Think deeply about a problem with you every week!

This is the 49th article that Minghai thinks deeply about a problem every week.

(Focus on "Surprise Home" and iterate once a week)

Chicken soup is just needed, we all need it. But it's just seasoning. Can't be a staple food. But it happened that many people often regard it as a staple food. For example:

(1) When preparing for the college entrance examination, I almost couldn't keep going, so I found an article "My Struggle for the College Entrance Examination" (my own YY): I saw the author stay up late studying until morning 1 and get up at 5: 30 in the morning to recite words. From the original more than 300 points to the first place in the school. Then I saw my blood boiling, but after a few days I became irritable again.

So I found a chicken soup magazine: I saw Kobe's inspirational story and paid special attention to the sentence "Have you seen Los Angeles at 4 am?" . Therefore, take him as an inscription to motivate yourself and get up early to study in the future!

Finally, relying on all kinds of chicken soup, I insisted on the college entrance examination, but the college entrance examination failed!

I came to the university with frustration, and happened to meet the era of "mass entrepreneurship and innovation", so I heard many inspirational chicken soup stories. Ma Yun scored only one point in the first college entrance examination and only went to an ordinary university. Now his business is so successful; Bill Gates started his business before finishing his studies, and now he can be so successful.

Yes, my grades are not very good, but I can succeed as long as I work hard!

So I started a vigorous venture and failed in less than half a year. I read a chicken soup article again, saying that Shi Yuzhu failed to start a business, but he was able to come back to life with debts exceeding 100 million yuan. As long as you persist, you will succeed.

However, when he graduated, he still owed tens of thousands of dollars!

Most chicken soup has two themes: how to avoid failure and how to succeed.

However, success and failure are caused by many factors, such as the trend of the times, luck and personality. In practice, ..................................................................................................................................................... is not like this at all. The world is very complicated, and drinking a lot of chicken soup is useless.

● Others stay up late to study, and you stay up late than him. Maybe others will catch up on sleep during the day, and you will persist, and then you will be sleepy all day, which is even less efficient; Others may fall asleep as soon as they sleep, but you always think about many things and often lie in bed for an hour or two before falling asleep. Then you imitate others, more sleepy; Everyone is working hard to prepare for the college entrance examination, but why some students are poor, that is the problem of methods; He succeeded in the college entrance examination, and his major may not be very good, but now it is not what he wants. Do you want to know more about each major yourself?

But chicken soup only tells you that you can succeed as long as you persist in your efforts!

● You think that Ma Yun used to be just an ordinary university, but in his time, high school was very good; Microsoft dropped out of school and started a business successfully, but he was admitted to Harvard. You don't know that his mother is an IBM director. She helped her son make his first big business, which may be very important to his business. And you don't know much about many things now, so start a business with them. Of course, the probability of failure is very high.

Chicken soup-style reports won't give you so many counterexamples, but the packaging is very simple, which makes you feel that you are likely to be as successful as them.

Chicken soup won't tell you the methodology. I know how to do it, but then what? This is chicken soup, not a spoon!

Just like you ask: why can't the screw be screwed in?

Chicken soup tells you: you haven't screwed enough. Keep trying. As long as you keep twisting, you will succeed.

But the possible problem is: you twist in the opposite direction!

Why can't chicken soup be the staple food? But chicken soup is also useful. How should we face chicken soup?

Next, from the chicken soup phenomenon, mainly from three aspects:

1, chicken soup is flooding

2. Give chicken soup instead of spoon.

3. The cause of this problem lacks accuracy.

First, chicken soup is rampant.

At school, the teacher tells you chicken soup; At work, the boss gives you chicken soup; Open the official account of WeChat WeChat, and Big V will tell you a successful experience; Brush a circle of friends, WeChat business tells you that Ma Yun said ......

We are in an era of chicken soup flooding, and many people say to you, "Come on, drink this bowl of chicken soup, and you can thrive!" " "

In fact, during the Republic of China, Fu Sinian pointed out at that time: "According to China scholars, there are more associations and less thoughts, more imagination and less experiments, more metaphors and less reasoning. When holding a theory, harmony with syllogism is absolutely new. " At that time, there were many articles about chicken soup, and there were not many rigorous dry goods.

Nowadays, in order to pursue traffic, many articles have to arouse emotions, and many are close to chicken soup; Some so-called successful WeChat network celebrities are willing to share their successful experiences and start classes to preach to those who are eager for success but have biased thinking; Without any life experience and poor writing level, I began to publish and sell books and share what I insisted on (it is ridiculous to always say that I just like writing and often criticize the materialistic society. However, I have published many books just to be famous.

