First, the benefits of remarriage of the elderly

1, which helps to reduce the mental burden of children.

Most children of single elderly people have established small families. They are busy with their work, taking care of their children and family life, and worry that they can't take care of the elderly. If the requirements and wishes of the elderly to remarry are met, the mental burden of caring for the elderly can be alleviated for some children.

2. It is conducive to raising the next generation.

Family is the cradle of children's growth. At present, most families in our country are dual employees, and couples leave early and return late, which leads to many problems in raising children, which is not conducive to the growth of the next generation. If the old man remarries, not only can the old couple take care of each other and be happy and healthy, but they can also share the task of raising the younger generation.

3, is conducive to reducing the burden of the state on the elderly.

At present, our country can't cover all the living problems of the elderly, especially the lonely elderly. If there are conditions for the lonely elderly to combine courtship, this will enable some lonely elderly people to have a new home and reduce the burden on nursing homes and civil affairs departments.

4. It is beneficial to comfort the spirit of the elderly and develop their mental health.

Therefore, remarriage is the choice of elderly friends and their own rights. As a family member, you can give advice, but you can't make decisions for them. In this open era, we should not only open our own generation, but also give more understanding to the elderly, abandon secular views and open the elderly. Love and marriage in old age are "specific drugs" to improve the meaning of existence. Whether you are remarried or single, you should be recognized by your family and society.

5. It is conducive to reducing the abuse and abandonment of the elderly.

The remarriage of the elderly has reorganized the family, and the new family has accepted the elderly, which is conducive to reducing and preventing the abandonment and abuse of the elderly.

In addition to the above, the following small series continues to introduce the advantages and disadvantages of remarriage of the elderly.

Second, the disadvantages of remarriage of the elderly

1. Older people are prone to property disputes when they remarry.

Old people are under great pressure after remarriage, and there are many problems such as support and property division. After the reorganization, the marriage must face the running-in problems of house, property, children, living habits, cultural literacy and so on. The thinking of men and women is very different: the man is afraid of property loss and responsibility; The woman wants to be relaxed and chic, not to be a nanny, but also to consider how to take care of the original children; Their children will also consider how to inherit property and how to support the elderly.

2, prone to family disputes.

Some elderly people with poor family conditions remarried under the circumstances of poor living conditions and had to live under the same roof with their children. As the saying goes, the fragrance is far away and the taste is near. Beauty comes from distance, which is not without certain scientific reason. Living together will inevitably lead to friction because of some family chores, and the emotions of some children will easily affect the psychology of remarried elderly people, which will lead to great psychological pressure on the elderly and is not conducive to family harmony.

3. It is easily influenced by the relationship between children.

There are few conditions and possibilities for middle-aged and elderly people to remarry and have children. After remarriage, in addition to handling the emotional relationship between the two sides, how to handle the relationship with each other's children is also extremely important. The remarriage relationship of the elderly is not very stable, because if the elderly have problems in treating their children, it will also have a great impact on the relationship between the elderly. Once the old man has estrangement, contradiction and dispute with one of his children, the remarriage relationship of the old man may also be shattered.

4. Compared with the previous object, it is easy to destroy feelings.

With the deepening of middle-aged and elderly people's marriage and love, it is easy for middle-aged and elderly singles to compare their current marriage and love objects with the original ones. As the saying goes, people are more angry than people. Therefore, after the old man remarries, comparing the present object with the previous object will easily lead to some psychological problems that are not conducive to the old man's marriage, which will eventually lead to the disintegration of the old man's remarriage relationship.

Knowing the advantages and disadvantages of the elderly remarriage, Bian Xiao introduces how the elderly cope with remarriage.

How do the elderly cope with remarriage?

1, learn to understand and tolerate.

Older people remarry, mostly after the death or divorce of their original spouse. Especially after widowed and remarried, although they formed a new family, they have lived with their original spouses for most of their lives, and they have deep feelings for each other, and the feelings of missing can never be erased. Both sides should understand this. You can't think and praise your ex-spouse for being unfaithful to your marriage, let alone use your ex-spouse's "advantages" to stimulate another spouse's "disadvantages". Otherwise, the relationship will become more and more rigid, so that it will "break up in discord" or "go their separate ways".

2. We should correctly handle the kinship after remarriage.

As the saying goes, "heart is better than heart" and "it is better to combine the two". If the other party regards the other party's old people and children as their own, then many complicated family disputes and contradictions will be avoided. This should be understood by both sides, and the same is true for dealing with housework.

3. Deal with family economic problems.

Generally speaking, the larger property before marriage should be owned by each other, which is easier to handle. The key is the economic problem after marriage. No matter whose income is high or low, the one with high income can't "take credit", let alone "I have the final say!" . Of course, low-income people cannot demand absolute egalitarianism, let alone seek to occupy a "dominant position". In short, we should adhere to the principle of "financial openness", and deal with family economic problems in a friendly way with financial management and housekeeper.

Understand the advantages and disadvantages of remarriage of the elderly. In order to find someone to accompany them in their old age, the elderly should put their minds right and correctly handle their remarriage life in order to achieve common happiness.