Many times, some people will use the word old children to describe some happier old people. The child's psychology is the simplest. People should be like this when they are old. Simplicity is happiness.
How to have a childlike attitude towards health care for the elderly?
People often say that "the youngest is the youngest", which means that "old people are like children". After careful consideration, this sentence contains philosophy. When people are old, they are not tired of fame and fortune, and their mood becomes as simple as that of children, returning to the state of mind of "teenagers don't know how to worry". This helps to keep your mind young and prolong your life. So, how can we be an "old child"?
Put down your identity and be a small audience.
Life is like a play, and everyone plays a different role on the stage of life after working for decades. Retirement means changing from an actor on the stage to an audience under the stage. We must get out of the original environment and feelings quickly, return to the ordinary completely from the heart, be an ordinary person, do ordinary things, find our place in the audience and be a small audience.
Keep pace with the times and be a good student.
As the saying goes, it is never too old to learn. It is very important for the elderly to enjoy the happy time in their later years, that is, to be open-minded and eager to learn, and to be good pupils. Enterprising, often reading books and newspapers. Using the brain every day in this way can not only broaden people's minds, improve people's intelligence, increase people's spirit, delay people's physical and mental aging, but also keep people's thoughts from falling behind. Modern science and technology provide people with fashionable life enjoyment. It is best for the elderly to learn computers and enjoy fashionable lifestyles such as online reading, chatting and shopping, so that the elderly people will not feel abandoned by the times and live confidently.
Make more friends with children.
Old people often have fun with their children, and they will relive their childhood from their children's demeanor and feel great comfort in their hearts. Many celebrities have practice in this field. Whenever Marx was tired from work, he played games with the children, knelt on the ground and let them ride horses, enjoying the joy of childlike innocence. Lu You, a great poet in the Song Dynasty, is well versed in childlike innocence: "An old man hangs on his seventies, but actually looks like a child", "Laughing at his childlike innocence before flowers, and playing with a group of children", "The ninety-year-old man is still a child, and a towel is everywhere". So he lived to be 85 years old and left over 9000 poems.
The ancients paid attention to "play" in health preservation and thought that "play is one of the basic needs of life ..." As long as the elderly combined play with their personal hobbies, they could become "old children" and "old urchins", happily "play", forget their troubles, find spiritual sustenance from it and get endless fun.
The old man was sick when he was not sick.
Hypochondria is a somatoform disorder characterized by hypochondria. Patients suffer from pain and anxiety because they are expected to worry or think that they have serious physical diseases. They seek help everywhere, such as blind medical treatment for many times. Because of the age characteristics of the elderly, hypochondriacs are mostly elderly people. In order to get rid of hypochondriacs, besides seeking the help of professionals when necessary, hypochondriacs should also make self-psychological adjustment and establish good coping strategies.
1. Cultivate a correct outlook on disease and life, concentrate your energy and spirit on things unrelated to "disease", gradually interrupt the interference of inherent thinking habits, and adjust your psychology.
2. Believe in the doctor's examination, explanation, suggestions and conclusions, and believe that modern medicine has good medical equipment for the diagnosis and differentiation of physical diseases.
3. Learn to think and ask yourself why you always disagree with other people's views on health and disease, and make yourself feel overwhelmed. Excessive anxiety and severe hypochondria are a mental illness.
4. Patients with hypochondriacs or hypochondriacs should read less medical books and reduce "sitting in the right position". At the same time, actively cooperate with the doctor's diagnosis and don't impose your feelings on the doctor.
5. Adjust by self-suggestion. Self-suggestion can be: "my health is actually very good, which has been confirmed by all the test results, and the doctor also said that I am not sick." Now I should firmly believe this. I used to feel pain here and there, uncomfortable here and uncomfortable there, all because I was too sensitive. I won't think about it in the future, and that uncomfortable feeling will disappear. "
Nearly 30% of the elderly are often depressed.
Frequent depression affects the health of the elderly.
The survey data show that 28% of the elderly have obvious psychological problems such as depression and inferiority, which seriously affect their health and quality of life.
Experts pointed out that at present, there are three common mental health symptoms of the elderly: First, after retirement, it is difficult to adapt to the changes in social roles and social contacts, and often look back on the past, feeling sentimental and having a melancholy mentality. After a long time, they will have symptoms such as depression, sadness and dizziness. The second is disharmony with children or lack of communication with others, emotional alienation, inferiority and loneliness, impatience and irritability. The third kind is sensitive, suspicious, hostile to people and not trusting others easily. This phenomenon is easy to appear in women after the age of 60. Therefore, once suffering from mental illness, it is necessary to carry out psychological treatment in time to avoid serious consequences.
Why is the old man so suspicious?
When people reach old age, they often have a series of physiological function decline phenomena, such as blurred vision, poor hearing, poor memory and inconvenient movement. Some elderly people like to ask questions repeatedly when they can't see, hear or remember clearly. If you can't get a satisfactory answer, sometimes you will subjectively assume that others are talking about him behind his back, and even deliberately satirize, satirize, bully, exclude, ignore and frame him. Some elderly people will think that others are calculating him and trying to steal his property, which is very suspicious.
