However, most of us ordinary people are not saints. Under the guidance of my own selfishness, how can I really treat other people's children as my own?
Of course, there are exceptions. Kang Keqing is a special case. Kang Keqing has no biological children, but he regards the children of Mr. Zhu and his ex-wife as more intimate than their own. This makes us ask, how is such a stepmother tempered?
Kang Keqing is the wife of General Zhu De, one of the top ten marshals in China. In the year when she met Zhu De, Zhu De was already an outstanding general of our army, and his reputation spread far and wide. At this time, Kang Keqing, who had heard the legend of Zhu Mao, didn't know that Zhu Mao was referring to Zhu De and Chairman Mao.
There is no romantic moment when Kang Keqing and Zhu De meet. When Kang Keqing's team passed near Suichuan, Kang Keqing suddenly heard the comrades say happily, "Zhu is coming! Commander Zhu is here! "
Teenagers always worship heroes, both men and women. How can Kang Keqing's team not be excited when they see the legendary Zhu Jun growing up before their eyes?
Maybe it's as exciting and exciting as our little fans seeing the idol male god. However, today's small fans lick the face of the male god, and the soldiers at that time admired this heroism.
At this time, the soldiers are all around Zhu, and Kang Keqing can only "struggle" to see Zhu. When Kang Keqing stood up a little bit in the crowd, she followed the direction pointed by others and finally met the legendary Zhu, a wise man.
So, what is Zhu's image in Kang Keqing's eyes at this time?
In Kang Keqing's eyes, Zhu Jun at that time was strong and ordinary, and was a typical warrior image. But why did Kang Keqing describe Zhu De as a "loyal elder" and a "power-leaning benefactor"?
After all, it is difficult for us to describe our first "future husband" with these two words. It turns out that Kang Keqing and Zhu were not the same generation at that time, and Zhu De was twenty-five years older than Kang Keqing.
Of course, the gap between Kang Keqing and Zhu De is not just age. At this time, Zhu De had been married four times. He is not alone, but married.
In addition, Kang Keqing and Zhu De are facing the gap in status and the "attack" of others' gossip.
Faced with these gaps, Kang Keqing responded as follows: "My view on marriage and love is that of the proletariat. As long as the revolution is firm, the moral character is noble, the contribution to the party is great, and I really share the same interests, regardless of age, I will not be attracted by power. "
Then, in March of 1929, Kang Keqing and 18-year-old General Zhu De formally got married, and young Kang Keqing suddenly became the stepmother of two children.
In the 47 years that Kang Keqing and Zhu De spent together, Kang Keqing had no children of her own, but she was still a great mother, because in her heart, Mr. Zhu's children with his ex-wife were closer than her own.
Zhu De has two children, the eldest son Zhu Qi was born with his first wife Xiao Fangju, and the second daughter Zhu Min was born with his third wife He Zhihua.
As Zhu De's fifth wife, although Kang Keqing did not give her life to these two children, she gave her love to them without reservation, not to say that her mother was better than herself.
They say it's hard to be a stepmother. In the combination of Kang Keqing and Zhu De, it is more difficult to be a stepmother. Kang Keqing was born in 19 1 1, and Zhu De's son Zhu Qi was born in 19 16. Mother and son are only five years apart.
Although Kang Keqing and Zhu Qi are the same age, Kang Keqing is still very sad about Zhu Qi. 1944, Kang Keqing heard that her 30-year-old stepson was seeing someone. In the spirit of heaven, in order to help her stepson, she even took the initiative to entrust others to promote this marriage.
Finally, on 1946, Zhu Qi and Zhao Liping entered the marriage hall hand in hand. In order to make Zhu Qi's wedding more decent, Kang Keqing invited Marshal He Long as a witness.
Four years later, Zhu Qi's wife, Zhao Liping, became pregnant and went back to Beijing on vacation to raise her children. At this point, as a mother-in-law, Kang Keqing was delighted to be busy with her daughter-in-law.
At the same time, Kang Keqing really put Zhu Min, a stepdaughter who is not related by blood, on the apex. During the Great Patriotic War of the Soviet Union, Zhu De's letter mailed from Yan 'an to Moscow International Children's Hospital was returned, and Kang Keqing knew that her daughter had lost contact!
