It is good that everyone can get happiness from suffering and complete their mission.
Teacher An An is deeply distressed and sincerely hopes that by imparting some knowledge and methods, he can help himself and become healthy and happy. Even if life is difficult, you can still be free.
Leaves sprout and grow, and one day they will take root. In the final analysis, fallen leaves do not disappear from life, but turn into nutrients and continue to nourish the original life-sprout and grow up, and then the fallen leaves return to the roots and become nutrients, and life is endless.
In fact, people are the same. We were born, grew up and gradually left home. In this process, we should learn to be independent, but at the same time we should also learn to return. When your mind has a home, your life will be stable and safe. Many people will say that I don't want to go home because there is no warmth at home. Teacher An An refers to home, which is not only the home with parents and brothers and sisters literally, but also the place where your body, mind and spirit belong. Many people want to find themselves and return to life, but we never know that we can connect with our body and mind. And in most cases, we are in a state of separation-we are separated from our bodies, minds and spirits. So, what Teacher An An wants to share is-how can we connect our inner self with our body and mind so that we can go home?
Some people may be confused, "don't I live in my own body?" We think with our brains, ignoring that the body actually has its own thoughts, emotions and even consciousness. China has a word called heart, which refers to a person's cultivation of temper. Interestingly, since the brain is in charge of behavior and emotion, why use the word "heart"? I think this is the ancient wisdom of China. Doctors who have undergone heart transplantation have found that many patients' original personality preferences and habits will change after heart-changing surgery, such as their favorite food and favorite things to do. There was once a case in which he was not interested in music before, but after the operation, he began to like music very much. Later, the doctor compared the heart of the donor and found that the donor was a musician. Isn't it wonderful? We used to agree that a person's emotional cognition and behavior habits are controlled by the brain, but we didn't expect that there is also a strong consciousness inside. In addition, modern medical research has found that our intestine is the second brain of the human body-the number of neurons in the intestine is second only to that of the brain. Everyone may have this experience. When we are subjected to strong external stimuli, our stomachs will growl. The precision and complexity of the intestinal nervous system are almost as great as that of the cat's brain. It can be said that there is a cat living in our belly. It has its own consciousness and thoughts.
The first step on the way home.
Connect with our bodies.
Our subconscious lives in the body and needs to be connected with our body, that is, connected with the subconscious. When things come, we often just use our brains to think. At this time, our heart, intestines and even different parts of the whole body may have feelings, but they are always ignored by us. Recently, because of the heavy workload, Teacher An An is often busy late. One night, I felt a stomachache, but I was still working. I wanted to take a stomach medicine at first, but it still hurts. I just wanted to watch a funny video to divert my attention and relieve myself. Then I felt less pain for a while. But when I slept in the middle of the night, I was awakened by the pain after sleeping for a while. What should I do? I forgot a very important thing-connecting with my body and paying attention to it, listening to the information my body wants to convey to me, and returning to my body's home. I just follow the instructions of my brain, take medicine and watch funny videos, but I forget that the protagonist is my stomach. At this time, I put all my attention on my stomach and said to it, "Sorry, I didn't pay attention to you just now. I take medicine to suppress your pain and watch funny videos to divert your pain, but now I am willing to listen to you. "
I felt more pain when I started to connect with my stomach. Just like a child who wants to talk to his mother, she ignores him and he is already in tears. At this time, if her mother says to him, "Baby, I'm sorry, mom is willing to listen to you", he will definitely cry because he is very wronged. So, when I connected, my stomach suddenly hurt more, but I didn't say to it, "I don't want to look at you." The more I look at you, the noisier it is! " "I patiently connected with it and said to it," You can tell me what you have to say or what you want to do. I am willing to pay close attention to you, contact you and listen to you. "Slowly, I found that the colic eased, and I obviously felt relaxed, and gave me a very important message-even if I have work to do, I have to eat snacks, and I can't go on like this. Therefore, the first step on the way home is to connect with your body first.
The second step on the way home
Connected with our psychology
When we go up from the subconscious, we reach the level of consciousness, and psychology lives on the level of consciousness. There are our thoughts, emotions and feelings at the level of consciousness, but many times we are not connected with them. When we are wronged, angry and afraid, we find it coming but don't want it. We think it will bring us confusion and discomfort, so we will cut off this emotion and feeling. In contrast, if I don't want the feeling of stomachache, I will take medicine, and if I am afraid of discomfort, I will watch funny videos.
