202 1 year? June 1? Packing for 6 hours, packing 1 1 piece of luggage, 2 10 kg of luggage, 850 yuan freight.
Ended nearly 8 years of drifting north.
A friend said that I chose to go back to my hometown, so I have the courage.
Some colleagues also said that they haven't had the courage to make a choice, big cities can't stay, small cities don't want to go back, and they plan to stay for another year.
I have no courage, but I can see more clearly. We should learn to be responsible for our choices.
No one makes a choice to be bad, even the two worst choices will choose a relatively good one.
I also weighed the living conditions of Beijing and my hometown and decided to go back to my hometown at the age of 3 1.
After more than seven years in Beijing, I changed three or four industries, and my position changed almost every year. The salary has gradually exceeded 10,000 from 3,500 for internship. However, I have been very anxious. In these years in Beijing, I have never experienced the happiness of life.
I started to live for 600 yuan a month, and I built my own house without windows and sunshine. I earned 3500 yuan as an intern, and I can still save 2000 yuan. When I want to buy clothes, I get up at four o'clock more than once and go to Dahongmen wholesale. Four shirts 100 yuan.
Later, wages went up, and the rent expenditure was controlled more tightly. A house of 2300 yuan a month, shared by three households, has six people. Every day, they rob the toilet and take time to take a shower and wash clothes. And there is a family that doesn't like cleanliness, resulting in many small cockroaches in the kitchen.
This kind of life is really not what I want.
In 2020, at the age of 30, I am married, and I have to consider new choices for work and family.
Even if I stay in Beijing for two years, I can earn more than my present job, but because of constant anxiety and overtime, I have no happiness in life.
Or choose the mode of couples in different places, go back to their hometown early, find a stable job and prepare for the baby.
In the end, I chose the latter.
I have carefully weighed that we can't achieve the grand goal of buying a house and living in Beijing within six years. Instead of waiting for the baby to go to school and return to his hometown, it is better to go home and consider the stable preparation work before the age of 35. It can not only accompany the baby well, but also open another life state for me.
202 1, June 1, I really realized the happiness of life after I resigned from Beijing and went home. With family and friends around, you can meet at any time. You can rent a two-bedroom apartment in Qinhuangdao for 2000 yuan. You don't have to compare brands when buying clothes. Comfort is the most important thing. Within 2km of going out to take a taxi, 7 yuan realized the freedom of taking a taxi. You can take a taxi to the seaside at any time to blow the wind and take a walk.
This kind of ease is a life in which I have lived in Beijing for seven years and have never let go of my tense nerves.
After coming back, I feel that I have a lot of time to myself, so I should plan my future life well. Recently, I am preparing my teacher qualification certificate and hope to go ashore within 2 years. The best result, maybe, in the future, I am an English teacher in primary school, I can walk to and from work, and I can spend a lot of time with my children and family. The worst thing is to do English-related work. Although the salary is not high, it is stable. This stability is not only reflected in the spacious living environment and low price, but also in the familiar local accent and the feeling of being closer to family.
I have more time at my disposal, so I naturally have more time with my parents.
In recent years, from college to work, I basically only go home two or three times a year. But now, an hour's drive, I can see my parents almost every month. You can go home on weekends. In recent years, I have never realized that my parents are getting old so quickly. After I came back, my mother lived with me for a month. She doesn't know how to use my rice cooker, how to connect water with a tea bar machine and how to control electric curtains. I don't know the name of the medicine my mother takes every day now. I don't know the apps commonly used in her mobile phone. What? I don't know. She won't clean up mobile phone garbage, nor will she shop online to buy food. ?
In the process of growing up, I gradually reduced my dependence on them, but ignored the growing age of my parents and gradually increased my dependence on us. Slowly, we have grown from a child who needs shelter to a pillar of the family. Last Spring Festival, my mother had an uncomfortable heart and unbearable pain, so she contacted me and asked me to take it to the city hospital. There are so many people in the hospital in our city, waiting in line to see a doctor, have a check-up and take medicine? It's complicated My parents always look embarrassed when they go to such a place. I've been there several times, and I may go the wrong way every time. What's more, the elderly have no young people. I saw my parents' old people in Otawa, and most of them were without their families. The old couple supported each other in seeing a doctor, because they didn't know which department to go to and what the doctor said, and they were also scolded by the medical staff.
Some time ago, when the TV series "On Earth" was broadcasted, there was a view that excellent children could not stay with them in the future, but were cultivated for the country and the people. It is the mediocre children who can stay around to repay their kindness. I was born in a very ordinary family, and my parents are very open-minded. I have never been asked to stay with them. I think my qualifications are average. I hope I can accompany my family, care more about them, and give them more dignity and security within my ability. However, these are things that I have never thought about during my years of working in Beijing, focusing on the progress of running all the way.
Many of my junior and senior high school classmates mostly stay in their hometown and live with their parents after graduation. Generally, there are two children in the family, and the second one is going to kindergarten soon. The work is stable, the commuting time is less than half an hour, and all the people who are close are walking to work. The old-fashioned life script that I once thought is what I dream of now.
Although I didn't stay in Beipiao for seven years, I don't think the prosperity of big cities delayed my youth. Choosing to go back to your hometown does not mean that stability and comfort will definitely kill your desire for life. Especially when we choose the mode of long-distance relationship for the baby, we feel that we have just changed a battlefield and entered a new stage of life, and we have a greater responsibility to fight hard.
In Beijing, some people leave at night, while others come with dreams.
Whether you are working hard in a big city or living in a small city.
I wish you a dream come true in a big city,
May I live comfortably in a small city?
May the years and stars shine and we all get what we want.