And some friends in the past or in the past, rain or shine, have drifted away unconsciously with the passage of time. They have become the most familiar strangers before they can say goodbye or find out the reason, and their lives have no intersection.
Time seems to have hidden me for many years, so I can't adapt now, and the more I live, the more confused I am. Is this my own problem, a social factor, or the result of human greed?
The reality is too cruel, some things have no reason at all, and there is no time to understand and explain, because everyone's time is precious, and there is no extra time to talk to others about irrelevant topics and give you the answers you want. The only thing I can prove is to understand and think seriously.
After living in a humble abode for a few days, I finally understand that some people miss something and leave forever. They don't need to think about it. They should focus on tomorrow, pursue themselves and pursue new hopes. Please cherish today, grasp what you have now, don't embarrass yourself, and don't live up to the years. Life is in a hurry, let the past be like the wind.
The long-span journey from childhood to today, in a blink of an eye, we have changed from ignorant children to mature adults. I have to sigh that youth has suddenly passed away, and the burden on my shoulders is heavy, and the days are like years. No wonder I heard my friends sigh about life before: we are old before we are young. Now, we can really understand the meaning of this sentence by recalling it.
In the past, I always competed with myself. After work, I study hard and improve myself, for fear that I can't keep up with the times and be eliminated by society, and that I am not as good as others. I always want to stay up for a while, but I haven't had time to stop and rest. So I have been driving hard, but I forgot to see the charming scenery on the roadside.
Now that I think about it, it's really my own problem. It turns out that the chief culprit of my loneliness is myself. Living independently, thinking independently, and being economically independent are probably the situations that I have struggled for myself. Although the process is very bitter, I am gratified at heart, because it makes me a strong self, and living on my own is the most arrogant.
Everyone on the road of life, there is no smooth sailing and smooth sailing, in the vast sea of people, there will always be storms and difficulties. But we can live a little sweeter, open our hearts, embrace a beautiful day and enjoy the present beautiful time. You can have a proper rest when you are tired. When you are tired, you can take a down-to-earth sleep, spend some time listening to your inner voice, and then spend some time doing what you want to do. This should be the happiest life. It's nice to be calm and calm.
I have traveled all over the world with so many ideas. My experience tells me that people don't want to be rich and expensive, but they want no regrets. People live, don't be too hard on yourself, don't live up to your great youth. Only when you have the ability to love yourself first can you have extra energy to love others; Only when you are strong enough to take care of yourself can you take care of your friends and family.
Think about it. Do you often forget your existence for others on the road you are walking now? Have you ever gone to some boring parties with your friend so many times that you didn't spoil her fun, but you delayed your career?
On the surface, you have paid a lot for others, but when you are transparent, others are completely ungrateful; And every time you pay, you are wronged, and your heart hurts so much that you can't breathe, but others don't know how distressed you are.
So take good care of yourself and don't let your kindness turn into someone else's moral kidnapping. Always know that not all efforts can be rewarded, and not all love can reap the same love. The rest of your life is not long, so loving yourself is the best reward for yourself.
From the following living case teaching books, we can understand that if you don't even love yourself, how can others love you? Love yourself can make you calm and secure;
The first story: As aloof as Zhang Ailing, I fell for Hu Lancheng, but finally I was mercilessly abandoned by him.
The second story: Li Xiang in "Tokyo Love Story" risked his life for love, but he was hurt to pieces again and again.
The above cases show that whether Zhang Ailing or Li Xiang, this failure lesson of sacrificing oneself for others is the most stupid and cannot be imitated. Don't treat yourself as an experiment, don't treat yourself as a product. Working hard for yourself and being proud of yourself is the best reward for yourself.
I believe everyone has seen the program "Battle of Love". In one of the programs, Tu Lei, the host, told the guests, "Love can't be compared. Too much is debt, too little is resentment. Love seven points is enough, and the remaining three points love yourself. "
In fact, to be honest, a person's life is really short. After careful calculation, it will be more than 30 thousand days. It will be broadcast live every day, which will not give you no time to rehearse, nor will it give you a chance to make a comeback. Why not cherish yourself more? Leave yourself more love than others. If you love others too much, you will only suffer yourself in the end, which is unnecessary.
Because you are too kind to a person, he will take it for granted; If you love someone too much, it is often yourself who gets hurt in the end. Always understand: only moderate love is a virtuous circle, and excessive love will only empty you, drain you dry, and finally become dry wood, which makes you sad to think about.
Think about this question seriously. If you are disappointed, how can you protect others from the wind and rain? If you are unhappy, how can you make others laugh? As "Passing through Your World" said: "Take care of yourself, love yourself to love others".
There are too many disappointments in adult life now. We need to let go and relax in order to live freely and smartly. My good friend once encouraged me to say that "one person should live a wonderful life and two people should live a happy life" buried deep in my heart.
If a person's state has been to suppress pain, even sadness and freedom, how can he make a warm room in his heart for important people to live in? If a heart is riddled with holes, people who live in it will be wet by the rain and appear to have no temperature. Life is short. Don't leave any regrets for yourself. In any case, life will go on, the bullets in front of difficulties will pass, and the sun will still rise tomorrow, illuminating every corner of the earth.
In everyone's life journey, all happiness and sadness have a shelf life and will not wait until it expires. And everyone's life is only once. When you have the ability to change yourself, don't always wronged yourself. Take good care of yourself, take good care of yourself. Happiness is not accumulated bit by bit, but created by continuous efforts. No matter what the final result is, it is worthwhile to work hard. Every day in your life that you have never danced is a disappointment to your life. The rest of your life is not long. Please love yourself.
I like the poem "When I Really Began to Love myself" written by the humorous master Chaplin, which is quite touching:
When I started to really love myself,
I no longer sacrifice my free time,
No longer to sketch a magnificent tomorrow.
I only do interesting and happy things today.
Do what you love to do and make your heart happy.
In my way, at my pace.
The rest of your life is not long, please take good care of yourself. First, love the body, eat well, live well, go to bed on time, and insist on exercise; The second is to love your soul, not to be disturbed by trivial matters, not to be influenced by others, and not to be wronged; Third, love life, fill your heart with joy and spend every day in your favorite way.
How can people walk in the Jianghu without getting wet? Only by learning to love yourself well can life be colorful and meaningful. It is rare to come to the world, so we must live a rainy and colorful life. With their own ideals, to pursue their own poetry and distance.