First, the denial period. Don't believe or don't want to admit the fact of their divorce in front of others, afraid of shame, afraid of being talked about by others, afraid of being looked down upon by others.
Second, the closure period. Divorced women are self-enclosed because of emotional frustration and depression. I don't want to meet anyone and participate in any form of social activities. Seeing other partners in love will increase my psychological burden.
Third, the depression period. Due to the failure of marriage and the breakdown of family, divorced women often feel pessimistic and disappointed, ashamed, very depressed and helpless.
The reason why women get fat
1, love to eat and drink
As far as health tips are concerned, as long as you don't have diabetes or hyperthyroidism, your appetite suddenly increases greatly, and you especially like drinking water and drinks, which are mostly precursors to getting fat.
Step 2 become lazy
3. Tired
Compared with usual, I always feel very tired recently. After a few more activities, I'll be panting and sweating. As long as I'm not sick, I may get fat and come to you quietly.
Step 4 doze off
The reason why women get fat is that sleep plays a big role. Sleeping is especially sweet. If you sleep enough, you still want to sleep, or you often yawn. Eliminating fatigue is a sign of obesity.
5. Fear of moving.
If you are a person who loves sports, you gradually don't want to move any more, and even feel that participating in sports is a burden, or it may be a signal of getting fat.
In addition, the researchers found that people with early menarche should pay more attention to getting fat in the future. American medical research investigated 17000 women, and the results showed that women with earlier menarche weighed 5-6 kilograms on average than women with later menarche.
How to adjust mentality
It is of great significance for divorced women to adjust their mentality and queue up for psychological obstacles in time to re-raise the sails of life in the future. Adjust the mentality from the following points:
First of all, be open-minded and don't walk into a dead end. Divorce, for whatever reason, is good for both husband and wife as long as the relationship between the two sides has really broken down and the marriage has really existed in name only. Don't care too much about what others say about yourself. You should tell your pain, worry and disappointment to your close friend or psychologist. Persuasion from others can help you get rid of the shadow. At the same time, the party, government and army can vent their dissatisfaction and release their depressed emotions by writing diaries and letters.
Secondly, we should actively participate in recreational activities that are beneficial to physical and mental health. Through these activities, you can not only improve your brain's ability to cope with setbacks, but also exercise your will, cultivate your sentiment, forget all setbacks and troubles, and cultivate your interest in life.
Third, learn to give up and forget, and don't keep it in your heart. Be tolerant and generous to your ex-husband, don't always be hostile, and try to forget the painful past.
Fourth, we should be self-respecting, self-reliant, self-loving and self-reliant, and once again raise the sail of life. The sun is new every day. We should create a new life with our own hands. Of course, after a failed marriage, don't fall in love again hastily, because it is not easy to get a happy married life. It needs too many things. At this time, not only physiology, psychology, intelligence, physical strength, temper, personality, interests, hobbies, cultural level, living habits, family background should have enough patience, love and new understanding and tolerance to care for.
How to get rid of "heart disease" after divorce?
Marriage failure is a normal phenomenon, so we must treat divorce correctly and pay attention to the psychological adjustment of divorcees.
First, "pour out the bitter water." When you feel distressed and sad, you can tell your relatives and friends that your bosom friends are your best psychologists, and their persuasion, comfort and encouragement are your best medicine for treating heart disease. You can also keep a diary to flow the bitter water in your heart from the pen to the paper.
Second, read some good books. Through reading, on the one hand, we can learn spiritual strength, on the other hand, we can get something from it that we can't learn in social practice. But don't read unhealthy books or books full of pessimism about society and life.
Third, take part in more social activities. Many divorcees have a sense of inferiority and think that divorce is a disgraceful thing, so they often take an evasive attitude. This is not desirable, because when you are calm, you always like to think about your heart. Therefore, we should arrange our spare time more compactly, so that we can excrete our sadness bit by bit and gradually restore our good mood.
Fourth, devote yourself to the cause. Divorced people should try to start their own businesses. Once they have their own careers, they will naturally not focus on unpleasant things. When their career makes progress, all the pain will disappear.