When people get old, they are most concerned about their own pension. Each of us hopes to be filial to our parents and spend our old age comfortably and happily with the company of our relatives in our old age.

For the old people who have been busy for most of their lives, what they are most eager to look forward to is to live a stable life every day in the last stage of their lives, hoping that they can grow old naturally without illness or disaster.

As elderly people with mobility difficulties, their social circle is getting narrower and narrower, and there is almost no social interaction, so their home has become their main battlefield. What the elderly are most afraid of is being marginalized by society, and they are afraid that they will not find a sense of existence and value at home all day.

Eighty-year-old Uncle Wan is an old man who longs for happiness in his later years. After experiencing various ways of providing for the aged, he finally spent ten years and came up with a good way to spend his old age safely, and proceeded accordingly.

Uncle Wan:

I am eighty years old, and my wife died of illness ten years ago. I was just 70 years old the year my wife died. I have an only son. My son lives an ordinary life, which is neither bad nor bad, and can only meet the needs of food and clothing.

When my wife was alive, I never thought about providing for the elderly myself. Because my wife is a capable and virtuous woman, and I have a wife to take care of my daily life, I have never been anxious about providing for the elderly.

I have had a hard time eating three meals since my wife died. I have never cooked in my life, I can't cook, and I can even fry a vegetable. With my cooking skills, I can't cook at all.

I am a person who is not interested in housework by nature. Even if I am hungry, I will never go to the kitchen to cook noodles for myself. A few days after my wife died, I lived next to a small restaurant in front of my house.

I eat in a restaurant every day, and after a month, I spend more than half of my pension, which is not worthwhile. Later, I thought of a way to board my son's house. I would rather earn money for my son than give it to a restaurant owner who is not related by blood.

Because of poor health, the daughter-in-law stopped working very early, and the family's economic source only depends on his son's income, so life is stretched. I thought to myself, if I give my son two thousand yuan for food every month, it will not only solve the problem of eating, but also subsidize my son's life. Isn't it a good thing to kill two birds with one stone?

My son was very happy when I told him about it. We agreed to officially start boarding at his house the next day. The next morning, I rushed to my son's house for breakfast.

When I got to my son's house. It's exactly eight o'clock in the morning. It's our appointed time for breakfast. When I got to my son's house, he had gone out to work, and it was my daughter-in-law who opened the door for me.

I saw a bowl of gruel, two steamed buns and a dish of pickles on the dining table. I knew it was for me, so I sat down at the dining table and began to eat. Although breakfast is simple, it is very sweet and feels at home. After breakfast, I left my son's house to avoid cleaning and resting for my daughter-in-law.

At noon 12, I arrived at my son's house on time as scheduled. My daughter-in-law prepared me a bowl of rice and two dishes, one meat and one vegetable. I wolfed it down, wiped my mouth and went home.

My son gets off work at 5: 30 every night, so he can't have dinner until six o'clock. I opened my son's door at six o'clock on time and saw my son, daughter-in-law and grandson at home. The atmosphere was very lively.

I haven't experienced the excitement of family reunion for a long time since my wife died, so I was very happy that day, so I asked my son to pour me a glass of white wine and chat with him while eating until I was slightly drunk.

After returning home, I have been thinking about my happy feelings at my son's house. I regret not going to my son's house earlier, which led me to go through so many days of three meals and endure so much loneliness and loneliness.

Although my son's cooking is poor every day, I am still willing to give the young couple two thousand yuan for food. As long as I can make my son's daughter-in-law's life a little easier, I will feel gratified.

I thought if I gave my son more money, my son and daughter-in-law would appreciate my hard work and be good to me. After all, my monthly pension is only 4,000 yuan, and I am not a rich old man.

My son is very kind to me, but my wife always dislikes me. She said that every time I finished eating, I threw away the bowl and left without saying hello, completely ignoring her. My daughter-in-law complained to her son that I was so arrogant that I didn't even wash my own bowl. Really lazy.

My son conveyed his daughter-in-law's words to me, reminding me to pay attention. My son says my daughter-in-law is not bad, but she is quick-talking. Let me be an elder and be more tolerant of me.

Since my son reminded me, I have paid great attention to my words and deeds. Every time I go to my son's house for dinner, I will take the initiative to say hello to my wife. Every time I talk to my daughter-in-law, she always grunts coldly and looks like she loves to answer.

I know my daughter-in-law hates my laziness, because every time I finish eating, I drop my chopsticks and don't help her clean them. Actually, no, I don't want to wash the dishes. I just think that young people are too particular about it, and I am worried that my wife thinks my food is not clean, so I didn't take the initiative to wash it.

After a while, I found that my daughter-in-law looked at me with growing disgust. Even when I took the initiative to talk to her, she looked away and didn't want to see me.

I don't think this is the way to continue. After all, I want to continue eating at my son's house. To please my daughter-in-law and make her stop hating me. I offered 5,000 yuan to let her buy a good computer for her child.

