The development trend of these two lines is different for everyone. So there is a saying: everyone is unique.
Some people have an average career line, but their children are very motivated. Through their own efforts, they have made great achievements.
But some people have a brilliant career line, but in the fate of their children, it's a long story, even sad.
Some of them, such as Xie Dajiao, missed having children because they struggled for their careers when they were young, and have no children all their lives.
Some children are not worthy, such as Jackie Chan's son, such as the singer's son.
The saddest thing is that both parents are lucky and their careers are thriving, but their children are unfortunate, such as congenital physical and mental problems.
Director Xie Jin belongs to the latter. Xie Jin is a well-known national first-class director, who has left us many very influential film and television works in his life, including furong town, No.5 Women's Basketball Team, Red Female Soldier and Garland under the Mountain.
When Xie Jin 18 years old, he insisted on choosing drama major despite his parents' opposition. Later, he became a famous director in China.
But he and his wife had four children, two of whom were mentally retarded, and their intelligence was only equivalent to that of three or four-year-old children. Life must be taken care of. Their daughter is slightly mentally retarded, but she can take care of herself. The only normal son died young at the age of 59.
Xie Jin and his wife were born in Shaoxing and Jiang 'an, Sichuan respectively, and they are not related by blood. So there is no question of consanguineous marriage.
So, what caused their three children's mental retardation?
Born into a noble family in Shaoxing, his father went to college in Shanghai.
Xie Jin, 1923, a native of Xietang Town, Shangyu, Shaoxing City, Zhejiang Province. His family, the Xie family, is quite prestigious in the local area, and his grandfather Xie was a figurehead in the Qing Dynasty.
Xie Jin's father, Xie Chunpu, graduated from Shanghai Building University with a business degree. Before liberation, he was an employee of Shanghai Electric Appliance Company, and later founded "Xie Chunpu Certified Public Accountants". He was a famous accountant in Shanghai at that time, and he was also famous in Shangyu Guild.
Before liberation, Xie Chunpu worked in the Ministry of Communications, responsible for customs tax collection, and taught at Shanghai University after liberation.
My mother's name is Chen Zhenmei. She is the daughter of a big family in Yuyao. She studied with her tutor since she was a child and was sensible. Her mother's family was quite rich at that time, with many fields, and jewelry stores and money houses were also opened at home.
At the age of 8, Xie Jin moved to Shanghai with his mother, brother and sister, reunited with his father and went to school in Shanghai from then on.
Movies were the most popular thing in Shanghai at that time, and my mother took Xie Jin to the movies. The first movie I saw at that time was the family ethics drama Sister Flowers starring Hu Die. Xie Jin was fascinated. Since then, he has developed a keen interest in movies and plays.
The process of love between husband and wife
When Xie Jin's grandfather was alive, he left an ancestral motto-Xie Jia's descendants should not speculate in stocks or be actors.
Xie Chunpu's plan for his son is to be admitted to Jiaotong University after graduating from high school and then go to the United States for further study.
194 1 year, 18-year-old Xie Jin told his parents that he was going to take the drama school. Xie Chunpu trembled with anger and tried to dissuade him, but to no avail.
Xie Jin left a note for his parents and left home. At that time, his parents were very worried. Fortunately, he wrote home soon, and the envelope was signed by Jiang 'an, Sichuan.
It turned out that he was admitted to Sichuan Jiang 'an National Theatre Academy.
The National Drama School moved to Jiang 'an after Chongqing, and the temporary school building was a Confucian Temple separated from Jiang 'an Girls' Middle School by a wall.
During the period of 1942, Jiang 'an Girls' Middle School was rehearsing Tian Han's drama Song of Rejuvenation, and a teacher from the National Theatre Academy also taught in Jiang 'an Girls' Middle School. When rehearsing, please ask Xie Jin and other college students for guidance. . 16-year-old Xu Dawen starred in this play. The two people know each other and have a good impression on each other.
Xu Dawen likes singing and dancing and is a literary activist. Xu Dawen, an only child, lost her father at the age of 12. At that time, the family was a poor landlord family. However, in the 1940s, it was very rare for girls to go to middle school. Although the family wealth has fallen, there are still some family wealth.
Many years later, Xu Dawen recalled this past event and said, "One of the reasons why I have a good impression on him is that he has a special sense of justice, and his words are true."
Later, Xu Dawen went to Chongqing to take refuge in her uncle, who worked in Mobil Company in Chongqing. Attend Chongqing Wende Girls' Middle School.
1946, Xie Jin specially ran from Shanghai to Chongqing to pick her up for Shanghai. Xie Jin also brought a dowry: a pair of gold bracelets, a pair of gold rings and a watch. In that small place in Jiang 'an, such a heavy dowry is a big deal. In the autumn of the same year, they held a grand wedding in Shanghai.