Chicken soup is everywhere anyway. Of course, it exists because there is a market.

We need a bowl of chicken soup when we are not understood: a successful person often goes through a period of incomprehension.

When college and classmates don't get along well, they need a bowl of chicken soup: college, gregarious is the beginning of ruining themselves.

You need a bowl of chicken soup when you are about to give up: watch The Shawshank Redemption every time you are about to give up. As long as you persist, you will succeed in the end. (But many people often don't analyze whether their direction is correct. If the direction is wrong, the harder you work, the greater the failure. )

Many successful chicken soups often give people an illusion, and I can succeed as long as I do this. But the news reports are all successful, and there are thousands of losers in Qian Qian that you don't know about. Only when you succeed can you report it, just as Sun Tzu said, "A good fighter has no wisdom, no name, no courage and no plan."

So how to face it?

1, chicken soup is regarded as arousing persistence or as a consolation for failure, but it cannot be used as a methodology to guide life.

Every one of us is depressed sometimes. When we can't support our life, we urgently need chicken soup to motivate ourselves. But you can't indulge in it, let alone take persistence as a methodology. For example:

Your English is very poor, and then I saw an inspirational story: I only got more than 30 points in the English test at first, and then I recited English every day for two years, and now my English has reached 140 points.

Then you see a bestseller saying 10000 hours. As long as you persist for 10 thousand hours, you can become an expert in this industry.

Many people are excited to see these chicken soup and feel that they have seen hope. As long as I do the same, I will succeed.

But think about it, so many people have written for decades, why can't you become a calligrapher and write so ugly? Can you become an expert as long as you write more? But some people go to calligraphy training for several months, but they have changed so much.

10000 hours law was refined by Gladwell according to Eriksson's academic article, which simplified it and made people feel that they only need to stick to 10000 hours. But then Eriksson corrected his mistake, and then pointed out that learning should be practiced deliberately.

Similarly, in addition to insisting on memorizing English, it may be difficult to succeed without deliberately practicing halfway.

Moreover, Gardner, the father of the theory of multiple intelligences, summed up that people have eight intelligences, such as language, vision and insight. For example, some people with good language but poor visual intelligence can't see the three views of math problems, but if you are visually intelligent, you may learn English faster by watching English movies. But if you are not this type, watching English videos every day will not be very effective.

2. Judge whether you just escape the problem through chicken soup?

If every chicken soup represents a truth, but you look carefully, you will find that you can overthrow another truth with one truth.

If you fail, you can find a chicken soup to make yourself stronger and shout with me: I can do it! I can do it! I can do it! Once again ... a drop of water wears away the stone.

You can also find a reason to avoid the problem, so there is "sometimes what you have to have in life, there is no need to force it in life." When you face failure, you may just find a lot of chicken soup to paralyze yourself, but the real strong dare to face their weaknesses and analyze whether to persist.

3. Look at chicken soup properly and pay more attention to the knowledge of psychology and methodology.

Second, they all give chicken soup instead of spoons.

Now chicken soup is not only rampant, but also lacks guidance.

When a person reads chicken soup, he feels full of passion and hope, but after a while, he feels irritable. Then a few bowls of chicken soup, but there will be trouble soon. Because after a shot of chicken blood, you have to face a complex world and real problems. We are not religious believers and can't live in chicken soup forever.

Chicken soup is just an opinion, not a methodology. Some of it is even true nonsense, I know it is, and then what?

A student went to ask his senior:

I always forget to read books recently. I feel like a failure, and I'm a little annoyed. Senior, how should I learn?

Senior replied:

First of all, it is normal to forget to study. Think about it, if you forget it, others will forget it, so keep a normal heart.

In fact, you are excellent, but your determination to work hard is not enough. Take your time, stick to it, and you will remember it.

Let me tell you a story. I used to be as forgetful as you, but I survived and feel much better now.

That classmate wanted to ask how to solve the problem of reading forgetting, but you answered all the spiritual things. The next time you see someone quoting, you will often forget it, and you may be upset and unable to solve the essential problem.

Just like when you are in pain, giving you some anti-inflammatory drugs can solve your pain. But if it is not carved from the roots, it will often recur and eventually become more and more serious. A lot of chicken soup is like giving you anti-inflammatory drugs, only temporarily.

Chicken soup is idealism, but many problems in reality should be solved by materialism.

For example, the methodology that can be remembered when reading a book is:

(1) Start with your favorite books and cultivate the habit of reading.