Grandson clamored for a new computer. He said that the computer he was using was stuck and it was too bad to use. My son and daughter-in-law are distressed by money and will not change their lives.

Grandchildren need new ones, but sons and daughters-in-law don't. Two generations often quarrel at home about changing computers and always have a fight. In order to please my daughter-in-law and grandson and let them have a good look at me, I reluctantly took out 5 thousand yuan to let my grandson buy a new computer.

If I had known this had started, I would never have given my grandson 5000 yuan, because to do so would be to dig a hole for myself.

Since I took out 5000 yuan, my daughter-in-law and grandson have tasted the sweetness. They think I must be rich, which is why I am so generous. I gave 5000 yuan as soon as I cut my hand.

After I changed my grandson's computer, I bought him a 10,000-yuan mobile phone at his request. Not only that, my grandson always asks me for pocket money. If I don't want to give it, he will slap me, which will especially affect my mood. In order to make myself feel good, I have to give my grandson everything he wants.

My daughter-in-law also asks me for money in various ways, at least 3 thousand yuan at a time. Before boarding with my son, I had180,000 savings. Since boarding at my son's house,180 thousand's savings have been used up by my daughter-in-law and grandson bit by bit.

Since I had no money, my daughter-in-law and grandson never laughed again, and they returned to the state of ignoring me before. Their attitude made me feel very chilling, and I completely gave up the idea that they respected me.

I always wanted to be able to support the elderly at my son's house. I have a pension. As long as they take good care of me, I will give them all my pension and let them support me. After boarding at my son's house, I found it unrealistic to ask them to provide for my old age.

Although my son is willing to be nice to me, he is too afraid of his wife. Everything in the family is decided by his wife. As long as her daughter-in-law doesn't like me, her son is on her side and never dares to uphold justice for me.

In that case, I don't want to continue to subsidize my son. I just want to save money for my old age. Since my son is unreliable, I have to re-plan the pension problem.

I have a monthly pension of 4,000 yuan, which is more than enough to live in a nursing home. So I chose a nursing home at random and planned to experience it first. If possible, I plan to retire to a nursing home and never expect my son again.

After living in a nursing home for three months, I found it was not suitable for me at all. I don't like to eat the cauldron dishes in the nursing home, and I don't like the snoring of my roommates, which keeps me awake all night. I don't like nurses yelling at me. Although my hearing is not good, the way they yell at me scares me.

After leaving the nursing home, I went back to my familiar home, and I hired a nanny to work on the day shift. Give the nanny 3000 yuan a month, cook three meals a day and clean up.

The nanny took my salary of 3 thousand yuan, but she didn't do it well. Not only did she cook carelessly, but she also did not clean thoroughly. Every time she cooks dinner for me, she doesn't want to wait for me to finish, and she wants me to wash the dishes myself.

The salary I gave the nanny was not low, but I didn't get the corresponding service, which made me feel unworthy, so I fired this nanny and changed to another nanny. I have changed several nannies back and forth, and found that they all like to cheat and play tricks, and they are unwilling to do things in a down-to-earth manner.

I fired my last nanny in a rage and vowed never to hire a nanny again in my life. Since I fired my last nanny, I have been forcing myself to learn to do housework. Now I am good at doing housework. I can not only buy food and cook by myself, but also wash my clothes very clean.

I found that the best way for a person to support his old age is to rely on himself. Because self-reliance is the most economical and reliable way to support the elderly. Only by relying on yourself will you not give up on yourself, and you will be willing to take good care of yourself.

Since I don't rely on anyone, but only rely on myself to support the elderly, my mood has become extremely comfortable, because I don't have to look at anyone's face anymore, let alone spend money on services, thus saving a lot of savings.

I swear that as long as I can move, I must live a self-help and well-fed life. When I can't move, I have few years to live. At that time, I will sell my house, take my savings and pension, choose the best nursing home, pack a single room there and live comfortably for the last few years of my life.

Now I am an 80-year-old man. I spent ten years and experienced several ways of providing for the aged. I finally realized that it is better to rely on others than on myself.

In the days to come, I must take good care of my body and myself. Only I will not betray myself, always be good to myself and be loyal to myself.

Conclusion:

Every old man, if he wants to live comfortably and happily in his old age, must earn more money when he is young and save enough money for his old age.

If the elderly have enough savings, they will have the security of providing for the elderly, so they will not live in bloodshed and sacrifice in their later years, and they will be able to spend their later years with a stable mind.

When a person is old, he must guard his money. If he spends everything for his children and has no money when he needs it, he will have no food and clothing in his later years. There is no happiness in old age.

When you get old, you will find that the best way to spend the rest of your life is to rely on yourself. Old people should not always think about relying on this and that. When you have experienced many things, you will find that even the closest person is far less reliable than relying on yourself.