The ability to deal with people can be improved. If people's ability to deal with people is improved, people will feel carefree and more satisfied with their lives and work.
1, learn to communicate
Drucker, the father of modern management, once said, "One must know what to say, when to say it, to whom to say it, and how to say it-"
Communication is a way of communication between people, and it is also a necessary way for people to be human. Learn to communicate and lay the foundation for your life. I don't think it's derogatory to say what kind of person is, and I don't want to say how smooth such a person is. Instead, I want to know what to say when facing different occasions and different identities, and at the same time let the object I face find the bright spot in myself.
If your first sentence is offensive, there is no possibility of the next one. If the same leader has a thorn in his mouth, his subordinates will not respect you, and he will lose his leadership charm.
Step 2 learn to listen
Dale Carnegie once said, "If you want to be a good talker, you should first be a person who pays tribute and listens."
Many times, when we communicate with others: learn to listen. When others are talking, listen patiently, even if others are saying something unimportant, you should learn to listen. This is a kind of grace.
For example, leaders directly interrupt subordinates' reports and criticize subordinates when they make reports. Such a leader will give people the impression of being overbearing and uneducated. Such people are not convincing, and of course subordinates will not be dead set on them. This is to learn to listen when dealing with others, and it is also the most basic respect for others.
Step 3 learn to be tolerant
Be tolerant when dealing with people and things. Shakespeare once said: "Tolerance is like a drizzle in the sky, which moistens the earth. It blesses the tolerant and the tolerated. "
Everyone is mutual. If you forgive others, you will forgive others. In dealing with people, even if the position is high, you should have a tolerant heart. Everyone will make mistakes, and only tolerance will give people a chance to start again and reach the peak of life.
There is such a short story: a beggar stole something from a family, but the owner gave the beggar clothes and food instead of beating and cursing. Many years later, the beggar became a rich man, and when he came back to repay his kindness, he said, "Thank you for your tolerance."
Step 4 learn wisdom
Learning wisdom means reading more books. Mao Mu once said: "Reading is a refuge that you can carry with you."
One can't give up studying at any time. Reading can enrich a person's brain and make you smarter. At the same time, reading can also let you see your own shortcomings from all aspects, so that you can grow and make progress.
I remember in a news report, I saw a reporter interviewing Ren. The most striking thing about his office is that there are many books. Another reporter asked Ren: "Are you worried about your daughter?" Ren replied, "Don't worry, she is very busy now. Busy reading every day, she wants to read a book "Prison Doctor". We all know why. This is a clever man.
Being a man is a science, which needs to be constantly studied and improved in life. At the same time, you should also deeply realize your own shortcomings in your study, keep improving and let people see your changes. Communication, listening and tolerance need continuous learning and experience to make progress, but wisdom is a course that needs lifelong practice.