(2) From the cognitive principle, we should link knowledge with knowledge in the process of reading, instead of simply pursuing speed and comparing how many books we read with others in a week. (If topic reading is related to this theory)

From the perspective of motivation, reading with questions is very efficient.

(4) Use your own usage scenarios to build a knowledge system. Reading is mainly to remember the knowledge needed to build a knowledge system and look at it selectively.

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These principles remind me of a case I once cited:

For example, the following two inspirational formulas:

As long as you improve 1% every day, you can improve more than 37 times if you persist for one year. You can gain so much strength with so little effort every day, so you must keep studying. Conversely, if you regress by 1% every day, a little retrogression can turn you into slag.

This compound interest formula is simple and clear, and friends are spreading these two inspirational formulas, saying that they should work hard every day.

However, many people make a little progress every day, but after one year, who really made progress more than 37 times, and who is not as good as 0.03 in the previous year? What the hell is going on?

The classic teacher said that because the compound interest formula is not an algorithm that everyone thinks, two conditions must be met to form compound interest:

1, and the daily income iterates to the next growth;

2. No loss of principal.

About the growth of compound interest, that is:

1, the knowledge learned today should be applied to the knowledge learned tomorrow.

2. Don't forget

Most people's learning does not meet these two conditions, because most people are fragmented learning. Today's knowledge and tomorrow's knowledge cannot be linked together, nor can they interact with each other. This year, it did not increase by 365 power, but increased by 365,0.01at most, which is 3.65 times. Plus forgetting, so there is not much accumulation.

Therefore, in order to make the compound interest formula effective, you should make a connection between knowledge, and you should use scenarios and focus on problems to fight against forgetting. Otherwise, according to this chicken soup formula, you won't learn much as long as you stick to it a little every day.

Therefore, while watching chicken soup, we should look at some basic knowledge, which is the effective way to solve your problem. For example:

Chicken soup tells you to persist, but you have mastered the fact that persistence will be consumed like energy. You need to replenish sugar in time, for example, some students prepare some chocolates when studying, and you can't eat two pieces all the time.

Chicken soup tells you not to lose your temper with people when you are angry, but emotions are controlled by the limbic system and reason is controlled by the cerebral cortex. Because the limbic system evolved earlier than the cerebral cortex, the limbic system often beats the cerebral cortex, and emotions often beat reason. This explains why many people can't help losing their temper with others!

Listening to chicken soup alone can't solve the problem. What should I do?

Running will produce a serotonin, which will make people relax faster. So when you are upset and in a bad mood, you go running. I broke out in a sweat and took a bath, so I was much more relaxed and comfortable. (I often do this)

Therefore, it is basically impossible to solve the real problem if you only give chicken soup and no spoon.

Third, the attribution of the problem lacks accuracy.

Chicken soup not only does not give spoons, but also many are not allowed.

Zhuge Liang never asked Liu Bei why we had so few arrows.

Guan Yu never asked Liu Bei why we had so few soldiers.

Zhang Fei never asked Liu Bei what Enemy at the Gates should do.

so

Borrow an arrow with a straw boat, cut six generals with five hurdles, and scare Cao Bing off with a broken bridge.

Many bosses like to forward these chicken soup to brainwash employees. In fact, this is very wrong, and the general chicken soup is also very inaccurate.

For example, according to the history book "The History of the Three Kingdoms", it was Sun Quan who borrowed the arrow from the straw boat. Sun Quan took a boat to explore the military situation in the fog in the middle of the night, and Cao Cao found him shooting an arrow. Too many arrows on one side of the boat may sink. So he dropped his bow and shot at Cao Cao on the other side to keep his balance.

Zhuge Liang's novel Romance of the Three Kingdoms, which borrowed an arrow from a straw boat, is not true. Besides, Zhou Yu wanted to make things difficult for Zhuge Liang to limit his time, and he was helping Sun Quan borrow an arrow, which had little to do with Liu Bei.

(Zhihu's "sudden appearance" related content)

Many chicken soups seem reasonable, but in fact many of them are inaccurate. It may be partly accurate, but the attribution of the result is often single, which makes people feel that this can be successful. Because too complicated and difficult operations are difficult to spread and give people hope.

But success is never easy. People who lack the ability of independent thinking will certainly fall down if they often practice only by chicken soup.

Some girls often compare their boyfriends according to some chicken soup articles in the official WeChat account:

"Boys who don't answer your phone just don't love you!"

"Boys who don't reply to your WeChat in seconds just don't love you 1"

"It must be love rat who doesn't send a circle of friends for her birthday boyfriend!"

"I don't know a lipstick, just say it must be straight."

