So how did Zeng Guofan get rid of lewdness? Let me analyze it carefully for you.
I. Self-reflection
Before becoming a scholar, Zeng Guofan had been in a daze. Besides reading, he has many bad habits, such as impetuousness, arrogance, hypocrisy and lewdness.
Later, in the twenty years of Daoguang, Zeng Guofan successfully went to Beijing to be an official. He began to re-plan his life and set the great ultimate goal of becoming a saint.
Zeng Guofan's father Zeng Linshu went to Beijing to live, and he gave Zeng Guofan advice. His father left in a hurry a few days after he went to Beijing. Zeng Guofan is a little puzzled. After his father returned to Hunan, he wrote a letter to Zeng Guofan, urging him to make contributions and not be lewd. At this time, Zeng Guofan suddenly realized.
With his father's instruction, Zeng Guofan immediately set out to change his bad habits, among which lewdness is very difficult to change. After all, Zeng Guofan was only 28 years old.
Zeng Guofan's lewdness is very interesting. His lewdness likes to see beautiful women. However, in the Qing Dynasty, it was not as open as it is now. At that time, women seldom went out shopping and hid at home. As there were no beautiful women in the street, he went to a friend's house to see them.
If he hears that someone has married a beautiful wife, he must try his best to take a closer look, and he is often in a daze at first sight, and his heart is in a daze. These things are recorded in his diary.
That year1February 1 1 day, my friend Najib wanted strong opinions, but it was disrespectful.
It's an animal that smells jealous. ? Zeng Guofan
In addition to seeing my friend's wife, I am also very lewd about my wife Zeng Guofan. Even though my wife is ill in bed, I still have many thoughts, such as what is recorded in his diary? In a bad mood at night, groaning tired? This is when Mrs Ouyang is ill and bedridden. Zeng Guofan suddenly had a desire, but he could not solve it. He was very depressed and upset.
There are many such details, which are recorded in Zeng Guofan's diary. It was through his own reflection and his father's persuasion that Zeng Guofan became more aware of the seriousness of this problem and was determined to get rid of bad habits.
At first, he kept a diary to supervise and reflect on himself, so as to get rid of his bad habits. If he can't supervise himself, show his diary to his relatives and friends and ask everyone to supervise him together. Later, Zeng Guofan even showed his diary to his younger generations, asked them to annotate it and asked them where they did and didn't do it.
In this way, let the younger generation supervise themselves, they will be more complacent and set an example for future generations, killing two birds with one stone.
In Zeng Guofan's diary, we often see some other people's comments, that is, Zeng Guofan has always insisted on letting people supervise himself. Supervision and introspection made Zeng Guofan take the first step in abstinence, but it did not completely change.
Second, divert attention.
After self-reflection, Zeng Guofan still felt that the effect was not obvious. For example, in the twenty-second year of Daoguang, one morning he got up and wanted to read a book, but he couldn't stand it. He's always thinking about things he shouldn't. No way, he finally did something indescribable with his wife, Mrs. Ouyang.
Afterwards, Zeng Guofan cursed himself as an animal in his diary, which made Zeng Guofan more aware of the importance of getting rid of bad habits. After careful consideration, he found that the main reason for his lust was energy.
So Zeng Guofan began to practice regular script, write articles and read books every day, and then went out for running to exercise, so that he was tired and distracted, and his energy was transferred to other places, and his attention to lewd things would be reduced. Over time, he will become more and more forgetful and change himself.
The distracting effect is really useful. Later, Zeng Guofan gradually got rid of the bad habit of lewdness, and he also kept a diary to supervise himself to get rid of many bad habits such as arrogance and hypocrisy.
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Everyone has some bad habits. The key is whether we are willing to change ourselves. It may be far and difficult to change our path, but as long as we persist, you will surely see unexpected results!