Now there are two ways for you to get out of this predicament. One is to choose to accept the present results (such as changing jobs and giving up pursuing her, and you are now in the stage of choosing to give up), and the other is to pursue what you want.
If you choose the first one, it is also a good choice. There are several ways to help you get out of trouble:
First, we should have a clear understanding of most lovelorn people. In fact, we all know the reason, whether it is our own reason, the lover's reason or the third party's reason. We need to recognize the reasons first and analyze the reasons of lovelorn with objective ideas. This is the first step to alleviate the pain. Of course, you will still suffer after analyzing the reasons, but you have clearly understood this intellectually. Most lovelorn people can do this.
Second: indulgence is not the solution. Many lovelorn friends will anesthetize themselves with alcohol or other things and get drunk. That night, you easily fell asleep, and then in the morning, you fell into pain again. Everyone who is lovelorn has to go through this stage. I have no objection to your indulgence. After indulgence, you will find that the problem cannot be solved and the pain remains the same, so when you indulge, enough is enough.
Third: firmly believe that no one can do anything in this world, each of us is important and each of us is indispensable. In your world, when you were born, you came to this world alone. You are experiencing everything in this world and feeling the meaning of life in gains and losses. Losing is a truth. In your world, you can lose anyone, because this is a necessary stage in life, and you will continue to feel it. What you lose, you will gain. You have to believe that.
Fourth: Never look for a substitute immediately. Many lovelorn people will start a second relationship immediately after lovelorn, which can really calm the injured person's mood in a short time. However, this is extremely unfair to newcomers. In the end, lovelorn people will mistakenly start a second love, which will bring more trouble in the future. The correct way is to let go of the previous feelings and consider a new one after half a year or a year of lovelorn love.
Fifth: Most people who confide in their lovelorn friends are suffering from inner pain. First, they have to divert their attention and do what they are interested in, but they often have no motivation. At this time, I suggest that you can talk to your closest friends and tell your troubles. Sometimes, after the troubles are said, they can really be alleviated. You just need a well-meaning listener.
Sixth: interest cures Everyone has different hobbies. If hobbies can distract you, that's best. Traveling, listening to music, exercising, walking, shopping, etc. Everyone is healthy. Some people like to get wet in the rain and take a car, so they need to pay attention to safety. After all, the loss is only temporary. We must make ourselves better, and we must firmly believe that we can become better.
If you choose the second option,
First of all, you don't need psychological condemnation, because first of all, the sky is high and the emperor is far away, and there must be more people around you than the girl you like and her boyfriend. Second, even if you catch up, it means that you are more suitable for her than that man, so she chose you. This is not your moral problem, but the problem between the woman you like and her boyfriend. If there is no problem between them and she prefers that man, then she won't choose you.
If we pursue 1, everyone will be happy.
If not, you will give up your idea of her because of complete failure. You are in a lovelorn state now. Although not in love, but also equivalent to brokenhearted. The process of lovelorn includes sadness, pain, not accepting the status quo, despair, and finally accepting the result of lovelorn completely (that is, letting go). You are now in the early stage of painful and sad lovelorn. If you fail, then you will give up completely, achieve a real psychological abandonment, and return to a normal life (now you are just the opposite, just don't want to give up, but you have to choose to give up, causing your current pain). Third, poaching has many happy endings. I am a girl, and my current boyfriend poached me in the same year. Now we have been together for three years and are very happy.
And I know you have no confidence in pursuing her, which is the most important reason why you choose to give up her now. You think she is very popular with the opposite sex and only regards you as a friend. Then I will help you analyze what kind of boys will make girls like from the perspective of girls!
First of all, for the way of confession. The man who is recognized as a friend must be because I have no feelings for him in my heart, but it doesn't mean that I won't change my opinion of him after he has done something. First of all, I need to know that he likes me, but it's better to show it implicitly or play hard to get. If it is too direct, the way of saying confession in my ear every day is not romantic, too rigid and stupid, and I don't have a strong affection for him, which will greatly reduce the image of that man in my heart.
Second, this man should be confident and have personality charm. Confidence comes from the man himself. For me, even if he fails, I believe he won't stop because of me. When he is with me, I can feel that he is calm and loving. Personality charm must have a sense of humor, and mature and reliable women can't be too good, which will disgust me. A well-dressed, clean and tidy hairstyle, which is not exaggerated or sloppy, is my favorite style (you should try your best to understand what style that woman likes)
Third, the way to pursue. There are various ways, depending on her living habits and communication habits. I think it is suitable for young women to start with the Internet (you should observe whether she likes chatting on it or not), and text messages are also good, but not too frequent and appropriate, when she has time. It's best to make her take the initiative to like chatting with you, which proves that you are promising.
Fourth, we should know how to play hard to get. Is to make friends with her, and then suddenly give her the cold shoulder to see if she will come to see you. If she takes the initiative to ask you out or chat with you, it means that you are not far from success.
Fifth, you can know how to make love burn more vigorously. Increase the intensity of courtship at an appropriate time, such as sending flowers, or expressing passion and communicating. This must be done after the development of your relations is in place. If you hadn't done it to her, it would have been counterproductive.
Which one to choose depends on you. No matter which one you choose, you must believe that you can get out of this hurdle. There is no obstacle in the world, and the world will not stop turning because of the lack of one person. Even if you get nothing, I believe that time is the best medicine, and I also believe that you can get out of this predicament! Wish you success!