There are many things in the world. On the long road of life, we will meet many people and things, and our emotions will rise and fall.
When I was young, I acted rashly and never considered the consequences. When I grow up, I gradually find that emotional stability is a rare quality and a sign of maturity.
Ge Hong, a famous health care practitioner in the Jin Dynasty, once said: "Those who are generous and self-sufficient will behave themselves and do whatever they can in disasters."
Only by maintaining inner peace can a person have a healthy and benign mentality and maintain emotional stability.
Keep healthy and nourish your heart.
The so-called nourishing the heart is to digest negative emotions peacefully and treat problems in life calmly and rationally.
The more emotionally stable people are, the more they will bravely accept all the frustrations of life and strive to live their own lives.
Emotional stability can keep you happy.
I got together with my best friend Xiaowu at the weekend, and she told me something that just happened.
It turned out that Xiaowu met a strange boy when he took the subway. Not long after she got on the bus, she was closely watched by him. I saw this man smiling obsequiously, coming to promote his weight loss products, and urging Xiaowu to add his WeChat.
The wizard was annoyed, but he politely replied, "Sorry, I don't need it." But the man was still unwilling and took out his mobile phone to show her: "Look, more than 200 people have added me!" "
The wizard calmed down and rationally refused: "You have no right to ask me whether I am free or not."
After listening to this sentence, the angry man said maliciously, "Don't add me, let's see who can save you!" " "Leave this sentence, angrily left.
"Aren't you angry?" I am anxious to ask her.
The wizard smiled and said, "I am angry, but I can't have a big fight with him when I am angry." Instead, let outsiders watch the fun all day and affect their mood. Not worth the loss. " Later, when I left the station, I told the subway staff that someone was selling things on the subway. "
After listening to her words, we both laughed in unison.
In a person's life, everything may be unsatisfactory. On the contrary, it is often counterproductive.
Someone said, "When communicating with people, 70% depends on emotion and 30% on content."
And we often fight for "winning or losing", or we are filled with indignation, or we are furious, or we feel sorry for others, so that we can't get out of the emotional whirlpool for a long time.
As we all know, being irritable when angry and unhappy when sad invisibly turn your body into an emotional trash can, which not only hurts your heart, but also causes health problems.
An emotionally unstable person is like burying a thunder in his body, and he doesn't know when it will break out into a major disease.
Everyone has emotions, but the difference is that losers are controlled by emotions, while winners control emotions.
Emotion is the source of happiness and pain that dominate our lives. When we encounter something, we deal with emotions first, and then deal with things. If we can't handle our emotions well, it will only make things worse.
Emotion is the baton of health. Stability will not dissolve happiness and will not be troubled by distress.
Only when the mood is stable can we feel happiness.
Hu Shi once wrote in My Mother that his half-brother was the black sheep of gambling since childhood. He not only sold the incense burner and tin teapot at home, but also owed a lot of gambling debts.
During the Chinese New Year, there is an endless stream of debt collectors. My mother not only never scolds or complains, but also appeases the debt collectors and has a reunion dinner with her family.
The article also describes: "eldest sister-in-law is the most incompetent and ignorant person, and second sister-in-law is the most capable and narrow-minded person." They often quarrel, but because of my mother's good example, they never publicly scold each other. My mother is the kindest and gentlest to others and has never said anything that hurts her feelings. "
After a long time, when I saw my mother-in-law being so generous, my wives gradually handled things properly and stopped making noise.
Under the influence of mother, family members who have had many contradictions can still feel the warmth and happiness from the family.
Hu Shi himself once said: "If I learn a little good temper, if I learn a little kindness to others, if I can forgive and understand, I have to thank my loving mother."
The higher the level and pattern, the more people know how to control their emotions.
Chinese medicine says: too much happiness and sorrow, anger hurts the liver, sadness hurts the lungs, thinking hurts the spleen, and fear hurts the kidney.
There is also a survey in Harvard University, which shows that 90% of diseases come from our inner nature and our emotions.
And this kind of emotion will form a kind of energy, accumulate in our body, hinder the normal absorption of the body, and cause the imbalance of the functions of various organs of the body, which is manifested as an external disease.
People who are dominated by emotions only see the negative side of life, can't see the hope of the future and can't feel happiness, which will naturally affect his attitude towards life and even shorten the length of life.
Real health care is not to eat more expensive health care products, not to use higher-end medical technology, but to learn to stabilize emotions.
Having a good mood can make your eyes bright, your mind open, your spirit free, you won't be imprisoned by troubles and worries for too long, and you really feel that you are living in the present and enjoying the most precious happiness.
Only when you are emotionally stable can you live a good life.
I once read a report:
A woman worker in her forties was diagnosed with cancer by physical examination ten years ago, and it was in the middle stage. However, apart from active treatment, her life has hardly changed.
Cheerful personality makes her still live as before, exercise every morning, like singing and dancing, and her mental state is not diminished. More than ten years have passed, and now her annual physical examination is normal, and no cancer cells have been found.
This decade, it is because of her good mood that her life blooms with the most gorgeous colors.
Health is half mental health, disease is half mental illness, and emotion is the fuse of mental illness. Only by being a good master of emotions and controlling them can we not be affected by bad emotions and lose the direction and motivation of life.
We often hurt those who love us because we vent our emotions at will, and the most important thing is to make our bodies exhausted and demoralized.
Only by removing the shackles of emotions, not being disturbed by redundant emotions, and finding your own goals in life can you awaken your energy in your body, be happy physically and mentally, and be full of confidence.
People with stable emotions will inevitably put the softness of life into it and experience the longest journey of life with an inclusive and peaceful attitude.
The first lesson we have to learn in life is emotional management. We should not only learn to get along with negative emotions, but also master the ability to cultivate positive emotions. If you control your emotions, you control your destiny. Control your emotions and live your own life.
Emotional stability can make us face up to every choice, treat every problem calmly, and make the road of life smoother and longer.
There is a good saying: "We can't control the direction of life, but we can adjust our emotional sails. Only by being the master of your own emotions can you sail. "
Even if the haze strikes, we should have an open-minded heart to rush out of the haze and explore the sunshine.
Only when you are born in the sun, will life flourish and meet the feeding of the sunrise.
The more emotionally stable people are, the more prosperous they can see and see through the true meaning of life.
Please be an emotionally stable person and spend the rest of your life.
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