Therefore, some old people often like to stuff things like money and deposits in Tibet, and when they can't remember them clearly, they think they have been stolen when they can't find them later. There are also a few elderly people who often care about the words and deeds of their neighbors, sons, daughters-in-law and daughters-in-law, and even develop suspicion. Light people will become eccentric when they are old, and heavy people will suffer from "senile paranoia" characterized by suspicion.
Mental health should also be supplemented with calcium.
To solve the outstanding mental health problems of the elderly, we must try our best to meet the spiritual needs of the elderly, which requires the joint efforts of society, families and the elderly themselves.
First of all, the society should pay more attention to the psychological problems of the elderly, strengthen the cultural construction of the elderly in the community, enrich the spiritual culture of the elderly, and increase some psychological counseling institutions for the elderly. Secondly, children and younger generations should pay attention to the spiritual support for the elderly. No matter how busy the work is, children should always go home to see, spend more time with the elderly, strengthen communication with the elderly, eliminate their loneliness and troubles, and let the elderly feel the joy of family. In addition, the elderly themselves should correct their mentality, maintain a positive and optimistic attitude towards life, care more about themselves, comfort themselves and try to maintain a psychological balance. At the same time, we should cultivate some hobbies to enrich our lives.
Old people who remarry should learn to forget.
Ms. Wu, who was over 60 years old, died a few years ago. Last year, she was introduced to "Director Wang", a retired cadre of a bureau, and soon got married. But divorced in less than a year. According to Ms. Wu's old friend, the reason is that Ms. Wu always says "Compared with the father of the child ..."
According to media reports, the divorce rate of remarried elderly people reached 60%. One of the reasons is that we can't treat the feelings of chasing our ex-wife correctly.
Most elderly people remarry because they have lost their spouses. Even if these old people remarry, they will inevitably be moved by the scene before them and cherish the memory of their predecessors. Although this is understandable, it is too nostalgic, especially when there is a contradiction with the other party. If you can't restrain the expression of this emotion, it will often escalate the contradiction. If you are not careful, it will lead to the end of the marriage.
Old people should learn to forget and not compare when they remarry. Even the best past has become the past, and mentioning the past will only hurt reality. Old people who remarry should not always compare their families with their wives. People often make different comparisons in different moods and emotional states. We should pay more attention to the advantages of the current wife, and don't compare the shortcomings of the current wife with the advantages of the previous wife, and don't compare the shortcomings of the current family with the happiness of the past family when conflicts arise. Otherwise, it will be very unfavorable to the newly established family. Remarried old people should understand that the past will never come again. For new families, only when both sides try their best to shorten their psychological distance can they create a happy and harmonious atmosphere.
Learn to listen
An old man, playing the erhu in the park, is out of tune. After playing, he smiled and said to me, "Thank you, you can finish listening."
I was startled. In fact, I stood watching the scenery and didn't care about his erhu sound at all.
The old man is very humorous: "I practiced at home, and my grandchildren, wife and son all said it was ugly and kicked me out."
I didn't want to spoil his fun, so I said insincerely, "Yes, I can see that it's" Two Springs Reflecting the Moon ". "
I was ecstatic to see the old man.
It is difficult to be a listener now, and it is even harder for you to get a listener. Living in a busy city, facing the double pressure of life and work, take stock in your mind. How many loyal listeners do you have?
Everyone is busy. Too busy to listen to others, only tired.
There is a young volunteer who likes to be with children in welfare homes. She often buys them some stationery. One day, the volunteer union asked her to go to the nursing home to talk to the elderly, and she readily agreed.
She went at noon and didn't come back until evening. She said she was going crazy. Because for four hours, she has been listening to an old man talking about his "glorious history", his son and daughter-in-law, and which leader of the unit was sorry for him ... She didn't have a chance to interrupt, so she had to sit there and listen, her scalp numb and yawning. But the old man doesn't care at all. He kept talking, talking, talking.
Speaking of sunsets. The old man was contented and exhausted. He said he would take a nap and want to eat a bowl of hot rice porridge at night.
Everyone laughed when they heard it.
The young volunteer received a phone call from the nursing home staff the next day. Said the old man wanted to thank her. After all these years, only she can finish his story.
There is a volunteer named Su Jinmei in Hong Kong. Although she has a disabled leg, she has helped many people. She said that sometimes charity is not about giving money, but about time. It is also a relief and a spiritual charity to use this time to listen to the voices of those who are lonely, trapped and depressed.
Although, in this flashy society, it is really difficult to be a loyal listener.
Conclusion: Make friends with children! Be an open-minded old man. (The article was originally published in Health Care Herald, No.2012.06, by Zhong Bingcai, Yang, Song Yun and Liu Sha, and the copyright belongs to the author; The purpose of reprinting is to convey more information, which does not mean agreeing with its views and being responsible for its authenticity. Please contact us as soon as possible, and we will delete the content as soon as possible.