The source of Yuan Wu Changling's Dongpo Dream is the second fold: "I was teased by this Dongpo bachelor, but I told him all over the temple. Now I am cultivating my heart in Lushan Mountain. How can I cheat my son to earn peony, but who can I teach? "
How to cultivate one's mind and nature
Live in the moment.
Don't always think about tomorrow, and don't always regret what happened yesterday, but concentrate on doing things well today. Because regret, self-blame, guilt and sadness can't change the past, it will only make it difficult to carry on the present work.
Live here
There is nothing we can do about what happened in the distance, and it is useless to think about it; Worry is futile; Being nervous doesn't help. Remember that you live here, not far.
Stop speculating and face reality.
Many psychological disputes and obstacles are often caused by "taking it for granted" that they have no actual basis. If you greet leaders or colleagues and they don't respond, you may suspect that they have problems. In fact, it may be that they were preoccupied and upset and didn't notice you. Therefore, there is no need to make meaningless guesses.
Stop thinking and feel more.
Many people think about how to do a good job, how to get good grades in exams, how to get along well with leading colleagues and so on. Therefore, it is often easy to ignore or have no mind to see beautiful scenery and listen to good music. Gestalt therapy emphasizes that "feeling" is the basis of thinking and is more important than thinking itself. You can't think without feeling. Feeling can adjust and enrich your thinking.
Accept unpleasant feelings, too
Happiness and unhappiness are relative and can be transformed into each other. Therefore, people should be prepared to accept unpleasant emotions. If a person is always "happy" and "excited" for many years, it is not normal.
Don't judge first, give a reference opinion first.
When others make a small mistake or fail, people tend to jump to conclusions. Gestalt therapy believes that the correct way to treat others and interpersonal relationships should be: don't judge first, talk about your own thoughts first. In this way, you can prevent and avoid unnecessary friction and conflict with others, and you can also avoid unnecessary trouble and depression.
Don't blindly worship idols and authority.
There are many disguised authorities and idols in modern society, which will imprison your heart and bind your hands and feet, such as education, money and so on. Gestalt therapy holds a negative attitude towards all these. Don't blindly echo public opinion, thus losing the habit of independent thinking; Don't succumb to others unprincipled, thus being deprived of the ability to act independently.
I am who I am and responsible for myself.
Don't say anything If I were someone, I would succeed. We should start from our own starting point and give full play to our potential. Don't blame others; I want to "start from me, start from now", try my best to exert my talents and do what I can.
People tend to pass the buck easily. For example, if you don't do well in the exam, you will blame the failure on the family environment and school; If the work is not good, people will say that the leadership is poor and the conditions are too bad. Blame one's faults and failures on objective reasons. One of the important principles of Gestalt Therapy is to ask yourself to be responsible for what you have done.
Correct self-assessment
Put yourself in position. Everyone occupies a specific position in society, so you should fulfill your rights and obligations according to the requirements of this specific position. If you don't follow this norm that is unanimously recognized by the society and observed by everyone, then you will be condemned and opposed by the society and others.
Be content, cherish life, cherish life, cherish friends, cherish family and cherish yourself.
Arrange your life reasonably, don't get angry, drink more tea, often go out for a walk, do more exercise and play chess with others, as long as you do more things that are good for your health!
Enjoy life, to put it bluntly, is the freedom of life. You have the right to live the life you want, and you also have the right to go where you want in summer. Don't expect too much from the future. If you expect too much, you will feel even more depressed.
It will make you feel comfortable to see what you are doing now. Don't deliberately live to show others, you will find that living freely means enjoying life.
As long as we reach the following level in life, our mind will certainly improve.
Don't covet fame and fortune, know when to be content; Always sum up and reflect on yourself, don't talk about or criticize others, let alone blame others; Respect the virtuous gentlemen in society and try to make friends with them, but keep a respectful distance from the villains in society; Don't be afraid of the hardships in life, don't haggle over every ounce, and dare to suffer losses when appropriate; Think twice before you act, let go if you can, and insist on not giving up easily; Learn to "tolerate", but also learn to "let", leaving enough room for yourself when dealing with people; Learn to keep in good health and prevent laziness; Don't get addicted to bad habits.
To forgive others is to be kind to yourself.
Speak well, think well, and do well.
As much as you do, you will gain many skills.
Money is not happiness, but a clear conscience is the safest.
Make a good wish and talk well.
Good words spit like lotus flowers, while bad words spit like poisonous snakes.
The house is not as wide as the heart.
Appreciating others is dignified.
Forgive others again, and you will create more blessings; If you expand your mind, you will be blessed.
Be nice to people, be a good person first.
Being able to eliminate troubles is wisdom, and being able to give love is a blessing.
Willing to do, willing to accept.
It is better to talk less than to talk more, and it is better to talk more than to talk less.
Anger is punishing yourself with other people's mistakes. Success is the exertion of advantages, while failure is the accumulation of disadvantages.
Always being kind is always a beautiful day.
Through self-reflection, to achieve the perfect realm of body and mind
Everything in the world is simple, not simple, not simple is simple.
In life, you should be able to eat, sleep and do things.
To do anything, you must be a man first and do your duty.
People should not be arrogant, but not arrogant.
Benevolent people love mountains, while wise people enjoy water. First of all, be kind to others, be honest and open-minded, work hard and be honest with others.
The spirit should be cultivated, and the normal heart should be peaceful.
"forbearance": forbearance is not blindly forbearance, but kind forbearance, forbearance when it should be tolerated and forbearance when it should not be tolerated.
Nourishing the heart and nature is good for health.
To cultivate one's mind is to keep one's mind calm, cultivate one's sentiment, balance one's mind, be reasonable, let nature take its course, take the initiative to adapt to the environment, control one's emotions, and not have unrealistic delusions. In this way, the human body is in a calm state, the physiological function is peaceful and orderly, and health care, psychological balance and good mental state are achieved, which is beneficial to physical and mental health.