What is the sense of security? It's actually quite simple. To put it bluntly, it is a kind of peace of mind and practicality.

You see, some people will be swayed by considerations of gain and loss in their feelings. Although it is a manifestation of insecurity, it also proves one thing, the concern and attention behind it. Feelings are nothing but self-control, and are not suppressed by anyone.

However, what is certain is that the lack of security is not without reason!

In a relationship, no matter who feels insecure, it is difficult to get along with each other, which will bring great burden and psychological pressure to each other.

Then when we get along together, we will feel very tired and tired. Security is often the basis of trust.

Many times we have to reflect on why the other person feels insecure. I'm afraid it's not because the other person is too paranoid, but because we haven't really been a qualified lover ourselves.

Usually we underestimate each other's attention and care for this relationship, or the other party has never been affirmed in us!

Sister Hui quarreled with her husband again. After all, she is a newlywed. By rights, she should be in a sweet and romantic stage at the moment. How can there be disputes from time to time?

My husband accused Hui Jie of being unreasonable, which is simply unreasonable and crazy!

After calming down, Sister Hui muttered to herself in the mirror. How did you become who you are today? ? Husband said that Hui Jie was unreasonable, but Hui Jie didn't deny it, but she didn't want it, and she didn't want it. She can't control herself at all.

The last time we quarreled, it was at most half a month ago. The reason for the quarrel was that Huijie secretly looked at her husband's mobile phone and deleted all the WeChat friends she usually contacted without telling her husband!

This time, after dinner, Hui Jie dragged her tired body to wash dishes and chopsticks in the kitchen, but her husband sat on the sofa with his mobile phone, not knowing who she was chatting with.

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Sister Hui blew up at that time, unable to control her emotions and temper. When she comes up, she will grab her husband's mobile phone to see who he is chatting with.

My husband has always been like this, never knowing how to keep his distance from the opposite sex, which is also the main reason why Huijie lacked security in that marriage.

Sister Hui's husband belongs to that kind of warm-hearted person, so he has a good popularity and is recognized as a good guy by the unit. If someone asks for him, he will definitely take help as his own business, do his best and ask for nothing in return.

In fact, Hui Jie also took a fancy to her husband at the beginning!

Just what? My husband has no education and doesn't know how to grasp the discretion. I usually take my female colleagues to and from work. Sometimes it doesn't matter if I run around to help.

Human nature is understandable. Any woman will be angry and jealous when she sees her husband getting so close to another woman.

However, these Hui sisters are still acceptable. After all, they still believe in their husbands' character. I can't take it anymore. Even at home, my husband never considers his feelings. He often chats with other women on his mobile phone, including colleagues, classmates and relatives.

And in the circle of friends, interaction with other women is more frequent.

Sometimes I am too busy chatting to ask about my family. However, my husband has no bad ideas. All the chat content is very normal, and I am not afraid of Sister Hui's inspection. In my husband's words, I'm just maintaining a relationship. It's that simple!

Sister Hui before marriage is not who she is now. At that time, she was sunny and lively, but she became more and more sensitive and extreme after marriage.

How many times have I forced myself to understand and accept my husband's behavior, only to find that I have no big belly at all!

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If this matter is put aside, the relationship between Hui Jie and her husband is still very stable. They have the same views and values, so others say they are a match made in heaven!

But who knows, Hui Jie is increasingly insecure, often suffering from loss and thinking, leading to a heavy and depressed life, and the relationship between husband and wife is not as good as before!

So you see, those insecure women, are they really all their own reasons? Put yourself in others' shoes. If something happens to you, can you really accept it?

In a relationship, in fact, women's sense of security comes from one thing, men have a sense of boundaries!

If a man has no sense of boundaries, he is hurting his lover. No matter how good the relationship between friends and colleagues is, he should keep a certain distance, which is often the minimum consideration and concern for his lover.

The so-called sense of security in feelings is very simple, that is, keeping a distance from others and keeping deep affection with your lover.

Any relationship, especially between the opposite sex, once it goes beyond the boundaries, it is easy to have ambiguity. When that inexplicable feeling arises, the feelings will be out of control. It turns out that there are two things that people can't control in this world, that is, thoughts and feelings.

Most people's extramarital affairs are usually produced in this way. They are all innocent at first, and then they are dragged together by feelings in a confused and inexplicable way.

Warm men bring full warmth to women, but a? Central air conditioning? It only brings full harm to women.

So how do you keep boundaries and learn to put yourself in each other's shoes? Before you do something, think about how you will feel if the other person does it.

A man's best love for a woman is that he can always take care of her feelings. I always say that I love you the most, but I never care about women's feelings. I always ignore them. Is that really love?

Women's sense of security never comes from sweet words, but from countless small things and details. The sense of reality is a kind of sureness and stability.

Of course, the same is true for women, who are gender-neutral in this matter. If you choose a relationship, you should try your best to protect it. In the future, we should know how to keep a safe distance from the people around us, which is also a kind of responsibility and mutual encouragement for our feelings!