This is a story full of tragedy. From the day they fell in love, they were separated from each other, and often the old robbery did not go away, and the new robbery was born again, full of bitterness and desolation. However, they are firm and persistent. They stayed on the moon for nine days and went to the five oceans to catch turtles. Their feelings remained unchanged. Thus captivating countless readers.
However, what I want to say is that, just like Yang Guo and the girl, during this long and arduous journey, we unconsciously fell asleep. Consciously or unconsciously deceived to varying degrees. This kind of deception does not come from the author of the novel-perhaps the author is deceived like his protagonist and readers-but from the "illusion of love", from human nature and its love psychology.
Are Yang Guo and Little Dragon Girls Really Worth Worship? The answer is probably no. At least not completely sure.
This is not because Yang Guo is a few years younger than the little dragon girl, nor because Yang Guo lost an arm and the little dragon girl lost her virginity-the authors of all these novels have arranged satisfactory solutions one by one, and the protagonists have indeed overcome these trivial obstacles.
The real love crisis between Yang Guo and Little Dragon Girl is the extreme opposition of their personalities, the extreme contradiction between their life ideal and their favorite lifestyle. In essence, they are completely two kinds of people, belonging to two completely different worlds. They came together by accident, a trick of fate, and their love was probably a misunderstanding, an unconscious self-deception.
"opposites attract" may be the first important reason for this misunderstanding. The "opposite sex" here
Not only refers to the gender differences between men and women, but also refers to the personality differences between men and women. We often see a lively and cheerful person falling in love with a quiet and steady person, a clever person falling in love with a wooden and resolute person, an extrovert falling in love with an introverted person ... and so on, and all of them have a relatively happy ending, which can even be summarized as a "law", that is, opposites attract and coexist. We don't deny this, but we also admit that the complementarity of personality is more favorable for the harmony or compromise of love and marriage. But let's not forget that the natural admiration for the "other pole" figure stems from an ancient aesthetic rule, that is, watching the fire from the other side. We will always find that things that are different from ourselves and far away from ourselves are better than those around us, in front of us and familiar. We are always easily confused by what we don't understand and what we don't have (never seen or seen). .. but once we "get", once this aesthetic distance disappears, the situation will be very different. This is roughly the case with Yang Guo and Little Dragon Girl.
In the ancient tomb, the two only felt that caring for each other was the proper meaning between master and apprentice. Since there are only two of them in the tomb, if they don't take care of each other, who will? ——
Interestingly, the little dragon girl left Yang Guo for the first time because Yang Guo didn't understand love at all:
Little dragon girl primly said, "why do you still call me aunt?" Don't you really take me seriously? " When she saw that Yang Guo didn't answer, she became anxious and trembled: "Who do you think I am?" Yang Guo said sincerely, "You are my master. You pity me and teach me. I have sworn that I will respect you and listen to you all my life. " The little dragon girl shouted, "Don't you treat me as your wife?"
Yang Guo never thought that when she suddenly asked him, he was so flustered that he didn't know how to answer. He murmured, "no, no! You can't be my wife. How can I deserve it? You are my master and my aunt. " The little dragon girl trembled with anger, and suddenly, with a "wow", she spit out one mouthful blood. (the seventh time)
There was a slight misunderstanding. Ouyang Feng found Yang Guo and went to the acupoint of Little Dragon Girl like crazy (at that time, he was undressing with Yang Guo to practice the Jade Girl Heart Sutra), and was taken advantage of by the Quanzhen Taoist Yin Zhiping who had admired Little Dragon Girl for a long time. The little dragon girl thought it was Yang Guo, so she lost her virginity. When Yang Guo found the little dragon girl, Yin Zhiping had already left. Yang Guo was puzzled, but the little dragon girl thought that Yang Guo was crazy and irresponsible. So he still doesn't call her "wife" (she thinks Yang Guo has her)
Angry and annoyed, I wanted to kill Yang Guo, but I couldn't bear to, so I had to turn around and run away from him.
But Yang Guo really doesn't know the cause and effect. I don't know how I offended Master, and I don't understand, "Why does she look so special? One moment she is tender and lingering, and the other she refuses to complain?" Why do you say you want to be your wife? Don't call her aunt. "I can't figure out why, but I thought," This must have something to do with my adoptive father. He must have offended master. "
Yang Guo has only love for his master, Little Dragon Girl, but no love for sex. There is a relationship of closeness and attachment, but there is no passionate love impulse.
He was a child then. I don't know love, I don't know sex, and I don't know the difference between the love between men and women and the love between teachers and apprentices and aunts and nephews.