But the less we want to connect it, the more it will haunt us. On the contrary, when we are willing to connect with it, go back to it and stay with it, we will find ourselves caught in a storm circle. Outside, you were blown to pieces (just like when I went back to pick up my stomach, it suddenly hurt more), but further down, we came to the eye of the storm in the middle, and you were in the cloudless clear sky area of Wan Li. Therefore, it is normal to have "I don't like it, I don't want it" at first, but please tell yourself, "This is ok, I can try", and then slowly, you will find that the situation has changed.
In the process of connection, we should learn to create more space psychologically. Satya is a master of family therapy. When she finds visitors struggling or shutting off their feelings, she will ask them two questions in succession. First, she will ask, "How do you feel now?" Then the visitor may say, I feel very painful, uncomfortable, angry, afraid and so on. Then, she will ask the second question, "What do you think when you feel this way?" Teacher An An also wants to ask you now, "What do you think when you feel angry? How do you feel when you are afraid? " The point is not what emotion you are experiencing, but what is your relationship with it when you are experiencing that emotion?
We must have experienced a lot of negative emotions in our lives. Negative emotions are like dark clouds. When a dark cloud floats by, most of the time, we just plunge into it, and then we can't see anything and get stuck in that negative mood. But at this moment, ask yourself the second question, "What if I were the sky and dark clouds floated over?"
When we are willing to connect our thoughts, we may feel uncomfortable at first. What kind of relationship can you maintain with this discomfort? Are we willing to allow these discomforts The more relaxed you are, the more open you are like the sky. When these dark clouds are allowed to exist, you will find that they will float away after a while. But if you are no longer the sky, you are an airplane flying into the turbulence of this cloud, then your swing will be disturbed.
Let go of yourself and make yourself the sky.
When you are willing to let this emotion in and learn to relax and then relax, you are trying to make yourself the sky. You should relax yourself, not tighten yourself If you tighten yourself, you will become an airplane from the sky, sink into the clouds and see nothing. Therefore, we should learn to relax and turn it into a big sky, let the clouds come and go, and let the clouds have room to float away. The meaning of "emptiness" in Buddhism is not that nothing is empty, but that you can be as vast as the sky. When you can relax and open up, you become the sky, allowing all kinds of emotions, thoughts and feelings to come and go, without being bound or persistent. Therefore, when connecting with your heart, you don't need to be afraid or escape. If you feel pain, you can slow down your breathing, let yourself relax, continue to connect and let yourself go. Slowly, you will find that you have become the sky, and you will have enough space to be free.
The third step on the way home
Connect with our spirit.
Spirituality is an abstract and transcendental concept, which is often confused with religion in general cognition. But academically, spirituality is defined as "the state in which individuals achieve harmony in various relationships, including the harmonious relationship with themselves, heaven, God, others, nature and environment. If individuals can achieve balance and harmony in this relationship, they will show a state of mental health, and the meaning of personal life will naturally emerge. China people's "harmony between man and nature, caring for people and loving things" and westerners' "being with God and loving others as yourself" are all related to the existence beyond the individual. Human beings * * * enjoy collective consciousness, which affects not only human beings, but also all living things and everything in the world. Just like we are in a materialistic society, it seems that we only affect ourselves, but in fact we affect others, air quality, polar bears, glaciers and the ozone layer.
Spirituality is the relationship between you and all creatures, heaven and earth. We are integrated with everything in the world, which is a kind of spiritual consciousness. When we are willing to connect others, the earth and the universe with love, it will bring us great strength, because love will flow back to you like a boomerang. Where does love come from? Not only family and friends, but also heaven and earth love you. Every time I walk in the park, the sun shines on me, and I feel very happy. Heaven and earth give us air, sunshine and rain unconditionally. There is so much love between heaven and earth that it nourishes all living things unconditionally. Think about how many people love you and serve you, and you will have a lot of gratitude in your heart.
There will inevitably be obstacles in life, but because you connect more fields, you will gain more energy and you will have the strength to move on. You are with your own body and mind, and you are with all the creatures around you. Love is in this cycle, constantly breeding strength, so that you can return to your physical home, psychological home and spiritual home. At the same time, please bring love back to your home-the place where parents, lovers and children are together, and make it a warm home.