1: "What's the matter?

"This question seems irrelevant, but it is very important. Many parents will habitually make underground judgments when encountering unexpected situations.

He won't hit you until you hit him first.

"You must have done something wrong before the teacher punished you."

If children are not allowed to tell stories from his perspective, they are likely to be wronged.

Question 2: "How do you feel?

"Many times, we just need to express our feelings. Once you say it, you will feel much better.

If you want your child to listen to our opinions, you need to empathize with his feelings and let his emotions have an outlet.

Question 3: "What do you want?"

At this time, no matter what amazing words the child says, don't rush to teach him, but ask him questions calmly.

Question 4: "What do you think?"

At this stage, you might as well brainstorm with your children and come up with all kinds of ideas, reasonable, unreasonable, ridiculous, ridiculous, childish ... The key point of brainstorming is to allow any seemingly absurd ideas. No matter what you hear at this time, don't criticize or judge for the time being.

Question 5: "What are the consequences of these methods?"

Let the children check one by one. What are the consequences of each method? You may be surprised to find that most children can foresee the consequences of things.

Question 6: "What do you want me to do?"

When a child says how he wants to help him, parents must actively support him. Maybe children will say that they can solve it, which is more conducive to children's ability to solve problems.

Question 7: "What have you decided to do?"

If he knows the consequences, he will usually make a more reasonable and wise choice. Even if his choice is not the result expected by his parents, he should respect his children's decision.

In addition, parents must keep their word, and can't ask him how to decide first, and then tell him that he can't make such a decision.

Question 8: "What was the result? Is it as you expected? "

After that, ask him one last question: "What was the result? Is it as you expected? " Or "What will you choose next time you encounter a similar situation?"

Parents had better not do it, because once they lose the opportunity to exercise, their children will be helpless when they encounter problems.

Children should be given enough opportunities, appropriate encouragement and guidance, so that they can learn this indispensable lesson when they grow up.