How should rebellious children be guided? In daily life, I believe many parents feel that their children's adolescent personality is very different and they have become rebellious. Some parents don't know how to guide them. Let's share how to guide rebellious children. Let's have a look.

How should rebellious children guide 1 1 and learn more about children?

While parents are busy making a living, they must take time to learn more about their children, communicate with their children and their teachers, and try their best to fully grasp their children's performance in school and family.

The more you know, the less you misunderstand. In this way, once the child is really disobedient, he will know more about how to guide the child.

2. Absorb educational knowledge

The society is changing, the environment for children to grow up is also changing, and the way of education will naturally continue to improve. As parents, we should be duty-bound to actively absorb new educational knowledge.

In the traditional way of parenting education, most parents use authority to educate their children, and beating and scolding punishment is an important method of authoritative education.

3. Listen to your children patiently

If parents are impatient and aggressive, the most direct response to disobedient children is usually swearing. When parents' minds have been focused on understanding their children's thoughts and trying to help them solve problems, they may find that their children's behaviors are actually excusable and release a lot of negative emotions.

Some parents always like to be dignified in front of their children and are used to treating their children with the above attitude. In this regard, I especially suggest that parents really put down their posture and respect their children from the heart, stop talking to their children in a commanding tone and respect their children as adults. Don't always say "no" to children, but give them multiple-choice questions and let them make their own decisions.

Step 4 reason with your child

In addition to the usual warnings, parents should also teach their children some truth in actual situations. Let the child have empathy, let him stand in the perspective of others and truly understand how his actions will affect others.

As for the way of reasoning, we can choose the depth of explanation according to the age of children, especially children can tell stories.

5. Let the children experience it.

If children always don't listen to adults, parents can also let their children "eat their own fruit" on the premise of ensuring safety and not having adverse consequences. Through their own practical experience, children will be able to deeply understand how correct and important their parents' teaching is.

Step 6 negotiate with your children

Don't always ask children to live according to the wishes of adults, so not only children are suffering, but even adults are suffering. Children are human beings, and of course they have their own things to do. Therefore, it may be a good idea to negotiate with your child and take a step back. After the parents handle things, they will take their children to the park to dance.

7. Don't discipline children when they are angry.

In a state of extreme anger, parents certainly can't discipline their children in a rational way. Therefore, when parents can't calm down anyway, they are advised to leave the scene temporarily or divert their attention to other things, such as chatting with friends and listening to music. When you calm down, talk to your children.

8. Revise expectations for children.

Sometimes parents are really too eager to achieve success, and often take the standards that they can't do (maybe parents think they can do it, but they have never done it! Ask the children. You know, it is normal for children to be young, active, stubborn and forgetful.

9. Treat children sincerely

Some parents always like to use a tone of accusation or command when communicating with their children, which often makes it difficult for children to accept. The communication between parents and children should be sincere and there is no distance. Parents can honestly explain their worries or emotions to their children and let them know that his behavior will make you sad, or make you worry and fear.

How should rebellious children guide and educate rebellious children?

Communication between parents and children.

This is the most fundamental. There may be a generation gap between many parents and children, and they can't figure out what their children are thinking. But as a parent, have you really communicated with your children? Don't oppress children by saying you are an old man or something. This is the last thing children like. You should communicate with children like friends. Respect the parents of children, don't always stare at their weaknesses, and don't compare their shortcomings with the strengths of other children. When in contact with children, parents should try their best to find the advantages of children and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents.

2. Learn to really care about your children.

If you really care about your child, you should be able to empathize with the child, always pay attention to the child's feelings, remember the child's birthday, remember the day when the school held the parent-teacher meeting, give the child a corresponding drum if you do well in the exam, encourage the child if you don't do well in the exam, and never blame the child too much. If you do something wrong, you should correct it and guide your child correctly.

Don't always oppose what children want to do.

Some parents always treat their children as children. Don't do it, don't do it. For example, they want to watch TV after finishing their homework. As parents, they should not object. This is also the relaxation space that children need. If you tell him not to read, he will read in his room or something. Reluctantly, he went back to his room, but would he watch it carefully? It's no use at all. Just let him relax. After relaxing, he will naturally go back to study hard.

4. The influence of family and the inspiration of parents.

Parents should set an example. The role of parents directly affects children's mental health. Parents must reflect on their personal lifestyle and attitude towards life, pay attention to correcting their bad personality and provide healthy things for their children at any time. Establish a harmonious and happy family atmosphere.

5, let go of the rights of children, but definitely not laissez-faire.

For example, where to play and where to eat, you may wish to discuss with your child, consider your child's feelings, and ask your child for advice. In a family with a democratic atmosphere, children can generally approach their parents on their own initiative. However, children can't follow some excessive demands, otherwise he will indulge himself in arrogance in the future and it will be more difficult to educate.

6. Avoid the misunderstanding of "beating" and "scolding".

Some parents beat and scold their children as long as they are disobedient and do something wrong, and always stop them by violence. In the long run, children's young minds will have shadows, and they will always be afraid of doing something wrong, but they will not be able to do it, thus producing a timid character.

7. Don't always put pressure on children, give them some space.

Don't always tell him that he must be admitted to a university, and he must get more or less scores in all subjects. Give his children more space and make more friends.