After the little dragon girl left him, in the process of looking for the little dragon girl, she gradually realized the little dragon girl's requirements for men and women. Therefore, in the process of pursuing the "girl in white" (the little dragon girl is always dressed in white), he met Lu Wushuang and Wan Yanping and regarded them as the phantom of the little dragon girl.
He thought (we all thought) that he was in love with the little dragon girl, but he didn't know that the little dragon girl was just an illusion: the illusion of love. This illusion was created by his heart in Seeds of Love.
At the same time, this phantom is also inspired by the initial environment.
Because from then on, he and the little dragon girl began to separate and suffered a lot. In addition to the first separation, there are three important or long-term separations. First, soon together, separated by "ethics"; The little dragon girl quietly left again, because she knew that she had lost her virginity in Yin Zhiping, and at the same time she thought that Yang Guo was going to marry Guo Fu. For the last time, the little dragon girl jumped into the ruthless bottom in order to make Yang Guo take medicine and detoxify, thus separating them 16 years.
It is worth noting that all the separations are caused by external reasons, but the little dragon girl left voluntarily. Although she has enough reasons to "love" every time she leaves, who can say that this is not her instinctive escape! ?
Whether rational avoidance or instinctive avoidance, the result is the same: separation and suspense. And this kind of separation and suspense is precisely the best motivation to stimulate Yang Guo's strong feelings and his illusion of love. Separation causes the distance between aesthetic feeling and its aesthetic psychology. The suspense after separation again and again will always be exaggerated intentionally or unintentionally. What's more, every separation is accompanied by reasons that Yang Guo has to pursue. For example, for the first time, he wanted to find the little dragon girl, in order to find out how he offended her; The second time I learned that the little dragon girl was forced to leave because of the "ethical defense", which inspired Yang Guo's enthusiasm against fate (which is consistent in Yang Guo's character and life); The third time I learned that the little dragon girl misunderstood him to leave, which made him doubly sorry; The fourth time was for a promise ..
We must see that in the pursuit of this kind of love-we can call this vague and intense emotion love-Yang Guo always exists as a passionate pursuer. This is exactly in line with Yang Guo's character, and this tortuous pursuit of great suffering and great heat is just to Yang Guo's taste. For him-for each of us-the pursuit itself, the process of pursuit itself has become more important than the object of pursuit. Although pursuit and expectation are not painless, they are also a warm and beautiful way of life or survival. In this process, it is always full of the best expectations and fantasies. Fantasy lovers and expected lovers are always much more wonderful than real people.
All this is determined by Yang Guo's character. The hindrance of fate and the interference of foreign objects will always arouse his strong rebellious psychology. Just to "resist" itself, he will disregard life and death (this has been fully demonstrated when he resists the truth). The same is true when his relationship with the little dragon girl is criticized by others. The novel writes:
.. Huang Rong said, "Well, since you want me to speak frankly, I won't beat around the bush with you. Since Miss Long is your master and you are your elder, there can be no affair between men and women. "
Yang Guo didn't understand this rule as well as Little Dragon Girl, but he was unconvinced, why only because his aunt taught him martial arts? Can't you be his wife? Why did he never get along with his aunt, but even Uncle Guo refused to believe him? Thought of here, chest anger came up. He is a fearless and extreme person, but when he is wronged, he throws it out and cares nothing. He said loudly, "What did I do wrong to hinder you? Who have I hurt? My aunt teaches me martial arts, but I want her to be my wife. You cut me a thousand dollars and ten thousand dollars, and I want her to be my wife. " (back to the fourteenth)
This passage fully shows his character, but it does not show his love for the little dragon girl herself. —
At such an exciting moment, if you ask Yang Guo to marry anyone in order to resist fate, he will not hesitate to do so. This is his character. So, if there is no such conflict, there is no strong rebellious mentality and rebellious spirit caused by such a strong conflict? What if there is no separation again and again? -such a question is meaningful and touches the essence.
The strong expectation of love beautifies the object of love. The passionate pursuit of love masks ignorance of the object of love and love itself. This is the real tragedy of Yang Guo and Little Dragon Girl.
16 years later, the two lovers are together again, as if they were separated. After decades of twists and turns and separation, this pair of sentient beings can probably live in peace for a few days without separation.
However, perhaps at this time, the love tragedy and irreconcilable personality conflict between them really began. And the story of the past few decades is just a long "introduction" to this tragedy? Unfortunately, the novel is over here. This is the author's cleverness, which makes us keep the best and strongest impression, and also makes us wonder what happened to them. You can't blame the author. Because the novel is not a textbook of life, it is only responsible for bringing us beautiful joys and sorrows (regardless of the real ending) and showing us the most colorful music. As for the real trivial ordinary life, it is not the author's business.
