(1) In the past academic year, we discussed the way to be a man and the virtue of being a teacher around the theme of respect, humility and tolerance. We advocate respect, humility and tolerance in our work and life, and the ultimate goal is to guide everyone to a friendly realm and become friendly people. If we persist in treating people, accepting things and seeking things with a kind and friendly attitude, respect, humility and tolerance will naturally come. I put friendliness last, because in my opinion, friendliness should not only be the starting point of all personalities and qualities, but also the destination of all morals and qualities.
(2) A philosopher said, "Kindness is the greatest secret in morality." I once read a story about a teenager who was found lying in bed by a girl while trying to steal. Instead of calling the police, the girl pretended not to know that he was a thief and warmly invited him to chat with herself. They had a good chat. Before the teenager left, the girl played a song for him with her Amati violin, and then gave the piano to the teenager. Later, when the teenager went to find the girl again, he learned that the girl had died of bone cancer. The teenager saw the inscription engraved on her blue tombstone, "I am very happy because I have dedicated my kindness to the world." This incident deeply touched the young man, and he has changed since then. In poverty and suffering, he regained his self-esteem and ignited the blazing fire of getting out of adversity! In the end, the former teenager became a useful person. In the world-class Sydney Grand Theatre, he played a melodious tune with deep affection-dedicated to this girl. The little girl is kind to the teenager in order to maintain his dignity with dignity. Her kindness, tolerance and love shocked the heart of a lost teenager, and made him re-establish his faith and raise the sail of life. A friendly conversation and a beautiful tune changed people's lives.
Kindness is the most precious wealth in our hearts, the most precious tradition in the history of our nation, and the bridge on which we live and communicate with each other.
(3) However, in today's great social and economic changes, some people's outlook on life and values are also quietly changing. After gaining more wealth, some people are not grateful for the conditions created by society for their success, and they never want to extend a friendly hand to help those in need. They spend a lot of money and are extravagant and extravagant. While being rich in material satisfaction, their spiritual world is extremely barren and desolate. They blindly pursue material comforts, but forget to give back to their society with friendly hearts. They are extravagant, fearless and even indifferent to life, creating one event after another that harms society. Others, in pursuit of wealth and interests, have lost the original goodness of human nature because of inflated selfish desires. In order to make huge profits, it demonically endangers the health and even life of society and others. Fake products such as fake medicine and wine, gas explosion in small coal mines, waste oil, Sudan red, dyed steamed bread, melamine and so on. Such things are more and more around us, which makes us deeply feel that if a society lacks friendliness, people's spirit will be eroded by selfish desires, their hearts will be corroded, and people will become rootless trees and empty bodies. The more people like this, the poorer and sadder the society will become, and the more horrible the whole society will become.
(4) The society is like this, so are the families and units around us. In a big family, if there is a lack of friendliness between each other, there will be emotional cracks, which will lead to contradictions in various relationships and the breakdown of good interpersonal relationships. It is believed that disharmony will have a bad influence on work, study and life. In an unhappy family, how can we feel happy? In real work and study, it is inevitable that each of us will have some "disappointments", such as job title evaluation, promotion, salary distribution, evaluation before evaluation, etc., which will inevitably backfire. If you can't have a correct position, viewpoint and attitude, you will have some wrong understandings, and even blame others, make unwarranted guesses, be dissatisfied with school work, and be dissatisfied with other people's words and deeds. Because of the lack of friendliness, we ruthlessly turned the fate of working together into jealousy. Isn't this a sad thing?
(5) Without tolerance and friendship, the most important "goodness" at the beginning of life will be lost. Kindness is a virtue, a cultivation and a standard to measure a person's moral realm. When there is a conflict with others, we should stick to the principle and try to settle it amicably. A way of doing things like "answer blows with blows" and "tip of a needle against a wheat awn"! It will only lead you into the "dead end" of interpersonal relationship, which is really not desirable.
