Therefore, some parents adopt the education method of "stocking parenting" to let their children find their own growth direction, and he only provides material satisfaction for their children.

This kind of "stocking education" ignores the supervision and guidance of parents in the process of children's growth and ignores the psychological needs of children's growth.

This will cause children to grow aimlessly in the process of "stocking". The road ahead is vast, but he has no direction.

In fact, not all children are suitable for "stocking education".

As parents, we should have a steelyard in mind, and it is effective to choose the most suitable education method for children.

Xiaoyu's parents entered the workplace after Xiaoyu's junior high school. Because of frequent business trips, I started the stocking mode for Xiaoyu.

As long as children are given enough pocket money and living expenses every month, parents rarely interfere with Xiaoyu's choice, only occasionally let Xiaoyu's grandparents come over to help with cooking.

If grandparents are away, Xiaoyu will cook at home by herself.

Although Xiaoyu, a junior, has certain self-care ability, it is quite difficult for Xiaoyu to live independently.

In short, Xiaoyu has grown from a clever and sensible boy to a rebellious teenager in the years when his parents raised him.

Five years later, Xiaoyu's parents can finally return to their families and work in a stable place.

At this time, it is difficult for them to re-establish close parent-child relationship with Xiaoyu.

After a light rain in the middle school of the fifth year, I met some bad teenagers at school and got into bad habits. Also, because of the lack of parental companionship and discipline and some pocket money, it became a problem for teenagers themselves.

When Xiaoyu's parents found out that their children had changed, it was already difficult to correct Xiaoyu's bad habits and misconceptions. Their preaching, for Xiaoyu, is just like the spell of Tang priest, which is boring and headache.

In this case, Xiaoyu's parents are at a loss.

They didn't expect that their "free range" would bring such a big problem. If they could start over, they would never educate their children like this.

In fact, there are still many parents who have headaches like Xiaoyu's parents.

When they adopt the education mode of "stocking parenting", they do not take into account the actual situation and children's personality characteristics, which leads to the failure of "stocking parenting" to achieve excellent results.

The direction of children's growth is full of uncertainty.

If parents don't consider their children's actual situation and adopt the education method of "stocking parenting", the growth direction of children will be full of uncertainty.

Children make their own choices because of stocking.

In this process, if a child makes a mistake in his choice, but no one can help him correct it, he will never turn back on the crooked road.

This uncertainty makes children's growth full of ups and downs and hidden dangers, which is of no benefit to children's growth.

(2) The affection between children and parents becomes weak.

Some parents have completely given up their children's growth after adopting "stocking education".

Parents not only failed to help their children solve the difficulties encountered in the process of growing up, but also failed to communicate with their children spiritually.

After a long time, the feelings between children and parents will become weak, and children will no longer rely on their parents and regard their parents as their closest people.

Children who have been in inappropriate "free-range education" for a long time, because there is no supervision and restraint from their parents, are naturally loose.

In this society where rules and regulations need to be observed everywhere, children who are free and loose are usually unwilling to obey the rules, but come as comfortably as possible.

This will lead to the child becoming a selfish villain, flouting the rules and doing things disorganized.

A child with strong self-discipline

Children with strong self-discipline can consciously accomplish what they should do even without the supervision and restraint of their parents under the educational mode of "stocking parenting".

Such children can take good care of themselves and don't need too much worry from their parents.

2 children who consciously abide by the rules.

Children who consciously abide by the rules can consciously abide by the rules and regulations of society and schools even without the control of their parents.

This can effectively ensure that children will not make their parents nervous under the education mode of stocking.

③ Understand the parents' pains for their children.

They all said, "But how much love there is in an inch of grass, and I got three inches of light." Only children who know how to understand their parents' painstaking efforts can understand the profound meaning behind their parents' stocking education.

Such a sensible and considerate child will consciously restrain his behavior in the process of stocking and strive to be a child who can make his parents proud.

(1) Teach students in accordance with their aptitude and let go purposefully.

The real free-range education is to enable children to grow up independently. In this process, parents should let go purposefully according to their children's characteristics.

For example, parents should give their children as much freedom as possible in making friends and dealing with free time, so that they can grow up freely.

In children's studies, character building and other aspects. Parents should consciously strengthen management and not let their children's temper mess around.

2 respect children's personal choices.

Parents should learn to respect their children's personal choices when carrying out stocking parenting.

Because stocking means that parents recognize the individual independence of children, please treat children as an independent person in the process of stocking.

In stocking education, parents' respect can make children give full play to their subjective initiative.

Some parents think that free-range rearing means giving up their children's growth, which is wrong.

These parents will appear when their children have problems or make mistakes, and help and guide their children through the difficulties in their own way.

In this process, the authority of parents can be established, and even if children usually ignore teaching, children can consciously be sensible good children.

Stocking parenting is not suitable for all children. As parents of children, we should teach students in accordance with their aptitude, adjust measures to local conditions, and tailor reasonable and effective educational methods for children.

Today's topic: What kind of education will you take to raise your children?

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