We said that Yang Guo and Little Dragon Girl would not be happy. There are several reasons for this.
First, Yang Guo is an affectionate person, while Little Dragon Girl is a "heartless" person. —
This is the crystallization of her grave-robbing career and the necessary foundation of her martial arts. -There are advantages and disadvantages of "twelve less, twelve more" in the ancient tomb school: "think less, think less, desire less, talk less, laugh less, worry less, be happy less, be happy less, be angry less, be good less, and be evil less. Doing this 12 times or more is the cost of health care. Too much mental laziness, too much mental loss, too much tiredness, too much shortness of breath, too much laughter, too much worry, too much fear, too much joy, too much anger, too much confusion, too much obsession, too much anxiety. If you don't divide these twelve or more, you will die. "
(Back to the 39th) Obviously, the little dragon girl practiced this trick very well, otherwise she could not have grown up in the ancient tomb, especially she could not have been alone in the ruthless riff-raff 16 years.
Secondly, Yang Guo is a passionate, lively and intense person, while the little dragon girl is a quiet and claustrophobic person. This inevitably leads to the great contrast and conflict of their lifestyles. Yang Guo once said, "Yes, it is better to be bitter and sweet than not to be bitter and sweet. I can only be crazy, but I can't live a quiet life with my wife "(the 29th time). Little dragon girl is just the opposite. The so-called "clear water means no fish, and clear people mean no disciples." Little dragon girl is weak and empty. How can she be a companion?
Thirdly, Yang Guo belongs to this miserable life, while the little dragon girl belongs to the ancient tomb. She is like a ghost and a fairy. In a word, she belongs to an empty valley, a unique field, vases and flowers in a greenhouse. Once the world is stormy, she will panic and lose her nature, such as falling into hell.
In this regard, Taiwan Province scholar Mr. Zeng Zhaoxu also made a good exposition: "Now let's talk about the combination of Yang Guo and the girl. What are the difficulties and shortcomings? As we mentioned earlier, this empty ideal is not a perfect life, and this strong life is not a smooth life. So in essence, this combination is only temporary. The little dragon girl's descent to earth was a temporary reaction, and Yang Guo's impulse to calm down her life was just a temporary request when she was hurt inside. In the end, the little dragon girl will return to the empty world, and Yang Guo will set foot in this world again. So the best way for them to meet is to gather and disperse like clouds, and the fate is over. If they waved to each other and went their separate ways, the little dragon girl wouldn't lose sight and Yang Guo would take a nap. And we must stop here and seek a long-term combination, which will not only fall into many hardships, but also have deep internal defects. And Yang Guo, due to various external factors, is determined to return to the little dragon girl after all. Therefore, this feeling is tragic. In Yang Guo's view, this tragedy is that he could have rushed to the moral realm on his own, but now he is confined to the void and cannot stand out.
From the little dragon girl's side, it's that she doesn't understand many words and deeds of Yang Guo at all. So the combination of the two shows a hidden crisis. "(1) In nature, the little dragon girl is a secular fairy (only in novels can there be such a character), while Yang Guo is a passionate, romantic, lively and extreme secular hero. The little dragon girl loves Yang Guo because of Yang Guo's deep attachment and constant "pursuit" (she often avoids or escapes); Yang Guo's love for the little dragon girl is to look at the scenery on the other side and chase the light and shadow, which is more attractive than the desolate world. Their love began with the loneliness and nature without outsiders in the ancient tomb, and then went through hardships, life and death together, and dust robbery. On the contrary, it is particularly colorful, which strengthens the significance of pursuing itself and exaggerates the degree of emotion.
Of course, you can only put forward your own questions and opinions, and you can only analyze or synthesize them according to your own ideas. We can't and can't "judge": Do they have love? Do they feel happy?
Can they live a quiet and peaceful life together? None of these novels were written, and we are not Yang Guo or Miss Xiaolong herself, so we can't judge. These are things that no outsider can judge, because love and happiness are psychological feelings. How do you feel? You know what you are going through. This is the mystery and attraction of love.
We can only say that at least a considerable part of their feelings are caused by separation, inspired by expectations and consolidated and promoted by hardships. We can only say that these two protagonists are both people with amazing perseverance. Especially in Yang Guo, the little dragon girl was quiet for a long time because she didn't want anything.
However, in any case, we still want to thank Jin Yong, who wrote this kind of love story. Explain that "the more you can't get something, the more beautiful you feel and the more you want it."
This truth of human psychology profoundly reveals the secrets of human emotion and humanity.
(1) Zeng Zhaoxu "Jin Yong's Temperament World-On Character Form (Condor Heroes)", see Jin Yong's Theory of Hundred Schools, Taiwan Province Visual Publishing Company Edition.