Before selling health care products, customers were almost all elderly people. Now that the living standard has improved, both sons and daughters can support themselves. At ordinary times, they just buy food and cook. Many times, they like to chat with me and complain.
There was an old man whose two daughters were married and lived a complete life. The youngest son also found a partner and got married. When the woman went to see the man's parents, the old couple were satisfied with their daughter-in-law in all aspects, and there was no problem with the bride price. But the woman said that she didn't want children after marriage, because she was afraid of pain, and she wanted to adopt a pet dog as her own child!
Of course, the old man won't agree, and his impression of his daughter-in-law is greatly reduced. Even after 90, I can't accept it. Doesn't this make my family "dead"? The two old people were very angry. Dogs can be raised as children and grandchildren, but they can't carry on the family line, and they can't call themselves grandparents from the beginning. This makes two old people who want to have grandchildren fall into meditation ... They think that dogs can only accompany you for a while, but they can't accompany you for a lifetime. People get sick when they get old. Can the dog give you medicine to cook?
Personally, I don't think this is a good wife. A good daughter-in-law can understand the old ideas of her in-laws!
Whether you are willing to help with housework now is also the standard of whether it is a good wife to withdraw cash. Now most girls are spoiled at home, and many can't do housework, so now more and more boys can cook.
My best friend is a gentle boy. She is a little lazy and can't cook. Her husband and mother-in-law cook! But she will do some other things, such as shopping, washing clothes and mopping the floor. When she sees that her parents-in-law are tired, she will also bring them tea and water, and she will not feel so humiliated! So their family is happy, and their in-laws like her very much. Although she doesn't care about cooking, she still loves her very much! I think this is a good wife!
Now on TV and in life, there are many girls who do nothing at home before marriage and still do nothing after marriage. They sit and eat melon seeds and watch TV, and their in-laws have to prepare meals before eating, and the old people have to drag on and never help!
There was once a daughter-in-law who quarreled with her mother-in-law because of this. Her mother-in-law asked if you could do something for me to make things easier. My daughter-in-law said that I never had to work at home, and my mother raised me for more than 20 years and never let me work. Why should I wait on you when I marry into your house? You didn't raise me, so I have to spend my money in your family, and I will carry on the family line in the future. Why would I do that?
As a bystander, I think sharing housework is also the standard of a good wife, don't you think?
In other words, how can I be a good wife? Although your in-laws are not your biological parents, I personally think that you should give them some living expenses or buy them some clothes and necessities for the New Year every month, no matter how much or how little you give, it is a little token of your concern!
Nowadays, many people live with their parents. Usually, their parents buy or grow food. The old man is old, with almost no job and no income. You give them some money, 300 or 500, and let the old people go out on the street with some money in their pockets. He can buy whatever he wants!
I have seen on TV that some daughters-in-law usually eat, drink and treat generously, but never give their in-laws a penny! I think this is a question of filial piety. Zhu Dexiao comes first. If there is no filial daughter-in-law, is it still a good daughter-in-law?
I hope everyone can read my remarks and occasionally give some living expenses to their parents and in-laws! Old people may not be able to help you financially, but that doesn't mean they don't want to!
My grandparents are 70 years old this year. I am the only daughter in my family. I usually work outside. Once I went home for a long time and saw two or three holes in their clothes. At that time, I was really upset and gave them living expenses, but they were reluctant to use them. They said they would save money and give me a gold ring when I get married ... Old people save money and don't spend money indiscriminately. I hope that if you have parents and in-laws, you will give them some living expenses occasionally! 3.5 thousand is really nothing to people nowadays. After eating a steak, I may eat two or three hundred or three or four hundred next time. Go less once or twice and save some money for the elderly!
Whether you can educate your children may also be the standard for a good wife.
Some people think it's not good to hit children, others think that children need speech education, and it's not good to hit children. Everyone's education is different, so I can't judge anything! However, some people don't educate their children. I think this is a bit of a problem!
My uncle's daughter-in-law is laissez-faire! A large family is eating, and the children are rummaging through the dishes with chopsticks. She doesn't care what she turns over. Her in-laws told the children not to do this, and everyone dared not eat your vegetables. She broke her chopsticks when she didn't listen, thinking that her in-laws were targeting her and that the child was born to her. How to educate her is her business!
Do you think she is a good daughter-in-law in this situation? At least, I don't think this is what a good wife should do! Good daughter-in-law, you have to stop the children, because there are more than a dozen people at a table, and everyone dares not eat that dish if you turn it over. You should tell your children that it is wrong to do so. It is a bad habit and impolite to others. Punish her or something if she doesn't correct it ... so that our relatives at the same table won't think that the child is ill-bred, even the mother of the child is ill-bred! In-laws are so much, no mercy! Can this still be a good wife?
What is a good wife? Respect in-laws and elders, understand them, share housework for them, be able to teach each other and really love your family.
In-laws can make peace when they quarrel, parents can take care of them when they are sick, and children can be educated when they are wrong. These are all what a good wife should do!
Many people say that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not easy to get along with. In fact, many times it is the daughter-in-law who is "too powerful". My mother-in-law and I are very good. She cares about me, and I can care about her. She really hurts me as a daughter, and I can really treat her as my own mother! The food I cooked is not delicious. Usually she cooks and I wash vegetables, so they talk nonsense. If they are in a bad mood because of other things, they have a tacit understanding not to talk, and they are chatting when they are angry. ...
You don't have to be a perfect daughter-in-law, but you must make your family harmonious! Everything is prosperous at home, and everything can prosper!