At this time, Xie Jin was 23 years old and Xu Dawen was 20 years old. They live together forever.
Love the film industry very much
In the 1950s, his "Women's Basketball No.5" won many awards in one fell swoop, and made its mark in the directing field.
Golden Rooster and Hundred Flowers have won various awards in international film festivals.
From 65438 to 0986, furong town was popular all over the country, which made Xie Jin famous. .
Thanks to his own efforts, Xie Jin has made great achievements in the film industry. Besides, he is decent and has never had an affair with any actor.
Xie Jin said: "In my creation, I just use my feelings to burn myself every time." A word "burn" shows his devotion.
He put his 100% into making movies, and the things he made can especially reflect the truth of that era and attract people's attention.
Xie Jin's love for movies is rarely compared with others, and there is another thing that he loves to the extreme. Such a thing is wine.
At the shooting scene, others brought strong tea drinks, but he brought a hip flask and directed it while drinking.
Xie Jin was born in Shaoxing, and his daughter Hong is famous all over the country. Many people in Shaoxing can make wine, and people who like to drink are not worried about not drinking.
It is said that Xie Jin's father drank ten Jin or eight Jin of Shaoxing wine at the banquet. One of his friends found out the secret after asking: Xie Chunpu had to drink two spoonfuls of castor oil before going to the party, and the oil burned his stomach wall, so he no longer absorbed the wine he drank, so in the eyes of ordinary people, Xie Chunpu became an amazing amount.
Xie Jin once went to Japan to attend a film festival and won the title of "King Maotai".
I went to Japan to attend a film festival. When I left, a man who claimed to be King Maotai came to China to have a drink. Xie Jin went out to play without saying anything.
The man opened a whole bottle of Maotai, poured the wine into two large cups on average, and pushed one of them to Xie Jin. Xie Jin picked up the glass, raised his neck and gulped down half a bottle of Maotai. The buddy who claimed to be the king of Maotai next to him was dumbfounded when he saw this scene, but the audience was booed. He had to bite the bullet and drink according to Xie Jin's drinking method, but he couldn't.
Everyone present applauded for Xie Jin, and the crown of Maotai King fell to Director Xie Jin.
Xie Jin's wife, Xu Dawen, once said: "My old Xie can't have surgery, and anesthetic is probably useless to him. Xie Jin's nerves can't be paralyzed by three Jin of yellow rice wine. The anesthetic in the hospital is probably powerless. "
Some colleagues recalled that Xie always carried wine in his carry-on luggage when shooting on location. Once, while filming the modern Peking Opera "Rock Bay", he went to Guilin by train to see the exterior of the cave. He put the wine in his suitcase and accidentally broke it.
It is also necessary for Xie Dao to discuss the script with the screenwriter.
Four children were born one after another.
After the marriage, Xu Dawen originally planned to go to school, but her parents-in-law did not allow her to continue studying. She also dismissed the idea.
After getting married, Xu Dawen first worked in Luohan Lane Martyrs Night School of Jiaotong University, giving literacy to workers and teaching them elementary courses such as literacy and arithmetic. Later, she was transferred to the publicity and distribution department of Shanghai Film Factory.
My daughter was born in 1947. She is also a little mentally retarded, but she is gentle and can take care of herself.
1949, the eldest son Xie Yan was born. He was the only normal child among four children and later engaged in the film industry.
The third and fourth are sons, born in 1953 and 1956 respectively.
When the third child was born, his mother Xu Dawen was in poor health and had to go to work every day. She specially invited the wet nurse in Shangyu, her hometown, to nurse him.
Unexpectedly, half a year later, the nurse was found to have asthma, and the third child was also infected with asthma. The third child is weak for a long time, and his mental development is not perfect.
Old four was born with a bigger belly than ordinary children. Because his parents are busy, he can only be sent to the nursery for full-time care.
As there are many children in the nursery, it is inevitable to take care of them. Once, Old Four had a high fever, which led to convulsions, infected with acute hepatitis, and was later burned. At the age of 7, he suffered from epilepsy and mental retardation.
The third child got asthma when he was two years old. Every night, he can't sleep well. The voice in his throat made Xie Jin feel uncomfortable. I often run to the hospital.
Despite his fame, Xie Jin became very busy. But whenever there is no job, he will stay at home with his two children.
Help them wash their faces, shave and teach them to hold chopsticks. In adulthood, the intelligence of the old three and the old four is equivalent to that of children of three or four years old.
Thanks to Xie Jin's perseverance, Lao Si also learned to pour wine for the guests.
Old four also helped his father do something for decades: every morning, when his father went out, he gave his bag to his father and put away his slippers. In the evening, before Dad comes back, he leaves his shoes at the door, and when Dad comes back, he helps Dad with his bag.
