and TV, and accompany her wholeheartedly.
At 8 o'clock after dinner, I took Xixi downstairs for a walk and play. That was her happiest and most active moment, because I would let her run, jump, climb, explore and learn. She is quick-thinking, quick-responding, crisp and neat, always in a state of rapid movement, and enjoys it. Running like a fly, I think my peers, even a larger race, must be far ahead.
On the slide, she climbed the small steps, lay down, sit down, lie down. With her mood, she quickly adjusted her posture and slipped down, then ran quickly and tried again until she got bored.
After playing for an hour or so, I went home and took a good bath with her. This is also a good parent-child way. Wash her first, then she will sit in the bucket or play with water in the bathtub, then I will wash, get dressed and take her out with a bath towel.
Many times, she didn't cooperate with dressing and slipped away without restraint. She gave you a sly smile, giggled and broke free and ran to the bed in the living room. She's afraid of catching cold in winter, so she has to get it back, both hard and soft! It seems that she likes this game of catching people very much.
Then it's reading time. She sat solemnly in front of me, turning pages, pointing with her little finger, listening to me carefully, asking questions and answering questions.
"What is wilby pig doing?"
"Sleep"
"What about this?"
Eat, brush your teeth, bubble and take a bath. . .
"Who is this?"
"Little Bear"
"Who is this?"
"Little Dragon" and "White Rabbit".
After reading the book, it used to be massage time, but now the little guy orders me to lie down and lie down. She stepped on my back, or sat on my lap, trying to count my back. . .
When I want to sleep, I sing to her and she sings along. Many songs can be sung in one or two sentences, and the most common ones are lullabies and pigs.
"Sleep, sleep, my dear baby, mother loves you, and mother likes you. . . "
"Piglets are full, close their eyes and sleep, with big ears shining and small tail shaking. . . "
When she fell asleep, I also unloaded everything and entered a warm and sweet dream with her. The next day, he appeared in the office alive and kicking, and started the all-round workplace model.
Every weekend, it's not my rest day, but my play day with Cece. After five days of work, I can finally relax for two days at the weekend, but that's just the way of life before giving birth to a baby. Now the weekend must be all kinds of programs. I won't take her out. I will take the subway for an hour or two to go to various places, parks, shopping centers, or visit relatives and friends. In short, I will take her to meet more people and see more new things. She asked and I answered.
I stopped to tell her what it is, from books to reality, and let her feel the world of life. No matter when and where, using local materials and teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, her language ability has also advanced by leaps and bounds in this environment.
Some people say that his husband and wife both go to work, two children and two old people take care of them, and they have no time to accompany them. Children are closer to the elderly, and the elderly take care of their children in their own way. . .
When I was downstairs, I saw many old people playing with their children, and I hardly saw their parents playing with him. . .
Or, nominally carrying a baby, but always playing with a mobile phone, or taking a selfie with a POS machine, not paying attention to the details of the child's growth, not caring about the child's subtle emotional changes, this kind of companionship is not of high quality.
However, some people return to the workplace after maternity leave, and the unweaned children are placed in their hometown. Some people always miss their children's whole childhood, which is the most cruel.
Wu Zhihong once said that if a child is separated from his mother for more than two weeks before the age of three, it will cause serious psychological trauma to the child, so please prepare the money for the child to see a psychologist in the future.
It sounds alarmist, but many cases of psychological problems of teenagers and even adults show that the establishment of a sense of security in early childhood is very important and will affect a lifetime. As a mother, all you need to do is accompany!
Similarly, I am also a working mother, but I do my best to accompany her, preferring not to go shopping, not to wear makeup, not to watch movies and not to play with my mobile phone, but also to play with her, play with her, read with her, talk with her and sleep with her.
Besides, we must improve ourselves through study. Free passage, which is the best shortcut, is reading. I have no more leisure time, so I can only study hungrily on the way to and from work, to understand the laws of children's physical and mental growth, to learn good parenting experience, to hunt for some history, some philosophy and some educational ideas, in order to enrich myself, to become a more powerful mother, to better accompany her to grow up, and to make her an interesting and happy person.
No time, no energy, just an excuse. Who says working mothers can't take care of their babies? Time is like water in a sponge. There's always squeezing. As long as you have the heart, companionship is the best time. For children, this companionship is also the happiest gift!
Be a conscientious employee in the workplace and a positive and good mother in life. Although there is no fame and fortune, no great achievements and no glamorous positions, they are just ordinary staff members doing ordinary work. Even so, they are neither humble nor humble, and strive to make progress and achieve themselves.
While taking care of the workplace and taking care of the baby, the life of working mothers can also bloom, a sunny flower.
Written on 20 17 12 2 1 Xixi 1 year, 7 months and 23 days.