1 Relevance means that these solutions must be related to challenging behavior.
2. Respect means that children have to bear the consequences without punishment, and they will not feel shame or pain. These solutions or consequences should be implemented in a friendly and firm way, and everyone involved should be respected.
3. Reasonable means that these solutions or consequences are not mixed with other factors, such as blame, humiliation, making children feel pain and so on.
4. Helpful means these solutions or requirements.
Correct parenting style
Parents need to really love their children from the heart, not force them to change their behavior. If parents only focus on correcting their children's behavior in the short term, such education will have a serious impact on their children in the long run, and their self-confidence and self-esteem will not be strengthened, but will be weakened.
Children may have an advantage of 85% and a disadvantage of 15%. But parents spend most of their time and energy on the shortcomings of 15%. In this way, the disadvantages of 15% will be more and more, and the advantages will gradually disappear.
On the other hand, if you focus most of your energy on encouraging advantages, the negative aspects will gradually disappear and the positive aspects will gradually increase to 100%.