The third child loves his father the most. As soon as he went out, he hid in the hole behind the door and looked out. Sitting on the doorstep, waiting for my father to come home.
Xie Jin often takes these two "silly sons" out to play, because he is always at home, and he is afraid of boring the children.
Every holiday, he will take his children back to his hometown in Shangyu. Every time I go back to my hometown, the old three and the old four are particularly excited. They actually have normal feelings, but their intellectual development is lower than that of normal people.
When Xie Jin is on a business trip, he always takes pains to choose gifts for the third and fourth children.
199 1 Xie Jin was filming "Morning Star" when he suddenly received news from home that the third child was critically ill.
Xie Jin asked the doctor and said, "No matter what the cost, he must be cured." However, the third child failed to get the disease in the end. At the age of 38, he still left. Xie Jin was 68 years old this year.
The third child didn't die until his father came to see him. He knows his father's love for him.
Before he died at the age of 38, his lung capacity was not as good as a 90-year-old man.
After the death of the third child, Xie Jin shut himself in the house all day and didn't see anyone.
Old four is in better health. Xie Jin tried his best to let him learn something within his power.
Under the patient guidance of Xie Jin, Lao Si learned to fold quilts and set dishes and chopsticks before meals.
Every time he eats, he will wait until Xie Jin is seated, and then carefully pour wine for his father. He doesn't pour a lot every time in case his father drinks too much.
Although this is a very simple thing, in Xie Jin's eyes, it is a rare family affection and a great progress for Lao Si.
Xie Jin has the habit of reading newspapers every day, and Lao Si learns to organize newspapers for his father. This is the morning paper and this is the evening paper. He has made it very clear.
The old four learned about this, which made Xie Jin and his wife feel very gratified.
But parents will leave one day. Xie Jin is worried that he and his wife will drive a crane to the west one day. What should the fourth child do?
In order to thoroughly exercise Lao Si, Xie Jin found a simple job for Lao Si in the factory under the community street office. With the help of the workmates, Old Four learned to file steel pipes with a file.
Xie Jin also asked the nanny aunt to lead the fourth to work every day and teach the fourth to find the way.
After a while, Xie Jin wanted to further exercise Lao Si, and he asked Lao Si to go to work by himself.
That day, his four sons also went to work in the factory normally, but they didn't come home until late at night. Now everyone in the family is panicking. Until the old four should be lost.
Xie Jin was working overtime at the Shanghai Film Studio. When he heard the news that Old Four was unemployed, he hurried home without saying anything.
Neighbors said they didn't see Lao Si, so they went to the public security bureau to report the case, but there was no reply at the moment. In desperation, Xie Jin had to turn to Xinmin Evening News, the newspaper with the largest circulation at that time, hoping to publish an article "Looking for You" on it.
Xie Jin was already a well-known director at that time, and his eyebrows lit up at the sight, so the editor of the Evening News helped him write the apocalypse of missing people in a conspicuous page. In this way, a social news that "the lost son worries parents, and Xie Jin is eager for readers to help him find his beloved son" was published in Xinmin Evening News on June 1989.
Less than an hour after the news appeared in the newspaper, Xie Jin's phone kept ringing. Finally, someone provided a clue and finally found the old four.
Xie Jin was finally relieved.
He always felt that he brought the children into this world, and he had a responsibility to them.
In recent years, Xie Jin has been very frugal with himself and often wears only a few sets of clothes. He wants to save more money so that he can have a guarantee after his fourth year.
In 2002, Xie Jin was asked by the media about his son. He said: "People with mental retardation are not fools, they also have their own ways to express their feelings. Every time I go home, my fourth son will put my slippers away in advance. "
The reason for the birth of "stupid son"
Xie Jin and his wife are physically and mentally healthy, not close relatives. Then why do four children have two mental retardation?
Xie Jin is a straightforward person, and sometimes he doesn't shy away from personal privacy. Speaking of his two silly sons, Xie Jin once said guiltily: The problem is probably on me.
He said: "When the third and fourth children were born, it happened to be the best time for me to indulge in drinking. I have drunk yellow rice wine from my hometown and five-color miscellaneous wines from all over the world, especially Maotai, Fenjiu, Wuliangye, Hengshui Laobaigan, Guilin Sanhua Wine, lanling wine, and even Inner Mongolia mutton wine and Xinjiang koumiss wine. I want to drink every glass of wine. I am drunk and happy! But happiness is happiness, and it also leaves karma ... "
At the shooting scene, others brought strong tea drinks, but he brought a hip flask and directed it while drinking.
