This book describes the behavioral and psychological characteristics of children of different ages in adolescence. From 1 1 to 17 years old, children gradually become full of problems like philosophers from mechanical thinking, and gradually yearn for companions and freedom. The author uses stories to help parents decipher the motivation of children's behavior and provide feasible coping strategies.
The book also lists four types of parents: comfort type, control type, identity type and achievement type, which can make parents sit in the right position and know themselves more clearly, so as to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses and help children better.
Facing teenagers, parents should have three key thinking modes. First of all, the survey shows that teenagers are worried about the lack of precious time with their parents. They need you more than they look. Parents never know how important they are. This study is beyond parents' expectations, so we should arrange more exclusive time with our children. Your teenagers deserve to spend more time together.
Second, the child has changed, so have you. When children grow up to adolescence, great changes will take place in physiology, cognition, emotion and social interaction. Therefore, their needs for their parents are different. This requires every parent to make immediate changes, become a more capable coach parent, and need to provide them with guidance and encouragement.
Third, in order to help teenagers better, we also need help. It is important for parents to be modest. Facing up to your own shortcomings and showing weakness is the best way to gain the trust of teenagers.
Among them, what impressed me the most was this sentence: Every child has only one caring adult from success. Indeed, if you can talk to your child deeply, you will find that your child needs to be close to you more than you think. Therefore, adolescent children need the patient companionship of their parents.
As the author reminds us, our aim is to cultivate children into respected adults. In the final analysis, it depends on parents' efforts to give them room, time and all kinds of support for growth.
Why are you willing to pay so much? Because that's what you do when you love someone.