Language is like a rainbow after rain, beautiful and warm.
Cai Kangyong said that everything is related to whether you can speak or not. Do you have the ability to imagine? What is the mood of the person who listens to you and what he wants to hear.
Speaking is a very important thing, and one sentence may change a person's direction at a time.
"It's hard to read."
Being stabbed by language will hurt for a long time, probably because of the particularity of language. Sometimes you may not find it yourself, but the words will be exhausted when you say them from your mouth.
So be sure to think it over.
The whole class was present at the class reunion.
Suddenly a passerby said to the former class flower, "Hey, you are not as beautiful as before."
All eyes gathered in an instant, and everyone looked at Banhua together.
I can see that Banhua's face is full of embarrassment. Because of my education, I had to reply "Yes, yes, I am old."
A clever boy stood up and said, "No, the class flower is still beautiful."
Passerby A is still determined. "It looks good now, I mean not as good as before."
Being given a white look by everyone, Ban Hua lost her smiling face.
Then a passerby asked a classmate in the class who had not studied well before, "What are you doing now?" I remember you were poor at school, but you didn't get ahead, did you? Ha ha ha. "
The environment dropped to freezing point, and it was obvious that the classmate's face was going to die.
The students around him took passerby A by the arm and suggested that he stop.
Passerby a is still chattering, saying what he thinks is nothing.
"Wen Zi, how have you been recently? You have gained weight recently. "
"Xiaomei, you haven't maintained enough recently? Ha ha ha. "
A good class reunion is ruined by a person who can't talk, because a passerby who can't talk stands on the opposite side of everyone.
There won't be him at the next party because he offended everyone and only used a few words.
Passerby A thought he just explained the objective facts in a humorous tone, but I didn't expect his words to hurt people from the moment they were said.
This is self-centered, too self-centered.
What you say depends on your own feelings and understanding, without thinking through your brain, and you don't care about the feelings and pains of others.
"People who can talk"
A kind word warms three winters, and people who can talk can always give people a step down at any embarrassing moment.
Xiao S once said, "Chatting with Brother Kang Geyong will never be stabbed, but you will be elated by his praise or two, and you will feel sincere and flashy, which makes it hard not to love."
People who can talk are like this. Everyone wants to chat with you. If you make good friends because you can talk, it will make people very happy. Why not?
At the same party, Xiao Jiao is a talking person.
A girl accidentally fell to the ground and the scene was very embarrassing. Everyone doesn't know what to say, for fear of hurting the girl's self-esteem.
Xiao Jue stretched out his hand to help her, saying, "The princess is too careless. Aren't glass shoes enough? "
Everyone laughed, which relieved the girl's embarrassment and enlivened the atmosphere.
"A compliment."
Everyone likes to be praised, whether voluntarily or not, but it is always right to praise others.
Being in the vat of society, you will always meet all kinds of people. But if you reach out and don't smile, saying more compliments will add a lot of color to you.
One day, Xiaojue met Ban Hua. He said, "Wow, the banhua is beautiful again recently." Xiaoxi really didn't lie to me, saying that you look much better recently. "
Benhua smiled and the two exchanged a few commonplaces.
Later, a passerby asked Xiao Jue, "Did Xiao Xi really say that?"
Xiao Jue said, "I don't know, but who cares if Xiao Xi ever said it?" Even if they talk about it when they meet in the future, Xiaoxi is a smart man. He will continue my words. "
I didn't mean to make up such a compliment. If I really heard such a compliment, I would give it to her even if it was not the person in front of me.
Because it will make everyone happy together, which is great, isn't it? It's much better and more credible than some empty compliments I thought of temporarily.
Conveying the same meaning, maybe giving compliments to others will make your relationship better. More meaningful.
"Speak well."
Speaking well is not only related to your own image, but also to your own image in the hearts of others.
Xiao S said: "There is a fine line between being yourself and being rude. I am a straightforward person, not an excuse for you to offend others. "
No matter who you say to, you should think carefully. It is necessary to observe the words and deeds.
No matter how good your friend is, he will not accept that you offend him again and again.
The so-called disaster comes from the mouth, and words are very sharp blades. We must make good use of them.
Please speak well anyway. This is the self-discipline of adults and the basic quality.