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Then I feel that my boyfriend doesn't love me every day, and then I feel that he really doesn't love me after doing something unusual, or that he is too straight.

"Senior Seven" once gave an example: at a wonderful meeting, a girl with an official WeChat account with a monthly income of 65438+ 10,000 summed up a lot of articles on 10W+ and discussed them as "scolding boys"!

People who lack independent thinking, a lot of chicken soup will really make you biased!

In particular, some chicken soup texts sent by WeChat merchants in the circle of friends, such as:

Yesterday, two strangers consulted and represented at the same time ... Today, one told me that it was decided, and the other told me that it was afraid that it could not be sold ... China has a population of 65.438+0.3 billion, and people are the most important. You told me you were afraid you couldn't sell it? Baby, God gave you a mouth and a pair of cold eyes, not to let you eat, drink and be merry, but to let you find beautiful things and spread them to others through your mouth ... Aren't these two good parts used well?

I have 1500 yuan and you have 1500 yuan. I use this 1500 yuan to stock up, and you use this 1500 yuan to eat, drink and be merry. A week later, this 1500 became 3000,6000, and your 1500 became three pieces. The routine of empty gloves and white wolves is no longer suitable for the current WeChat business. Without goods, there is no pressure and no motivation. Where can I do it?

I don't mind seeing it occasionally, and some really brush the screen every day.

Anyone who knows the market knows that the failure rate of starting a business in China is as high as 95%, and big companies like Coca-Cola, Lenovo and Procter & Gamble often fail to launch new products. Their global business is not limited to China1300 million people. Are you sure of success in selling products as an agent?

② With so many WeChat businesses, why should others buy your products? There are so many products from some trustworthy regular companies, why should I buy yours?

The essence of the existence of friends circle is to know the current situation of friends. If all your friends are brushing your ads, then the circle of friends has no meaning or the meaning of existence is not great. Not everyone wants to make a fortune on WeChat business like you.

I said I could buy a plane in two years. I've been working around for so many years and I haven't seen anyone get rich.

Why are most people so annoyed with your screen advertisement? Most of the WeChat business is unclear.

But because most marketing behaviors, such as advertising, easily cause a typical sense of disgust-"psychological resistance"

Psychological resistance: refers to a person who feels that his right to control and choose has been unreasonably deprived, and this kind of psychology will appear.

For example, I read WeChat to understand my friend's situation, and suddenly I was deprived of the task I was trying to complete by your screen advertisement.

Therefore, advertising should imitate the normal speech of friends, which is in line with the tasks to be completed in the current scene of WeChat friends circle. But many WeChat businesses don't tell you, which is not professional enough. Why should I buy it?

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What about these inaccurate chicken soups, or the simplified chicken soups, especially those with successful experience?

You can use the 6w mode of the solar circle to investigate, for example, take my article as an operation:

1, who: who said that? Can he be trusted?

This article was written by Ming Hai, a college student. After reading the previous article, I think it's ok, and I'm not a person who has three views on advertising. But I don't have much age experience, and some explanations are not in place.

2. What: What did you say?

It is said that chicken soup is rampant now, chicken soup does not give spoons, and it lacks methodology. Many chicken soups are inaccurate and often simplified. Some ideas are good, but others may go a little far and can't convince people to watch. Ignore some explanations of the role of chicken soup!

3. Where did you say that? Did anyone else express a different opinion?

Posted on the official WeChat account, you can comment, but I don't know if it will be released or not.

4. When did you say that?

It was posted on an ordinary night. This is not to pursue hot spots. There should be no motivation to criticize for the sake of criticism.

5. Why: Why do you say that? Beautify or vilify certain things or people?

According to the recent article, he has been learning the knowledge of thinking, and now he may have learned the knowledge of this module. Moreover, this number is not for readers, but for self-training. I don't think I will deliberately vilify chicken soup. This is a fair view, but some examples beg to differ.

6. What do you say? How did you feel when you said it?

The rhythm is ok, but I don't know that he may have been tired of watching chicken soup in his circle of friends recently and wrote it with emotion. This view may be a little extreme, so you can't believe it all.

Anyway, I just read some articles from a critical perspective! Of course, you can't do everything like this, impossible, but for those articles that you have to learn from his experience!

Conclusion:

Chicken soup is useful and just needed. But in general, it can only make you look at the problem from another angle, but it can't actually guide you to solve the problem. Basically, it is idealism, and success or failure depends only on internal factors. So it can only be used as seasoning, not as staple food, and can't be addicted to it every day.

In the era of fragmentation,

Think deeply about a problem with you every week!