Tolerance has always played an important role in our traditional ethics and is an important principle in dealing with people.
The story of Li Shimin's tolerance and reuse of Wei Zhi by Emperor Taizong was passed down as a much-told story. In the battle for the throne with, he made many suggestions and got into trouble. After the change of Xuanwu Gate, Wei Zhi became a prisoner of Li Shimin. At this time, Li Shimin can completely cure his sin and kill his head. However, Li Shimin indulged him and made him prime minister, which resulted in the famous "Zhenguan rule" in history. Looking back at the picture of history, Qi Huangong tolerated and reused Guan Zhong who almost shot himself, thus achieving hegemony; Lin Xiangru repeatedly endured and humiliated his Lian Po, leaving a beautiful talk of "making peace" ...
The ancients could still do this. In the increasingly competitive modern society, we need to adjust our mentality, adjust our relationship with others and learn to be tolerant.
"Beijing Daily" once published such a thing: a young man spit on the bus, and the female conductor asked him to wipe it off. Sorry, young man, I didn't wipe it. The female conductor gave him a step and wiped off the sputum with paper. Afterwards, the young man regretted it. He wrote a letter to the newspaper to apologize to the conductor. This incident enlightens us: "Take a step back and let the three points be calm." Rationality also makes people realize that the influence of tolerance is often much more lasting than the effect of tension. If she doesn't do this, but forcibly let the young man erase it, the result is not difficult to imagine.
However, in real life, it is difficult to be truly tolerant! Many times, he will haggle over every ounce for a little thing. Things have passed, and he is still there thinking, how can I forgive such a hateful thing? Then in the constant self-chewing, I am constantly hurt by it and can't extricate myself! Sometimes even swear "revenge"! Well, come to think of it, why? How sad it is to let yourself live in all kinds of pain and hatred in the past all day!
So, how can we learn to be tolerant?
First of all, tolerance requires communication. When you have conflicts or misunderstandings with others, you should take the initiative to talk to each other and listen carefully to their complaints. Only in this way can we communicate with each other's thoughts, thus eliminating misunderstandings and estrangements.
Secondly, tolerance requires putting yourself in others' shoes. Take the initiative to put yourself in others' shoes and think from the other's point of view, and you will be more tolerant of others.
Again, tolerance needs to be forgotten. Restraint and tolerance is not true tolerance. It can't remove pus from emotional wounds and heal them. Only the kind of tolerance that does not remember or investigate is the real great realm.
What do you mean, "the Analects of Confucius governs the world"? Yu Dan, a professor at Beijing Normal University, believes that what The Analects tells you is always the simplest. Sometimes a sentence or two is enough for us to use for a lifetime. "It's forgiveness!" One word "forgiveness" teaches us how to get spiritual happiness in modern life, adapt to daily order and find the coordinates of life; Just one word "forgiveness" is our own healthy electrocardiogram and a beautiful passport to the world.
Let's learn to tolerate others! Let go when it's time to let go. People can tolerate each other, and our life will be better.