At this point, Kang Keqing eagerly urged Zhu De to contact Moscow through Yan 'an officials, but was rejected by Zhu De on the grounds that he could not disturb the Soviet government in the war for his own private affairs.
Kang Keqing is not an ignorant woman who doesn't understand state affairs, but she is just a mother who misses and cares about her daughter. In the face of her husband's refusal, Kang Keqing had to treasure the new ones that had not been sent and pray for her daughter's safe return.
1950, Zhu Min finally returned to the mother's arms of China and Kang Keqing. May Kang Keqing be in heaven.
Two years later, Kang Keqing received the task assigned by Marshal Zhu De, that is, Marshal Zhu De asked Kang Keqing to test Zheng Liu's "People" translated by her boyfriend China in the Soviet Union when she went to Vienna to attend the international conference on defending children, so as to check her daughter Zhu Min's marital status.
Therefore, Kang Keqing privately discussed with the leaders of the embassy to let his daughter Zhu Min's lover Liu Zheng come to her residence to communicate. After talking with Zheng Liu, Kang Keqing was satisfied and agreed to the marriage.
Kang Keqing can decide to approve the marriage of her stepdaughter Zhu Min, which shows that Zhu De and her daughter Zhu Min recognize and respect Kang Keqing.
Kang Keqing regards the children of Zhu De and his ex-wife as her own children, and she has never shirked her laziness in raising the descendants of Zhujiajian. She is not only a good mother, but also a kind and kind grandmother in the hearts of children.
195 1 year 1 month, the grandson of Zhu's parents was born, and Kang Keqing especially liked this little grandson. 1952, Zhu Qi's second son was born, and was taken to Zhongnanhai by Grandpa Kang and Grandma Zhu before and after the Taiping in August.
It is worth mentioning that General Zhu De is a man who values affection and righteousness. He was taken care of by his brothers and sisters at the beginning of the revolutionary road.
So Zhu De, who had settled in Beijing at this time, decided to send the children of his relatives to Beijing to study. With the arrival of children from their hometown in Sichuan, Zhujiajian has become more and more lively. Besides grandchildren, Zhu De's daughter Zhu Min and Zheng Liu's children also joined this big family after their birth.
Zhujiajian has ushered in fifteen or sixteen children, and Kang Keqing has become the grandmother of these ten children. Due to the busy work of Marshal Zhu De, Grandma Kang became the main person in charge of these "hooligans".
In fact, these "hooligans" are not related to Grandma Kang. On the contrary, their arrival not only made Grandma Kang hard, but also lowered her overall living standard.
Even if the salaries of Marshal Kang Keqing and Marshal Zhu De are not low, they are still proper "moonlight clan". Rao, in the difficult period of three years, this big family with many children is still very difficult.
So, under the leadership of Marshal Zhu De, the children and staff opened up a vegetable field in the vacant land of Zhujiajian Island's residence in Zhongnanhai.
Facing the difficult life, Kang Keqing not only has no complaints at all, but also gives all his spare time after work to vegetable fields and children. She helped the vegetable field to get rid of insects and took the children to pick wild vegetables in the nest to cook.
You can't wear nothing when you have food. At that time, cloth tickets were very precious, and a dozen "naughty" clothes became a "big problem" in Grandma Kang's mind. In order to solve this problem, Grandma Kang put a lot of thought into it.
After many exercises, Grandma Kang dressed the "troublemakers" in strong clothes made of corduroy and work cloth.
Although Grandma Kang is very willing to give up her children, she is not generous to herself. She can try her best to find strong fabrics for her children, but she never wants to change shirts that can't be washed out. My own grandmother probably did the same.
Kang Keqing and Zhu De have been married for decades and have never had their own children. But in her heart, Zhu and his ex-wife's children are more dear than her own.
Therefore, she took pains to participate in the life events of her children and was duty-bound to help Zhu Jiajian raise her grandchildren. What is the boundary between stepmother and mother? Perhaps, in the eyes of Mr. Zhu's children, the stepmother has been on an equal footing with her mother!
Wen/Shi Fu