The relationship between men and women must meet these five levels in order to be happy:
The first layer: love, sex, identity-lover relationship.
The second layer: respect, understanding, consideration and tolerance-soul mates.
The third layer: household financial management
The fourth floor: take care of children
Fifth floor: filial piety to parents? ?
Let's look at the first half of my life. What went wrong with people?
The first layer: love, sex, identity-lover relationship? ?
This is the most basic layer, with these three, it is called lover relationship. He Han and Tang Jing have been in an unequal position for ten years. He Han once said, "Speaking of it, she is my student and I am her teacher." "She is more like one of my works. My most proud work is Tang Jing. "
Tang Jing also said, "In the past ten years, I am always ready to have a better person to replace me." Tang Jing and He Han are together, and both of them are very nervous. A nervous self is about to lose control of her, and a nervous self is not qualified to be with him. Both of them are in love between teachers and students, so even if there is love, respect and understanding from the upper level, consideration and tolerance, ten years of love will still be broken at the touch of a button.
Similarly, Lao Jin and Luo Zijun couldn't fight from the beginning. Lao Jin thinks that Luo Zijun used to be rich, beautiful and temperamental. He likes this Luo Zijun, but at the same time he deeply feels that he is not worthy of her. So, even if he is honest, kind and reliable. Without equal sense of qualification, how can there be a relationship between couples?
The second layer: respect, understanding, consideration and tolerance-soul mates.
Chen and Luo Zijun, it is at this level that something went wrong. From a man's point of view, Chen is very good. As the pillar of the family, he works hard in the office every day, raising his wife and children, watching the children look at the house and the car, and taking care of Luo Zijun's beautiful family. However, has Luo Zijun ever been considerate of him? Losing money, suspecting having an affair with all kinds of beautiful women ... So Lingling took a box of stomach medicine for Chen.
The following two floors are what boyfriends and girlfriends should look like.
The third layer: household financial management
The fourth floor: take care of children
The fifth layer: filial piety to parents
With the next two floors, we began to enter the upper three floors, that is, who is in charge of the housework, who takes care of the children, and who is filial to the parents.
Bai Guang and Luo Ziqun made a mess of the three floors. White light and Luo Ziqun really match, white light slag, Luo Ziqun has no bottom line. Two people know each other very well, but this understanding is not used for understanding and tolerance, but for quarreling and kneeling.
These two people are entangled in doing housework, taking care of children and making money, pushing from one thing to another. When white light doesn't work, Luo Ziqun can't help it. He held his younger brother in one hand and worked in the other to support the idle people at home. In desperation, I fought and quarreled with Bai Guang, ran away from home, borrowed money from my brother-in-law and asked my mother for help. Luo Ziqun and white light without boundaries and bottom lines can only be entangled if they do not change. ?
In addition, if we put these three floors together, we also want to let everyone see if they are "good wives in China" and "good husbands in China". Some time ago, blind date corners appeared in many places in Beijing, and the chips were cars, tickets and houses. In the major TV dating programs, when it comes to the criteria for choosing a partner, they all say "filial piety and virtuous ..."
Therefore, only the top three people are called breadwinners, and only the bottom two people are called health-preserving people, that is, lovers.
There are all five floors, and the marriage will be very happy.
So, is the changed Luo Zijun more suitable for He Han than Tang Jing?