Xie Jin once said:
"According to the tradition of China, they are' debt collectors'. I owed them a debt in my last life, and I will pay it back in my life. However, I still don't know in this life. "
Having said that, he is still doing his best to pay off the debts he owes.
1988, Xie Jin built a house with an area of about 150 square meters in his hometown, and also had a villa in Shanghai. All this is in the hope that after he and his wife leave, the fourth child can have a living guarantee.
The eldest son had a successful career, but he never married and died at the age of 59.
Because the lives of his two younger brothers have always needed someone to take care of them, Xie Yan was very sensible since he was a child, and he never bothered his parents about what he could do.
Xie Yan jumped the queue when he was young and settled in rural Anhui. Later, he was transferred to the county art troupe, and later came to Hangzhou Repertory Theatre and Zhejiang Film Studio.
65438-0983 went to the United States to study film, and studied in the Film Department of new york University. He and the famous director Ang Lee are alumni.
After returning from his studies, he successively filmed the film Qiao Huarong Ji adapted from Bai Xianyong's short stories, Zhou Xun's first film Daughter Red, and inspirational film Hand in Hand for Life.
When the film "Flower Bridge" was filmed, unfortunately, the Asian financial turmoil interrupted Xie Yan's investment, and suddenly it was in a desperate situation.
At this time, Xie Jin lent a helping hand, not only helping him to return to Shanghai Film Studio from Hong Kong for re-editing, but also assigning his long-term partner to his son to take care of the daily affairs and help keep the creditors from coming to the door. Finally, the work was born smoothly and won the grand prize.
Despite his remarkable achievements in his career, Xie Yan has never been married and has no children.
He once said to his close friend: I should think of that woman. What if the children born after marriage are as unhealthy (mentally retarded) as the two younger brothers? !
In his later years, Xie Jin once said to Xie Yan, "I'm gone, so I must take good care of him (Old Four)! In any case, you can't leave your bad brother in the future. "
Unfortunately, Xie Yan later developed lung cancer and died in August 2008 at the age of 59.
After the diagnosis of lung cancer, Xie Yan, who originally settled in the United States, quietly sold his house in the United States and returned to Shanghai, leaving a will. 75% of all his property is left to his younger brother, A Si, and 25% to his parents.
After returning to Shanghai, Xie Yan concealed his illness. He is worried that his elderly parents will worry about him. He also bought a cemetery in advance and planned to use it as a family cemetery in the future.
He arranged everything clearly, then put on a clean suit, went to the hospital and never came out. He begged people around him not to let mom and dad come to the hospital. He kept saying, "Don't come, don't come, don't let them come …" He couldn't bear to see his parents in a hurry.
Over the years, his parents have done countless things for the third and fourth children, and he has seen them all. Mom and dad are really tired.
It was not until a week before Xie Yan died that parents learned that their son was seriously ill. When he arrived at the hospital, Xie Yan was unable to get up and looked haggard.
Walk calmly
June 5438+October 2008 10, Xie Jin attended the centenary celebration of his alma mater at the invitation of chunhui middle school.
That night, Xie Jin had a good appetite. He ate a seafood, two biscuits, a cake and drank several glasses of wine from his hometown daughter-in-law.
The next morning, I found Xie Jin lying on his side in bed, his body was cold. It was later confirmed by the hospital that the time of death was about 1 in the morning, and the reason was sudden cardiac death. At the age of 85.
56 days after the death of his son Xie Yan.
The sudden death of Xie Dao has made countless people feel sad.
On the day when the body was in funeral home cremation, thousands of people in Longhua, holding flowers and elegiac couplets, saw Xie Dao off.
Several generations of movie stars trained by Xie Jin, including Zhu, Zhu Shimao, Pan Hong, Pu Cunxin, Zhao Wei and Fan Bingbing, were all present. Because too many people came to attend the mourning, the crowd was chaotic, and the glass door of the funeral home was smashed. ...
Eight years later, Mrs. Xie Jin Xu Dawen died in Shanghai Putuo District Central Hospital at the age of 90. Before her death, she entrusted her fourth child to her daughter and son-in-law. Father's love is like a mountain, and maternal love is like the sea.
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As a director, Xie Jin is undoubtedly very successful.
What's more, his love for his two mentally retarded sons is so deep and gentle.
He accepted the fact that children are mentally retarded optimistically and firmly, and tried to make them live better and happier in this world.
He blamed their children's mental retardation on their drinking, saying, "I owed them a debt in my last life, and I will pay it back in this life, but I still can't pay it back in this life." How many people in the world can do this sober, this sense of responsibility for children?
The child has shown mental problems since he was a child, and he never gives up. The more he loves him.
He explained the most beautiful father-son relationship in the world with his life's actions. "I brought you into this world, and I don't ask for anything in return. I just hope you can live a better life. "
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