(6) The great musician Beethoven once said, "Without a kind soul, there is no virtue." Kindness is our indispensable moral character and our unique quality that distinguishes us from all things in the world. So, how to cultivate a sincere and friendly heart in a short life? Here, I want to use three sentences mentioned in Health Psychology to elaborate: First, if you are friendly, you will take pleasure in the happiness of others and be willing to help the poor, and you will always feel gratified. There is a famous story. It's about a poor boy who sells goods door to door in order to save enough money for his tuition. After a hard day's work, he felt very hungry, so he touched all over his body, but there was only one dollar. What shall we do? He decided to beg for food from the next family. When a girl opened the door and saw that he was hungry, she brought him a big glass of milk. When the little boy wanted to pay her a dollar to express his gratitude, the girl replied, "No, mother taught us to give love and not to expect anything in return." A few years later, the grown-up girl got a rare serious illness, and the local doctors could do nothing about it. Finally, she was transferred to a big city for treatment and received expert treatment. The little boy in those days is now a famous doctor Howard Kelly, and he also participated in the formulation of the treatment plan. When Dr. Kelly saw the patient's medical history written on the medical record, he recognized the patient at a glance as the person who had helped him. Dr. Kelly asked to send the notice of medical expenses to the girl. The girl was afraid because she was sure that the cost of treatment would cost all her property. When she opened the notice of medical expenses, she was surprised to find that it was impressively written: "Medical expenses = a full glass of milk. Dr Howard Kelly. "
(7) In our life and work, we often meet others with difficulties. At this time, a word of comfort, a little help within our power, and even a dedicated help within our power all show our friendly and sincere side. Teachers in the teaching and research group have to attend open classes, and the teachers in the group help to attend classes, grind classes, offer suggestions and make repeated revisions. In this repetition, they helped others and honed themselves. It is really called "complementary tires, a good show, mutual demolition and early collapse"; In the same class, when others have something to do, they take the initiative to take the place of class; Carrying out competition training, actively supporting the teachers in charge of training, urging and educating their own students to participate and actively supporting are not only the duties of their own jobs, but also the performance of sincere friendship and mutual assistance in collective life.
If you are friendly, you will be kind to others, get along well with each other, and you will always feel happy in your heart. In the history of China, there have been stories about Xuanzang's trip to the West to learn from the scriptures, Jian Zhen's trip to the West, Princess Wencheng's marriage to Tubo, Zhaojun's departure to visit relatives, and Zheng He's seven trips to the West, which are well-known and well-known. It is precisely because our ancestors have such a generous and friendly mind and tolerance that our nation has moved towards a civilized society. Educator Wei Shusheng said, don't focus on interpersonal relationships, do your job well, learn more skills from colleagues, unite and cooperate, and do what you should do well, in order to achieve something in your career. This is how he educates the people around him and does the same. An ordinary person devoted himself to doing some ordinary things and devoted his energy to education, so he succeeded. Most of our teachers can be kind and kind to others. In schools and grade groups, many comrades can always take care of each other and help each other. It is precisely because we get along well with each other and treat our colleagues well that the grade group appears harmonious and natural, and the school can be peaceful and prosperous. Every teacher in it can feel deep happiness, feel happiness, be kind to others and regard his peers as partners. This kind of feeling and atmosphere is the premise and foundation to carry out good school work.
If you are friendly, you will be aboveboard and willing to open your heart to others, and your heart will often feel relaxed. Here is a little-known story. When Armstrong landed on the moon, people all over the world remembered his name, because he said, "I took a small step personally, but mankind took a big step." But there was also a man named Aldrin who landed on the moon together. Although he is a stranger to us, he also makes us admire him. At the press conference to celebrate the success of landing on the moon, a reporter suddenly asked Aldrin a very sharp question: "As a colleague, Armstrong became the first person to land on the moon. Do you feel a little sorry? " The relaxed atmosphere at the scene suddenly solidified. Under the embarrassed eyes of everyone, Aldrin replied humorously: "Ladies and gentlemen, don't forget that I was the first to get out of the space capsule when I returned to Earth!" He looked around and said with a smile, "So I was the first person to come to earth from another planet." Everyone gave him the warmest applause in laughter? Aldrin did not take it out on the reporter's embarrassment in public, but answered the reporter's words humorously and tactfully, from which we can deeply understand the significance of being kind to others. Smart people know how to be kind to others and don't cling to their mistakes. He will tell a fruitless story in his own way.